Are you loyal during the talking stage?

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Personally I am, I don’t talk to more than one person at once and if I find out the other person is , it’s an instant turn off. Even though technically I know they’re not doing anything wrong, I just don’t like it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well, loyalty and talking aren't connected. That would be like suggesting someone can cheat on a girlfriend by enjoying a burieto (though I guess you mean something else really, I'll cover that at the end). I talk to all sorts of people, all the time, at work and a good half of those are girls (and some of them are pretty) also my girlfriend sometimes runs into guys she used to date and I'm fine for her to shoot the breeze (that is, its all about intentions and actions toward, not talking). I do expect any partner to disclose if they have been talking to someone they fancied, or someone whom they have been romantic with before when dating. Though it doesn't need to be to clarify the nature of the interaction, just to honestly reflect the whys and their thoughts.

That all said, if I read a different understanding into that enquiry (eg. presume its just maybe not clearly expressed), if you mean that when I'm dating one girl, I won't chat up another girl I fancy (meaning an intent to flatter and flirt with a clear intention to woo) then yes, I certainly won't, I'm loyal from the time I feel like I've fallen for a particular girl (and she's expressed the same in response, or maybe her friends have told me that she's crazy about me).

I don't and won't limit partners in whom they talk to, thats tyranical. I just reasonably request they don't do stuff behind my back (regarding romance) and that they tell me if they ever are having second thoughts (even when where dating). I feel its important to understand a partner without making them feel they can't express some thoughts, after all its reasonable for anyone to be attracted to another person, but the reason we would be together as a couple would be because she would come back to me and, whilst she might confess someone else turned her on or charmed her, she would be flattered, mention her boyfriend and hurry to me to be reminded why she stays.

Though of course that's an ideal. I'm realistic, sometimes things don't work and if someone i'm in a relationship is unhappy to the point where their seeing romance everywhere as a result. Then I'd certainly hope they would talk to me and let me know that and we could discuss if maybe that means we need to split up (or maybe its something we need to work on to fix, meaning work on us as a couple). I'd not pre-empt the outcome but explore it with her.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

I think loyalty is important. Though there comes a point where someone is exclusive or not. So I just think it depends on the person. I think talking to too many people can start to cause problems but I’m not someone who sleeps around a lot either. Some do it because they want to have a lot of sex.

That’s the thing about dating is to see who you’re compatible with. So someone may not be doing anything wrong, and for someone else it may be totally fine. You may start to loose interest and move on from those people who are talking to more then one person at a time.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I can only deal with one person at a time at any stage so I would say I'm pretty loyal.

Sonorous · Answer

Yeah it would defeat the purpose of the stage if I were to speak to many people in a similar way. It wouldn't hold meaning anymore.

JHAYES317 · Answer

No. Until we are exclusive…I’d date multiple women. Otherwise what’s the point of becoming boyfriend/girlfriend in the first place it just becomes a name at that point…

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Lately for me. Every talking stage lasts for at most a couple of days and then I cut it off.

shortster · Answer

Loyal? When you barely know them and you probably haven't met in person?

LiamJHayden · Answer

I am loyal after I ask her to be in a committed relationship and she agrees.

NathanDavis · Answer

define the "talking stage"

NewUser22 · Answer

Can you follow me back @strawberrybaby3

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