Why don't I feel anything when kissing?

[Anonymous]

Is this normal? I'm not sure. For context: I've had two boyfriends. One I loved, one I didn't. One I made the moves for, the other made moves himself. With both of them, I didn't really feel anything.
Any advice? 🤷‍♀️

[PeachyPie93]

No idea other than maybe they aren't good at kissing.
I kissed 3 people. First was my ugly ass friend who liked me, we would make out every time we hangout it felt super good and I enjoyed it with him, it was like we were perfectly in sync with each other.
Second was my first boyfriend he was very dominant and it always felt like he was attacking my tongue. Even when I tried to teach him it was still horrible.
Third he was really dominant too but his kisses were better but it still never felt amazing like the first guy lol.

[Asker]

Maybe? I guess I don't really know what it's supposed to feel like if they're good at it. If it was up to personal technique I would be relieved, because then I'd know the problem wasn't me 😶

[PeachyPie93]

I'm not really sure what it is supposed to feel like but you usually have like a feeling that is kind of like being lightheaded and then it is soft and sensual. If you do it for a long time it could make you horny lol. Other than that it does pretty much just feel like lips on lips if you aren't into it lol.

[Asker]

I guess I'm just not into it 🤷‍♀️ maybe at some point I'll meet a guy and feel that attraction that everyone talks about. That would be fun

[Anonymous]

The meth is lying to you.

[Asker]

Giving you the MHO because this nonsense made me laugh

[NathanDavis]

nothing at all... physically, mentally, emotionally... as in NOTHING at all?

or do you mean to say that you didn't feel anything special, or nothing that intense out of it?

[Asker]

I feel lips against me.
Then their tongue.
Then their hands.
It's not weird, uncomfortable, or passionate. It feels as intimate as a handshake. Apparently you're supposed to feel pleasure?

[NathanDavis]

well, it goes different for everyone... and not all kisses are the same, but generally speaking... there's some leve of excitement, yes... there's some pleasure out of it, yes... and there could be some level of desire or arousal going on, yes

there could be a build up to a few of these things... or it could be a bad one, and just go downwards and with not so good at all sensations

but yours seem more like a neutral reaction to the whole thing... that is unusual to me, actually... a neutral sensation for me is when I kiss someone I just met but on the cheek and really quick, as a greeting

[SixFootSexy]

If you don't feel the tingles in your nether regions, you're probably not very attracted to them. They don't *do it* for you. Either that or you may be asexual in some way.

[Asker]

I am definitely asexual in some way lol. But yeah, I think you're right about that

[SixFootSexy]

Some people are asexual, but they masturbate as much or more than a "normal person" they just can't get over their disgust of physical intimacy. Which makes you wonder, are you asexual or just a germaphobe?

[Asker]

Haha nah nah I've never been sex-repulsed. Sex intrigued, if anything, I just don't really feel the same amount of desire everyone else seems to. Kissing isn't weird to me, I just don't feel anything. I only really do it for the guy's benefit.

[SixFootSexy]

Oh well in that case, you probably just need to find the right person. When I first started kissing, I felt the same thing... Nothing. Then I met someone I really connected with (more than just physical attraction) and it was electric. Now it didn't work out, for other reasons, but now I know what a good kiss feels like and it's not supposed to feel like a chore. =)

[Asker]

I've got something to look forward to then haha, thanks for the advice 😄

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Lack of physical attraction to them?

The beat kiss of my life was with a guy I dated 1 year ago. He was a sexy beast. I was hella attracted to him and he was too, we couldn’t get enough of each other’s lips.

I felt so alive when I was kissing him.

That’s what I aspire to feel these days when dating a guy.

[Berethor]

You aromantic? it odd because usually girls want kisses more, while guys want sex more.

[Sugar100]

Yes I like kissing , not sure if guys also love kissing like girls

[Asker]

Nah, I definitely want a relationship, and feel romantic attraction towards people. I thought I was asexual for a while but I do have sexual desire, as it turns out. So I don't know what's up with me

[Berethor]

Well that's strange, so you are not asexual or aromantic yet you not enjoy kissing.

[Asker]

Yeah, it's making me a little put off from sex 💀 if I feel nothing while kissing, I'm probably not gonna have a reaction to the actual deed

[Berethor]

Yea probably, as most women are not able to orgasm from pantraition alone, that sad.

[KrisKris81]

Have you tried kissing a woman? I, honestly, kissed a guy when I was in middle school and I experienced a strong repulsive feeling, like trying to force the same poles of two magnets together. I have not always felt pleasure when kissing a woman (sometimes it feels like I'm just going through the motions), but I know it is just that.

[Anonymous]

Don't feel bad. I feel that way too with my boyfriend. I love him and enjoy cuddling but I hate when we kiss because I don't feel anything either.

[Asker]

Glad I'm not alone then 😅

[Lynx122]

I felt good while kissing but it wasn't mindblowing for me. Maybe you're expecting too much. It's more something you do alongside everything else, it's like a side dish, at least for me :)

[Sevenpointfive]

are you getting attached because that's what society suggests? maybe figure out who you want?

[Asker]

I'm not really sure what you mean lol

[Sevenpointfive]

you said you loved one boyfriend but felt nothing for both. clear that up?

[Asker]

Yeah, I didn't have any pleasure or sensation that came from kissing either. I date because I want to have a partner, with butterflies and romantic gestures and all that. That's what I seek from a relationship but I don't get it when kissing. It just doesn't feel like anything

[Sevenpointfive]

it doesn't sound like you're ready for a relationship. you're close, but it's too soon

[jahaims]

You aren't as emotionally connected as you think you are

[Asker]

I've heard of people kissing after a date and feeling that way. I don't see how they're more emotionally connected than me and my partner, who were together for 2 years 🧍‍♀️

[docyoks]

dance tongues, stop anxiety and pretend that you’re sucking out his soul

[TabooDaddy555]

not the right person , not enough passion , could be a few things

[laly520]

or maybe they werent good kissers