I chatted with our new neighbor once at his place for 2 hours and it turned out that he was intellectually gifted and went to college at the age of 16. After I went home he texted me that he was fascinated by me and that he missed me already. I feel really weirded out by this since I didn’t tell him anything interesting about me and I’m average in all aspects. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t want to hook up with me but I’m pretty sure that he craves companionship and comfort after his failed marriage with a woman who also happened to be gifted. He told me that two “alphas“ in a relationship were too much and that he just wants a partner he can relax around and enjoy life with. Does it mean he is looking for someone that is not as intelligent as he is? And is that the reason he love bombed me early on? I just don’t understand why someone who is ambitious and successful in his professional life would act so desperate in his dating life that he would settle for any woman that is nice to him. Is that normal for intelligent men? Do they just want a woman that makes him feel superior and gives him comfort?
Being compatible is kinda tricky. It can be very hard to date someone with lower intelligence as their understanding of the world will differ. If your intelligence level differs, at least you have to find some common ground. It's hard for intelligent people as most don't wanna date them or misunderstand them as arrogant. A lot of intelligent guys are nerdy, bookish, shy, and spend a lot of time reading. That can turn off girls who aren't into them.
Richard Feynmann was a Nobel laureate physicist, his wife left him as he used to spend hours on research.
I liked a girl back in university. She was nowhere on the same intelligent as me but I liked her singing. She wasn't comfortable in public singing, but I helped her with that so much, I helped her with a conference presentation on her subject where she got the first prize. She told me that even though she liked me she didn't want to be seen with someone as nerdy as me in public and I didn't have cars, money, or dress like other cool dudes and she may consider dating me only later in life. Most of my interactions with girls are like this so far... you would be surprised to find out that women aren't generally nice with intelligent men. So if someone behaves nicer, we wonder why!!!
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I'm not successful as an adult, but I got the highest grades in my class throughout primary school. Don't know what that counts for. But I consider myself okay intelligent. And I have never really been super into very intellectual women. I tend to have a weakness for bimbo-like women and women like that chick in Breakfast at Tiffany's. I have been in relationships, though, where I felt like, boy, we have nothing much to talk about, because our interests just don't align at all, I like the highbrow stuff and you like the lowbrow stuff.
I think smart people grew up in smart families and maybe they are kind of sick of smart people. So people who are more normal and maybe more emotionally stable or just less. . . boring appeal to them.
Relationship is not always about similarities but sometimes dissimilarities feels attractive to us as it gives us a different perspective of seeing same thing which we find interesting because we couldn't see it like this. It's not like compromising, or settling for less but it is fun. It adds up spices into relationship. Being inteligent isn't always helpful in every aspect of life. It has their limitations too. For example generally inteligent people find it very difficult to make friends because they see relationship on the ground of logic etc so for them it feels great to see the person who are very social and able to maintain a good social group. So it's like being complimentary to eachother in relationship if they are of different levels of person.
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intelligent men look for your heart at the same time. And you are a good girl and have good habits he can like you
they can. sounds like he learned from his past experiences.
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