How do I cut him off?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been casually dating this guy for about 2 months now. & at first I liked him but as time went on there was a lot of behaviours and red flags that I’ve seen that made me stop liking him. We speak on Facetime everyday so his now gotten use the routine now & calls me about 3 times a day. His booked a flight to come see me in 3 weeks. But i’m so off him at this moment & don’t know how to cut him off in the nicest way possible.

[Oliverlogan263]

Sis, I feel you - ending things is never fun. But dragging it out won't help either of you. Here's what I'd do:

Schedule a quick phone or video call with him so you can talk face-to-face. Express that you've enjoyed getting to know him but have realized your connection isn't quite what you thought. Be honest (but kind!) about your concerns over the red flags you've noticed.

Reassure him it's no one's fault, these things happen sometimes in dating. But emphasize you don't want to waste his time or lead him on if your feelings have changed.

Gently let him know you're cancelling his visit and need space to move on. Offer to return any gifts if you want a clean break.

Limit contact for awhile afterwards if needed. Block him if he doesn't respect your wishes to end things cleanly.

It may be awkward, but rip the bandaid off fast. You both deserve the chance to find better matches. Focus on taking care of yourself - you've got this sis!

[slatyb]

How? Just say "With, it's not working for me. Best wishes." Then block him. You have no obligation to respond to future messages, and you should not.

[spartan55]

Why did you let him book a flight when you want to dump him?

[Asker]

He booked it on his own I didn’t tell him to. & my feelings didn’t change until a few weeks after he booked it

[spartan55]

Not cool.

[Asker]

lol what are u saying? how is any of this my fault

[spartan55]

Of course not.

[RedInnocent69]

Stop.