Been seeing someone, what do you guys do in this situation?

[Anonymous]

Been on a few dates with this girl, things have been going good besides weird text issues ( Literal failed message and tech issues...(weve compared phones). Weve been on a few dates and the last i saw her i asked if she wanted to hangout Wednesday (tonight). She said yes but after 7pm. We also talked about calling instead of texting hence the text issues.

So the thing is, is that I haven't heard from her yet. Do i call her and ask if she still wanted to hang or... do i assume she knows that since she said yes about hanging out I should wait to see if she hits me up?

Updates

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The text issues were discovered after some confusion on both our parts lol... damn phone company smh

[SallyTho87]

Dont chase her. She knows she verbally confirmed a meet up with you at 7pm, and if she doesn't respect you giving your time to meet up with her, I would not bother to continue pursuing the relationship.

Sometimes us humans forget, things come up, etc. You CAN absolutely give her the benefit of the doubt, but for her to not even bother to call, inform you, or provide any answers or confirmation if she will show up, is not only impolite, but disrespectful.

I hope she does show up, and if not, I hope you get answers from her as to why.
Sometimes women will use "technical issues" as a way to dismiss their disinterest in not wanting to text back, or communicate with you. Sometimes people will use you for entertainment purposes, someone to hangout with, spend time with, partner up with, but in reality they have no feelings and things like date plans never happen, or work out due to "schedule not aligning, being too busy, forgetting, etc"

Be mindful, and please notice how she approaches this. I hope she DOES SHOW!

[Asker]

She did not. I haven't heard from her either and i haven't said anything to her. Not sure if she's texted back either since there's possible errors going on still but i told her to call me instead. I dont get it smh. I really thought we had a good thing going smh...

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey man, that tech stuff can definitely throw a wrench in things! Since you've had some glitches texting, I'd say give her a call tonight around 7 or a little after just to confirm plans.

Something simple like "Hey Jess, it's Kyle. Just calling to make sure we're still on for tonight?" That way you're checking in but also giving her an easy out if she can't make it for some reason.

No need to overanalyze it - could be she's just waiting for you to reach out since texts haven't been reliable. And you can troubleshoot the connection issues while you chat too.

If she doesn't pick up, maybe shoot her a text just saying "Giving you a ring around 7, hope to see you tonight!" Then ball's in her court.

But I wouldn't stress too much either way. Tech fails happen. Just communication clears it up. You guys seemed to be vibing so far, so I'm sure all's good. Let me know how it goes tonight man!

[Asker]

I gave her a call, Got no answer. haven't heard from her since. After 3 good dates and both of us expressing interest in one another... crickets. I haven't messaged her since and I don't know if she's messaged me or not considering the tech issues that have been occuring. I told her to call me instead when it happened the second time, but here i am and haven't heard a peep. smh

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang dude that really sucks.. nothing worse than getting ghosted after things seemed to be going good. I'd say at this point you pretty much have your answer - if she was really feeling you, she would have found a way to get in touch even with the tech issues.

Some girls just don't have the balls to be real with you I guess. Sometimes they'll lose interest for no good reason and just dip without an explanation. Probably best not to even hit her up again asking what's up - that'll just come off needy.

I'd say play it cool, like you're not even trippin about it. Act like you're moving on to other options too so she doesn't think she's got you waiting around. And definitely don't invest any more time or mental energy tryna figure out what happened. Plenty more fish and all that..

It is what it is at this point. Sucks it didn't work out but at least you found out now before getting even more attached, you feel me? Keep your head up G, her loss! Now go find someone who treats you right and won't play games.

[Asker]

Forsure, although i did see her again and it was definitely an interesting situation.

I went to a friends sons bday party and she showed up (after I had asked her to get a drink for that day and she said she didn't plan on leaving her place) I played it cool, we talked a little throughout the evening while we were there and at one point put her arm on my shoulder, and took my hand for a second then stopped. So confusing lmao

She Text me later that night after she got home, asked my if i was having a good time and told me it was super nice to see me. We chatted a bit the next day too not much and it was light and fun.

I asked her out again the following weekend but she was going to a concert out of town. I told her to have a good time and be safe.

Guess my thing is... I've asked her out twice now and there never was a " im free next weekend, or any attempts on her part to invite me out anywhere or reschedule. I dont know what to think man.

She never messages me either. I feel like im the only one putting in effort here.

I thought about asking how the concert went but if she's not interested then i dont wanna come off weird, what do you think?

[Asker]

Nvm the part about never messages me. Thats not true i meant to delete that lol. More like she doesn't message me much at all during the week.