Why my ex wants live with his mom forever & no girlfriend/ wife? Is he cheating or married secretly?

[Sugar100]

this one guy I dated , he was 32 & denied live with me , had no plans live with me& he lived with his mom.

It was weird as he had said he owns the living room & bedroom & his mom is never home just has her own room & kitchen.

I dumped this guy as he never wanted meet my family, spend holidays with me, not even take pics with me , don’t want baby,& I was basically single. We just went on dates that’s it.

do all guys want live alone forveer or live with his mom forever instead of a girl?

one new guy I’m talking to he is buying a house , but I don't know if he’ll be my serious boyfriend and want me live with one one day. Or he’ll be same as ex want live alone forever single?

was my ex a cheater? Or married & somehow able to see me? He did tell me after a long time his ex still visits his moms house and sees his mom & sister and she’s apart of the family. 🙁

[SallyTho87]

Sounds like he's one of those "mommas boys" who values the incredibly, uncomfortably close relationship with his mother, over wanting to grow apart from his mother, and build his own life with his girlfriend. His mother gives him everything he needs ; emotional support, love, maybe financial support too, etc. So in HIS mind, she is the most important woman in his life.

Unfortunately men who are raised like this really struggle with individuality and independence. His mother won't be around forever, and once she is no longer around, he will realize the hard truth that he has spent much of his life being taken care OF by his mother, while neglecting to persue any type of relationship, build a relationship, or even focus on HIS wants.

I don't think he is a cheater, as opposed to overly attached to his mother to the point SHE is his main person in his life, and she treats him like HE is the most important man in her life. It's a psychological form of intimacy with mother and son, it's really weird.

If this new guy isn't it, then don't stress. Continue moving forward with your dating experiences, and do not settle until you find a partner, who is willing to prioritize you, build a relationship with you, and be your partner in the relationship effort wise, commitment wise, while also ensuring they are responsible to make choices to get to know your family, visit your parents, etc. :) Dating is about finding our right match! Good luck <3

[Sugar100]

The new guy I’m talking to at the moment is buying a house. So I hope that means he’s not like ex a mommas boy wanting live in his moms house forveer.

I hope he wants be his girlfriend/ wife and live in his house lol

[Sugar100]

U don’t think ex is married and lives with his ex? Or other secret girlfriend? And somehow hides me? Cuz I neebr meet his family, he denied pics with me denied spend holidays with me and my family etc.

[Sugar100]

Or he really lvies with his mom?

[Sugar100]

What u think of the new guy? We aren’t couple yet , and I’ve never met a guys family nor had a real offical boyfriend.

[SallyTho87]

This new guy sounds like he is interested, even with his Ex in the picture. He may still be interested in building a relationship with you and moving forward. Try to connect with him more and keep note of how invested he is, and when you two are chatting if he uses "we" or "us" or "our" that's a clear sign he is looking to have you around in his future!
I hope it works out well for you :)

[Sugar100]

No u misunderstood me I meant ex told me later one day that his ex still comes to his
moms house to visit his mom and sister cuz she’s apart of his family. That’s y I had said is he a cheater and secretly doesn’t live with his mom and lives with a girl? And that’s y he doesn’t want live with me , be my girlfriend etc?

[Sugar100]

The new guy and I are not a couple yet. We r talking we have met 1xbefore but he’s buying a house. No he doesn’t use we , he said I, or I’m, but again I’m giving him a. Chance cuz we aren’t a couple yet, maybe later he’ll start saying this once we a couple officially.

[Sugar100]

Yea I don't know if I’ll be in his future yet. He don’t say we but aagin it’s still new we are just talking by text cuz he’s in another state. but we aren’t offical couple yet so I assume he can only say we until I’m his girlfriend.

[Sugar100]

I’m 26 and never had a boyfriend. Never had a guy live me or want be my real boyfriend and meet my family. But yea I haven’t heard any we from this guy yet but aagin it’s new. He just says I or I’m.

[Alwayreckles93]

Intresting what happend? Did he kust changed out of nowhere like cold turkey?

[Sugar100]

Wdym?