Is he right? am I really that insecure?

[chocneenee]

The guy that I am dating calling it confidence. So he talks about all the women he has dated, he talks about women that have been crazy over him, women that have felt all up on him like he loves talking about all his past women. He tells me I am insecure when I get upset about him commenting on women’s pictures and about him always staring at women.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, no way is that guy's behavior okay or a sign of "confidence"! Talking non-stop about past women and checking out other girls in front of you is disrespectful. Any decent guy knows that makes their partner feel insecure and unappreciated.

There's nothing wrong with you for having normal human reactions to his actions. He's basically waving red flags in your face and then blaming YOU when you notice. Big red flag right there! Don't let him gaslight you into thinking you're the problem.

A truly confident man is secure enough in himself and your relationship that he doesn't feel the need to constantly bring up exes or flirt with others. Seems like this dude's self-esteem issues are showing - talking himself up by putting you down. Healthy relationships are built on mutual trust and respect.

You deserve way better than some player who makes you question your own worth. Don't waste time proving anything to a jerk who won't even treat you with basic decency and boundaries. He's showing you who he is - believe him! You can do so much better than his games.

[AmyHew1tt]

He's gaslighting you. We all know everyone has eyes, but engaging with women's pictures and openly staring at women around him is a breach of trust. I gather he wouldn't be overjoyed if you started doing it yourself. Get out now, before you're too in it to see a way out.

[jahaims]

He is immature and gaslighting you