What could be the reason for his behaviour?

[Anonymous]

We used to talk during last year. After meeting in person he said due to differences in life goals we couldn’t continue to date.

Now everytime we come across each other he literally stares me down with serious face. I wonder why?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is weird behavior from him, sis! My guess is he might still have some lingering feelings for you even after ending things. A few possibilities:

- Regret - Maybe he realized the "life goals" thing wasn't actually a dealbreaker after all. Now he regrets cutting it off and gives you intense stares wishing things were different.

- Possessiveness - Even though you're not together, some part of him still sees you as "his." The intense stares could be a weird way of marking his territory like "she's mine" when you're around.

- Attraction - Plain and simple, he still finds you super hot even if he won't act on it. Staring is like the only way he feels he can check you out now without crossing a line.

- Curiosity - Wonders how you're doing in your love life and if you've moved on. Staring is how he silently gauges if you seem over him or still available.

Hard to say for sure! I'd avoid engaging and keep things casual if you chat. Make it clear you're not getting back together through your polite but distant energy. With any luck he'll stop the creepy staring routine soon. Let me know if he keeps it up, sis - might need to set firmer boundaries then!

[Asker]

Someone said that Maybe when we saw each other in person he didn’t like my look, and now he stares you with a serious face

Do you agree with this analysis lol?

[Oliverlogan263]

Uhhh yeah I could see that being a possibility too luv. Some guys can be pretty shallow when it comes to looks.

Like maybe through texting and talking on the phone, he built up an image in his head of what you looked like. But then when y'all met in person, you didn't match that image exactly. So he was disappointed or something.

And now when he sees you, he's like internally criticizing your appearance with that serious, intense stare. Trying to figure out what it was that turned him off before.

Dudes can be vain like that sometimes, only caring about looks. It'd be a pretty crappy reason to end things, if that's really what it was about.

I'd say don't obsess too much about what his problem is anyway. Easier said than done, I know - but you seem cool and you'll find somebody better who appreciates you for you, inside and out. F that shallow dude!

[Asker]

After breaking things off he viewed once my instagram story even if he wasn’t following me (my page is public). If he was disappointed in my looks it’s weird that he looks me on instagram…

[Oliverlogan263]

You're right, that doesn't really add up if he was disappointed in your looks. If anything, looking at your Instagram story after breaking it off suggests there's still some interest or attraction there on his part.

A few other theories on his staring then:

- Regret/remorse like the other girl said. He realizes now what he lost by breaking it off.

- Showing off/marking his territory. If he finds you attractive, he may stare to let other guys know you're "off limits."

- Trying to make YOU feel awkward. Some dudes get petty when rejected and want to turn the tables.

- Pure curiosity since there was a connection. Maybe he just can't help glancing to see what you're up to now.

Who knows with guys, they're confusing AF sometimes! Don't let it bother you though. You're the prize - make HIM be the one feeling awkward. Just smile and wave if you see him staring again. Keep doing you, you're probably better off without his wishy-washy ass anyway!

[DishLady]

He’s perhaps internally conflicted but also resolved NOOOOT to want you. Guys tend to look at what they want — and if it’s something they’ve told themselves they can’t have? 😠😤😣

[Asker]

Are saying he’s attracted to ne sibce he’s looking at me? I don't know why would he stare at me if he doesn’t want me…