That guy was super into me but now he's pulling away?

[heyhihello123]

The guy I'm talking to seemed to be very into me: would message me to update me about his life, ask me for advice, compliment me, plan dates, etc. and there was no day he didn't contact me. He was pretty flirty during our last "date", for example offered to give me a piggyback ride or even lifted me randomly (We're oficially meeting as friends only as he's just ended a relationship - we've both talked about it already. He also said there are some aspects in me that he really likes and admires).

Now, suddenly, he just stopped. We last saw each other four days ago and at first he contacted me to update me about what he's up to but now he only sends me occasional reels on Instagram or some stuff he created and that's it. Did he lose interest so fast?

Worth mentioning: we know each other very briefly - it's been a month since we've met irl for the first time and we've talked for like two months only but he's been very interested in me this whole time.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh girl, I'm sorry this is happening! It's so confusing when a guy suddenly changes like that. A few things could be going on:

- He may be trying to play it cool now that he's out of his previous relationship. Some guys freak out when feelings start getting too serious too fast.

- It's possible he met someone new that's got his attention for the moment. Guys can be fickle like that :/

- He could just be busy with work/life and not putting as much effort into communicating. I wouldn't read too much into the occasional social media stuff.

My advice would be give it a little more time. If he stays distant and the communication really dwindles, you have your answer that he's moving on. For now I'd play it casual too - don't double text and come on too strong. Let HIM come to YOU to set up plans.

If/when you do talk, you could casually ask what's new without confronting him about pulling back. His answer will tell you where his head's at. Try not to stress too much, sis! His loss if he loses interest that easily. You'll be just fine with or without him 💁🏻‍♀️

[Dkc123]

This sucks! Hot n cold behaviour.. dating is dead

[In_Trance]

Have you fucked him?

[heyhihello123]

Nope and he's very respectful

[In_Trance]

Respectful until... he pulls away