What would be your ideal way you'd like to be approached in the dating scene?

[HawkPerception]

Guys this goes for you too. If you were approached by a girl, what would likely make you really interested in her?

[OfMiceandMen]

1) If we are at a social gathering, then she may take notice of what I am drinking and grab me a fresh one, I would freshen hers afterwards.

2) If we are at a coffee shop (or similar), start with something as cheesy as the weather and then steer the discussion towards things you like to do.

3) If I am walking my dog, and she likes dogs, use that as an in to talk to me. Pets are always a commonality between people.

4) If I'm driving and at a light, give me a little smile and a wave. Maybe catch her at the next light and see if she wants to go out sometime.

5) If I am paddling along the lakeshore, wave and say hi. I've actually had this happen a few times, they were younger women in their early 20's and seem to be more bold that way.

[OfMiceandMen]

Thanks, Hawk🦅😎👍 (I know its a Bald Eagle but that's all they have)

[HawkPerception]

Yeah I'm sad about there being no hawk either 😂

[Avicenna]

An interesting convo and indications of a good personality would definitely be enough to pique my interest.

[DishLady]

Organically, in person at an event is most likely the best way bc you can tell a lot about a person right off the bat -- what's real and what's fake, how confident/insecure they are, how they maintain and comport themselves... Way easier than the whole app disaster people subscribe to nowadays.

[HawkPerception]

Yeah I'm trying to transition more to in person stuff, but I'm also not opposed to the idea of meeting someone from a dating app. I think as long as you get off the app early on, it's just the same as meeting someone organically with an extra step added.

[DishLady]

You said it... early on.

[Alli112]

Just like, light flirting and a polite, chill invitation for whatever (get a drink, go on a date, hang out and talk for a bit, exchange numbers, whatever the vibe is). I want to know that the guy is interested, but have it clear that he isn't pushy or rude. Pushiness is the worst 😓

[Guacamole409]

I doubt you will listen to my advice, but approach her just like you would a burly truck driver.

" Crap, this heat is killing me."

"Boy, this Trump stuff is crazy"

But it's important to look away after your comment.

DO NOT FLIRT! Would you flirt with the truck driver?

Capture her mind, and the goodies might follow.

[HawkPerception]

Ha funny thing is that's usually my approach 😂

[Guacamole409]

Smart move

[Little_Bumblebee]

I have no clue. I don't get approached often, so I cannot really tell from experience.
Also I'm Danish, we're very reserved people who rarely talk to strangers.

But I guess as long as I feel like it's genuine interest in me - and not just a numbers game for the guy, and if I feel comfortable talking with them and not feeling unsafe or otherwise.

[DizzyDesii]

I like to be approached solo. I hate when guys approach me while they are with fam/friends or while I am with fam friends. We should both be alone and in a public setting (grocery store, gas station, movies, mall, sporting event, casino, etc).

[Dongie]

If this pretty, say 57 year old came up andxstarted a conversation. Trivial but we'll spoken. Her attitude and goodlooks would charm my pants off and i would probably puke.

But then I would find my charm as I have nothing to lose so I would be Bondesk.

[zayndan]

I'd like for her to be straight forward about her approach. If she shows her humorous side, kindness and other great qualities during the conversation that would be 👌

[Peridot25]

I much prefer to be left alone. I’m enjoying my solitude.

[HawkPerception]

And how do you portray yourself as someone that wants to be left alone?

[Peridot25]

By not being bothered and having my peace disturbed. If you see me, just walk away and find someone else.

[HawkPerception]

That's not what I was asking. How do you show others through your body language, etc. that you don't want to be approached?

[Peridot25]

Oh my apologies. By facing away from them.

[Peridot25]

Or, if they do approach me and start talking, I’ll give them short answers. Or, if they really start to bug me, I give them attitude.

[HawkPerception]

It does kind of make me sorry for you that you have such a negative perception of men in general, but whatever makes you happy and works for you. I hope you find your happiness 🙏🏼

[Peridot25]

I’ve heard that countless times. I don’t get why people say they’re sorry that I feel that way.

[MicahRaine]

A nice compliment followed by some chatting about our interests and values usually does the trick for me and the people I keep around me :)

[GeminiDiamond]

A confident guy who he knows through some confident perception that I find him attractive, even after I turn him down. He sticks to his gut. No drama.

[strangeatcircleK]

In any way she wants 😂 but specifically talking because signals can sometimes be easy to overlook

[slatyb]

If it's a cultural event, then "Hi, what do you think of [whatever it is]?"