Who should initiate the kiss on a first date?

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Assuming the date is heterosexual

TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't do it on a first date. That's still early days. But when it came to the moment, I'd feel confident initiating and here's why: Guys are often scared of getting in trouble by reading it wrong. They might think all the cues are there, and then, Whoops, nope!

But if I give clear signals (stepping in close, looking at his mouth, tracing his face with my fingers, leaning in and nuzzling, moving my lips closer and closer, etc.) Once I've initiated, it's an obvious green light for him. There's enough cues I can read with a guy to decide if he's ready or not. I'm not a pro, just very observant, LOL. :D

KittygosMeoWW · Accepted Answer

The guy if I don’t like him as much and me if I like him a lot

DishLady · Answer

The guy… and the girl should note the moment and be helpful by leaning into it which indicates she wants the kiss to happen also.

Avicenna · Answer

Either one. But most women will give the guy a look that says she wants him to.

Big-Joe · Answer

Because it eliminates the chance of the guy creating a situation where he has made unwanted advances which under the right circumstance could get him in trouble. Besides things are always more fun if the girl is the aggressor cuz if you've allowed her to step up and be the aggressor she'll be more into it and your reward is almost always far better than just a silly little kiss. The catch is you have to know how to give her the little hints that tell her she has the freedom to get aggressive with you. 99% of all women will gladly step up and take on that role if she knows you want her to. They enjoy being in command it turns on all their switches because to them it says you have the self confidence to let them take control without it making you feel like a wuss.

HawkPerception · Answer

There are no rules as to who or when these kinds of things should happen.  The key is to just go with the flow and do whatever you feel comfortble doing while respecting the other person's boundaries.

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Answer

Doesn't matter really. Whoever is feeling it in the moment should just try and go for it if things are going well or you could always just ask like my boyfriend did on our first date.

avery58 · Answer

No one? First date is usually to get to know each other, if both people are comfortable kissing or hooking up on the first date then fine but initiating it could send the wrong message... It's a bit risky to do so.

Nikki1989 · Answer

The guy should have the balls to make the move.

exitseven · Answer

I think it is the guy but I have had girls do it first

clampfan101 · Answer

I don’t think there should be any rules or standards for which gender goes first when it comes to anything in a relationship, including which asks the other out and which one proposes. Gender should never create a boundary.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It would probably be more comfortable if the guy did it, but really it should be initiated by whoever has the idea first.

Ladsin2 · Answer

If you’re going to kiss on the first date then it should be the fell.

RingOfFire · Answer

What is this world coming to that this question even needs to be asked? Time to find a new planet and start over!

nawtee_me · Answer

You shouldn’t be kissing on the first date….

Anonymous · Answer

The one that wants it, whether that be the man or the woman.

paledreams · Answer

I wanted to be progressive, so I said woman 👠

dustybiker2 · Answer

Instinct.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Either! This isn't the Victorian Era

LiamJHayden · Answer

I don't kiss on a first date.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I did.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

The taller one

youandi_ · Answer

Doesn't matter.

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