For men it’s your looks = confidence?

[JamieRobinson1994]

I guarantee most men show struggle attracting women have been given the cliche “just be confident bro”, “go to the gym bro” “get a haircut bro” advice which is useful outside of dating advice but I do believe and lived through the experience that your looks is your confidence.. well 70% of it I’ll say and the other 30% is your personality, game, wealth. When you’re a handsome man you’d earn respect a lot easier and get treated with humility not the from women but from everyday people. I’m not implying you need looks alone to succeed in dating but it will be on easy mode if you’re handsome man.

[Nirmroth]

The secret is thinking that you are handsome and attractive, you dont actually have to be.

When I get ready for a night out, clothes are nice and put on a perfume, I feel much more confident bec I genuine think I look good.

Back to the perfume there was even a study that it was not the smell but the confidence of the men who felt better wearing it that was attractive to women (not denying ofc that smelling good = better vs smelling bad)

[JamieRobinson1994]

Great answer! If an unattractive guy behaves that way he’d get seen as delusional. However my concern is I think women can tell when a man puts on the confidence act (jestermaxx) as I did it before and it usually get backed fired.

[Nirmroth]

Whats with this depressiv talk? I saw less attractive guys shine trough their confidence.

If you put on an act it will only hold that long until it crumbles. As I said before you have to believe it for real. What is jestermaxx supposed to mean?

[SueShe]

I believe that men build this artificial construct that looks equals confidence and that is absolutely not true.

It may be seen as such with men whose primary intentions are to fornicate a woman (or perhaps another man) but if you want a serious and long term relationship, then this construct simply does not work.

Of what good is a good looking man if he has a criminal record, if he is an addict or if he is a toxic person? Exactly, that does not help anything and only those simple minded girls that don't think further than the tip of their noses would fall into that trap that looks means confidences. It is simply not true.

Looks may be a secondary benefit in a long term relationship but character and personality are definitely the assets serious women would go for.

[JamieRobinson1994]

Women do judge men by their behaviour but let’s say a women wants to attract women he has to be physically attractive. No anmount will save him and the best he’d get put in the frondzone

[SueShe]

So, do you honestly think that of the 2+ billion couples worldwide, they are all together because of looks?

[JamieRobinson1994]

I didn’t say looks alone, other aspects like personality, wealth, career are important for relationship too. I’m implying that there’s need physical attraction whether you’re looking for short long term.

[SueShe]

short term relationship = fornication only. This is a problem that exists because people are only interested in fornicating and not to be together for a longer period of time. The proof is the high rate of cheating.

Why does one cheat? Mostly because of fornication issues.

[jahaims]

Nope

[JamieRobinson1994]

Reported for poor effort/pointless reply