What do you consider a connection worth pursuing?

Question

You meet someone, feel some sparks and feel a connection with this other person is possible... What signs tell you that this will be a connection worth pursuing?

sawno · Accepted Answer

I get none of the above, literally nothing. And that may be because I experience that sort of stuff a lot different from most people since I have a deeper understanding of how some of that stuff works even if I didn't knew it at the time I last experienced it.

But my last girlfriend I had none of this feeling stuff with at first, I met her online. It was something else entirely, we immediately started off well because we bonded over a common interest/desire and I had caught her eye by reading her like a book. She was also pretty so everything aligned. That opened the door to us talking to each other and spending time. I got along really well with her.

So as we were getting along well the more I began to learn about her the more I liked her, the more we began to trust each other the more she let her energetic guard down. Then suddenly I felt who she really was when she opened that part of her energy up to me, my soul said "OMG ITS YOU!". I still believe she was a former partner of mine in another life, because now she opened that part of herself up it was instant recognition and it made sense why I already liked her so much not knowing it yet. In that moment I fell even deeper.

I don't fully remember when the telepathy between us began but if you are close / well aligned with someone you can experience strong telepathy together. These sparks and stuff you talk about is probably a telepathic connection. I know that because I have unique experiences with telepathy and as a result I know for certain that's real and probably more common than you think. But for the safety of others I won't go into details its a life experience they can discover for themselves.

If there's a soulmate like that who immediately recognizes me and is very open in sharing that connection maybe it will be different for me where I instantly feel this with her. But assuming that she to will take a while to open up, and knowing that feeling can be false I instead pursue her based on who she is both looks wise and personality wise.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

When you have your first disagreement, maybe she will start cursing, throwing things, calling me names, spreading lies about me, file a false police report, or otherwise cause more drama. End of relationship.

Or maybe she says, “Let’s take a few minutes or a few hours to calm down and then we can talk about it.” That is much more likely to be a keeper!

TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

When I read your question, one of my favorite quotes came to mind:

"This is one of the marks of a truly safe person;

They are confrontable..." (Dr. Henry Cloud)

It means a lot to me to be allowed to say what I really think without being immediately dismissed or corrected or critiqued. To be able to disagree with someone, and feel like the disagreement is separate from our friendship and I am not going to be abandoned, that is precious. I've been in groups where saying or asking something other than the accepted narrative could throw my entire character into question. So being valued as a person and an individual, in spite of differences, is very meaningful to me. That gets my attention because it seems very uncommon.

avery58 · Accepted Answer

Tbh I wonder if any relationship is worth pursuing anymore. It's all hypocrisy and fake shit now. I only trust my mother.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

It doesn’t exist. No woman on earth is capable of a modicum of respect. Feminism has won. YAY!

ryanrhino · Answer

It has to be ease of being myself and the other seems to genuinely feel the same.

On my first date with my future wife, our date lasted the WHOLE day and we waited about 45 minutes for our table for dinner and that was one of the fastest and most enjoyable 45 minutes.

VanillaSalt · Answer

I don’t. Consider the state of marriage. It’s not a real commitment anymore it’s a whimsical choice ended without fault. Consider the cost of divorce… everything amazing that comes with a relationship is lost the moment you divorce. So marriage gives you everything and divorce takes it all away after you’ve grown attached to it.

Women’s only value to me now is sex and I don’t really care about it sex anymore. Don’t get me wrong I have women I know in my life that I respect and cherish but that’s different from pursuing a whole new relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

No connection is worth pursuing these days. I love being single and being able to see the world, live comfortably and just take care of myself and be selfish for once. I'm not about to accept no broke ass, toxic losers into my life. Most men these days are good for nothing. I'm about to not take care of no man but myself.

HawkPerception · Answer

I easily fall for a girl that has similar views, interests, sense of humor, direction in life (like how they envision their life 20 years from now), way of thinking, communication style (like when they know exactly what I'm trying to say before I finish and vice-versa), etc.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I would consider meeting a person during an event or activity that you enjoy, to be a good start towards a connection that is worth pursuing. That way you're meeting a person with common interests and right off you know that about the person. Of course there are a lot of other things to take into consideration, but common interests is a good start.

DizzyDesii · Answer

On the same page and same timeline about the things we want in life. We also share similar values, morals, hobbies and interests. And he's cute and only dates with the intentions of longterm (or marrying)

luvstoned4him · Answer

I guess some signs would be where I feel a sense of familiarity or comfort in their presence. Everything just flows and feels easy.

They value my opinions and my feelings etc

Similar beliefs and values help too

exitseven · Answer

You spend a whole afternoon with her and you still don't want it to end

lightbulb27 · Answer

You like being w that person, low friction, high compatible.  Connection… you must be very caref with as it is subconscious familiarity. May ir may not be good.

bobalife · Answer

Tbh I never know. Time tells if it’s worth it even if they seem great & a connection at first. But I try not to fall into “potential” as it’s very common for everyone..

Justneedtokno · Answer

I definitely do. I would love to have a special connection with someone. I would love to have my own person. I want to feel wanted. I want to have that one person that knows me inside and out and me to know them.
I want to feel safe

DrPepper12 · Answer

A connecting flight if the layover is in a red state... 😂🤷🏻‍♂️

Juxtapose · Answer

Some good signs are..

If she makes me feel safe, cared for, understood, desirable, comfortable, etc.

She is wise and patient.

She shows a lot of interest in me.

She is like an angel.

She shares interests.

MicahRaine · Answer

If they strike me as someone who's genuine and has similar values, I'll often pursue a relationship (even if not romantically).

legalboxers · Answer

a mutually connection you feel with someone. Its usually the guy who makes the 1st more, hopefully she is receptive

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I'll see if we enjoy the company of each other and how much things we have in common

Pterodon · Answer

I’m a true romantic. I believe it’s when you first lock eyes and know you’ve found THE ONE

jack1924 · Answer

Sense of humor and flexible personality, not stiff persona

worldscolide · Answer

Lol see my response to your prior question.

Anonymous · Answer

I dont like relationship, never had girlfriend nor planning to have one either, so I dont go out and ask girls out. The only thing I would need from a relationship is sex and Whenever I need sex I just go and find a prostitute.

Strongbeauty444 · Answer

Someone who respects me and cherishes me.

Ironco · Answer

Eye contact  The eyes rarely lie...

Dongie · Answer

None.

NathanDavis · Answer

a mutual one...

eagle1951 · Answer

beats me

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