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On a dating app maybe 2+ months ago, I talked to someone anywhere around 1-3 weeks. Maybe daily or every other day, he eventually suggested meeting up and the weekend he asked, I had to work. When I suggested another time when I was free, he was out of town. He eventually follows up when he’s back asking if we could meet and the times weren’t lining up as I was adjusting to a new job (didn’t tell him that) & he sent the last message asking if I wasn’t a night owl bc he was proposing meeting after work. I never followed up and I don’t know why I self sabotage/chicken out. I’m not romanticizing, I find him attractive & would consider him but I just get antsy yet feel apathy when it comes to (potentially) dating. Should I follow up and see if he’d be open to meeting up or just leave it alone? Tbh if I was him I wouldn’t give me a chance which is why I haven’t reached out recently. Well today I sent him a message & I’m kind of regretting it atm:
Hey.. so I know this is random but I do hate that I went MIA a few months ago. Truthfully at the time I was adjusting to a new job/ was a bit antsy & I really don’t want it to come across as going back to the drawing board because I haven’t met up with anyone since I joined the app this yr. If you’re up for a redo then that’d be superb
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If you aren't going to follow through when a guy suggests a date, then stay off the dating apps. That hurts many guys!
Aww don't be so hard on yourself girl! I don't think reaching out again after a few months makes you come across as desperate at all. Life gets busy sometimes and it sounds like you were just dealing with a job change when you had to flake before. Totally understandable reason to go MIA for a bit. From the message you sent, you were honest about what happened and just seemed open to meeting up again now that things have settled down on your end. I'd say just be yourself if you do meet up - he clearly found you attractive and interesting enough to wanna hang out before, so just relax and have a good time! Any dude worth your time would get that life throws us curveballs sometimes. Fingers crossed he's still interested in reconnecting. But even if not, at least you put yourself out there again which is always better than wondering "what if." You'll find someone who appreciates you, so try not to overthink it too much. You got this girl!
Excellent message. Not desperate, you even said redo. 100%👍