Should I assume this guy isn’t interested in giving me another chance? I sent message Wednesday evening & no reply yet?

[Anonymous]

So on a dating app maybe 2+ months ago, I talked to someone anywhere around 1-3 weeks. Maybe daily or every other day, he eventually suggested meeting up and the weekend he asked, I had to work. When I suggested another time when I was free, he was out of town. He eventually follows up when he’s back asking if we could meet and the times weren’t lining up as I was adjusting to a new job (didn’t tell him that) & he sent the last message asking if I wasn’t a night owl bc he was proposing meeting after work. I never followed up and I don’t know why I self sabotage/chicken out. I’m not romanticizing, I find him attractive & would consider him but I just get antsy yet feel apathy when it comes to (potentially) dating. Should I follow up and see if he’d be open to meeting up or just leave it alone? Tbh if I was him I wouldn’t give me a chance which is why I haven’t reached out recently. Well today I sent him a message & I’m kind of regretting it atm:

Hey.. so I know this is random but I do hate that I went MIA a few months ago. Truthfully at the time I was adjusting to a new job/ was a bit antsy & I really don’t want it to come across as going back to the drawing board because I haven’t met up with anyone since I joined the app this yr. If you’re up for a redo then that’d be superb

You were ghosted

Not ghosted

[ManOnFire]

Very likely that he ghosted, but give it till the weekend and see what happens. You did mess things up for yourself though by not responding to him the last time, and then now sending him this new text. That's not stuff a guy wants to hear. If you had just said "Hey! Sorry for not responding to your text, can we catch up maybe this weekend?" that would've been better. And if he said yes, once you guys get together for another date then you can tell him all that other stuff about what was going on with you and your job.

Take it as a lesson learned and move on.