My date is only into the conversation when it’s flirty and sexual. Should I end it? It's been a month?

[Anonymous]

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I appreciate the established sexual attraction we both have for each other but I want something deeper than the sex

[Summeroflove]

Well I would absolutely because that tells you that this person only is wanting one thing which is sex. This is why I don’t just sleep around because sleeping with people makes me just as bad as they are honestly.

There are people like this and most whores like he is more then likely cannot make genuine connections. They just completely lack that ability because they gave themselves to so many people. Everything’s about sex and what next kink and/or fetish gets their rocks off next.

I think your gut, intuition, and just your logic is saying…. It’s over. Break it off. But a part of you downst want to the devil on your shoulder. If you’re wanting something deeper. Then there are people in your dating life that needs to be eliminated.

You know what you want and are looking for. You probably have a LOT to offer someone so don’t throw it away on someone whose just wanting sex. Because that will be very one sided. You’ll be pouring your heart into him all the while he’s just after sex.

Don’t get me wrong most of these people it’s not if they cheat it’s when. They get bored they feel like they conquered you. But they may keep you around because they want to have a relationship for looks, maybe they want to get married to have a family, financial reasons, etc. Don’t get used. Because that’s what he’s doing now. Using you and you know it.

[VIVANT]

🏅 👍

[Summeroflove]

@VIVANT thanks

[Asker]

Thank you for this!!

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I'm actually following @VIVANT a lot on her take, there is just one little point that bothers me here. So, a question: Are you entirely sure that he is giving only a sexual vibe, are you sure that he isn't getting emotional? It's probably not going to be easy to answer this one, but I think it's an interesting question to port here.

Aside from this question, I'm just gonna second VIVANT and say that you know what you want to get already in any case, that one thing is sure, from your speech.

[VIVANT]

Yeah I agree. I generally don’t say just like absolutely move on let it go !!

I just got the impression it was going on a looooong time no let up.

and I mean OK fair, maybe he ‘expresses emotion’ sexually and it’s nothing sinister going on here, it’s not actually shallow it’s deep but STILL not what she’s comfortable with.

Somebody expressed their feelings for Me through spitting & bearhugs maybe they are not being “shallow” but it’s not what I want 😂 authenticity is really important but so is harmony.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@VIVANT spitting & bearhugs 🤣
Well, yes, evidently, it has to work in a mutual manner, if the girl is giving me a breadcrumb when I want an actual bread, then, in the process I will soon become hungry and dissatisfied. How soon remains to be known, and how negotiation will happen or not to reach a bread as well

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Note I didn't talk about baguettes this time, purposefully lol

[VIVANT]

I don’t think I agree with people saying you should like talk it over with him or see how it goes or thinking about how you feel about it. I think that you already know how you feel about it.

It’s not what you want and talking to him giving him a chance to pretend he’s interested in something else so he can string you along for longer period of time. Isn’t gonna help you out at all. He’s acting the way he’s acting because this is what he wants.

This is the real him without any pretense. Dragging things out letting him pretend he’s something that he’s not is just wasting your own time. I think you really need to let this guy go so make sure that you put yourself in an environment where you’re having the best possibility of obtaining that.

best wishes 💚

[its_amelia_c]

Depends, is that something your also into, or do you need more to be stimulated?


From the sounds of it you do, so it sounds like you are answering your own question. Like it’s a turn off to you.


There is another way to handle it if you are actually interested in them. Talk to them about it. Give them a chance to change their behaviour. If they don’t. See Ya!

[Account]

I would end it, it is a waste of time.

[morganherrel]

That's a red flag if you're looking for a real relationship. It's not acceptable...

I think you ought to confront him on this issue and let him know your expectations.

[BetaBucks]

Find a guy that's less attracted to you. You'll be much happier in the long-run.

[Asker]

What?

[BetaBucks]

If you get into a relationship with a guy that is less attracted to you, the focus will shift away from sex. And you will both be happier for it.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@BetaBucks that's a long shot really, what you're telling is really selective, some people work like that possibly, but asker doesn't show any traits indicating that she works as you pretend lol

[RubyFrench]

no keep it going (if your comfortable with it) but on the occasion make yourself busy and don't feel the need to respond to every single thing straight away. Treat em mean, keep em keen. It works.

[VIVANT]

How does that get him to stop acting like they’re in a porno? he’ll be the same she’ll just see him less

[RubyFrench]

men love being flirty it doesn't mean he see's her any less. She just needs to not be available all the time and not respond occasionally and she'd probably be able to get more out of him. Men work differently to women. Doesn't mean they should be disrespectful but if he's only saying these things to her its not exactly the worst thing. If he's treating her like a booty call then she just needs to step back so he realises she's worth more than that, its all up to how much she likes him but just because a mans full of testosterone doesn't mean you have to snob him, she just has to show him she needs more than that

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

My experience will disagree with you when you report this behaviour to be a man thing only lol. That being said, I see meaning in the strategy, counter-measure you describe, yes

[jazzy34]

He wants to hit it and quit it. Sorry. Nothing more.

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

Can you give an example? How bad is it?

Like if you say something about the War of 1812, does he respond with a comment about your boobs?

[VIVANT]

Good question 👍

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

@VIVANT Thanks. I'm eagerly awaiting more details.

[VIVANT]

I am as well now 😃

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

hahaha, while the example is absurd, it has me curious as well

[rienna888]

Yes he just wants one thing. You will find better

[the29thhuman]

I block or delete and ignore those types cold turkey. No explanation.

[InTheShadow]

Absolutely end this relationship. This guy just want to use you

[CaliGirl1995]

Sounds like he’s only looking for a hook up from the sounds of it.

[Joesmith999]

Yes, end it. That’s a red flag.. he should be interested in more than just sex..

[jeffr13]

Yes. Be with someone that appreciates all facets of you, not just your physical and sexual sides

[RebelinSteel]

Yeah bin him, just end it.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Yea, it is kind of weird.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes. He has made clear what interests him.

[Cheerfull009]

Can you explain, what is deeper than sex?

[Asker]

Emotional side to dating rather than it being another sexually casual relationship with no depth other than my pussy

[Cheerfull009]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

Have you had sex yet?

[MasterKS]

What do you want from him?

[Jmmmfi4]

DOESN'T LOOK GOOD

[paledreams]

Tough call

[jahaims]

Use common sense

[Walksbehindtherows]

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