Has someone else’s racism or hatred ever ruined a potential friendship or relationship with you?

[Yeahbutmr]

I recently had an interaction with a coworker who i thought of as a work pal… he started off really nice and over time I guess his real colors began to show more and more. The more people talk the more their real selves come out i guess. Like he would make negging type comments not just to me but about others or to others. I get that some think oh it’s just teasing. Not everyone wants a teasing relationship. I don’t tease others and don’t want to be put down for my body or face or anything so I don’t do it to others.

I called him on it a few weeks ago or so and he said sorry. That was fine. However the other day we were chatting and I made a comment about monkeys and he immediately slipped out something about race. He didn’t say anything that was like hinting he doesn’t like a certain race. It was him basically associating the term monkeys with a race of people. Now I am mixed (black) and the comment rubbed me wrong. I’m not really into race stuff. I think people are way too proud of race and there’s too much hatred from all sides I don’t believe there’s just one way racism. I’ve heard black people say racist things as well. I don’t agree with any type of racism. But the fact my friend at work said something about race when I was only discussing animals is extremely weird to me. I get that maybe his family could be racist and he grew up hesring such things but still… it still rubs me wrong. To bring up race when I was literally discussing monkeys? Wth

it realy changed my view of him. I can sort of forgive if someone makes fun of my appearance and says sorry. But the racial thing is something else. It hits different. Racism is hatred. Hatred is ugly. Also I’m black. So if he is indeed racist then that means he hates me. Period. And I’ve been around racist people who are two faced at work before so I know racist can be fake nice to your face. It’s nothing new to me. It’s just really ugly.

[SweetPi]

Yes major yes! Every one black or white will say something racist if you mention COVID and the riots!

This time ruined any unity and togetherness we had for all the races. Now it's how can we make up something in history to not offend everyone.

It's a joke! It's white washing to the highest order! Would love it if they decided to change it for Asians but nope it's just the 3 big cultures who get it.

[NamerOfStars]

Yes- but it's far more frequently about sex than about race. My life- and suffering- are not less meaningful or important than yours because of our respective skin colors, which most people can get behind, but they're also not worth less because of our respective chromosomes, and a HELL of a lot of people pay lip service to that idea, but don't actually hold it.

[Agape93]

Nope, one tried though

[Abbycado]

Nope.

[Iron_Man]

Nope