How do I let down a guy who really likes me?

[LostandFound__x]

I’ve been speaking to someone for less than a week now.

We spoke on the phone for the first time and I didn’t like him.

I could tell he was really feeling me though.

How do I go about things now in the best way? 😭

Updates

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Update: I let him know but he’s being persistent and he keeps texting me. I don’t want to be mean and block him.

[ohsheeT]

You have to be completely honest I mean the truth is the best way I don't know how you feel about it but for me


When I really like somebody as a friend or as a girlfriend I have to weigh it out and I have to ask myself okay be honest
do you really like her
yes

how much do you like her.
I like her
a lot

Okay so would you date her
Yes
Are you compatible how long will it last
Well I'm not sure about that one LOL
You just want to date her to have affection and have sex
Yes probably
So wouldn't you rather not do that and be your friend and that friendship would last a hundred times longer than if you were to go out with her and then break up because once you break up you're never getting back not even as friends probably

And that little chat between me and myself and I
LOL
has been one of the best things in the world
just be honest
you have to be honest with him and say look I'd rather just be your friend
because we're not compatible
it's not going to last so let's not even go there
Did you have to tell him hey you need to be 100% honest too I know you like me and I love that but you know down deep with that we're not compatible so you have friendship in one hand that lasts forever or you have girlfriend boyfriend sex in the other hand that's not going to last at all which one are you going to go for

[Friendlybro79]

Just be upfront. Talk to him on the phone and tell him nicely that I want to be transparent and honest and definitely not misleading you. (If he's nice but you're not into him you can say) You're a nice person and because of that I do want to be honest and say that I'm not interested in a relationship with you but I know you will find someone that does.

If he's mean you can just say the same thing minus the nice part followed by, and I'd like to not have any further contact. Thank you.

[Friendlybro79]

Regarding your update. If you haven't already you need to say no thank you and please stop contacting me. I would just block him. There's nothing to feel bad about

[LostandFound__x]

I’m ghosting him now

[Friendlybro79]

He'll get the point eventually

[Friendlybro79]

Thanks for the MHO. Hope all is going well.

[Anonymous]

If you don't like him why did you speak to him on the phone?

[LostandFound__x]

I realised after I spoke to him.

[Opinion Owner]

I call cap

[Nikki1989]

Be honest and direct.

[Finchie40]

The respectful thing to do is just tell him you are sorry but you are interested in someone else but you are a nice guy and you will find someone that likes you the same. I don’t want to mislead you in anyway but I just consider you a friend

[Decoded93]

If you can handle it be direct and honest

If that’s too hard it’s ok to ghost if you need to, we’ve all been ghosted and it sucks for like a day (this is only ok if you just started talking)

You don’t REALLY owe him anything, he isn’t your friend or lover or anyone like that

[LostandFound__x]

I think I’m gonna ghost him

[Decoded93]

Ghost him, I read your update and that’s not right, a man shouldn’t behave that way, block him too if needed

[RavVid]

It only gets worse to delay. Sounds you can't do the friends thing and in any case everybody knows what means. Your penis is never going to meet my vagina.

You could just tell him you don't like him and wouldn't want ever to meet him. That is a bit hurtful.

I think there is case for white lies. Like "I've decided to get back with my ex". It leaves the other's ego intact and no negotiation space. You are suddenly off the market and spoken for.

[LostandFound__x]

Was that part about penis and vagina really necessary lol

[NathanDavis]

you don't really need to tell him that you don't like him

just tell him that you're not feeling it... the situation, and that's all

the vibes and the attraction are just not there, and that's all, lol

[NathanDavis]

just block him... like the pest he is

[LostandFound__x]

I need to stop being too nice to people and afraid of hurting their feelings 😭

[NathanDavis]

prioritize yourself... as simple as that

even moreso when others are not caring about you

you don't owe anything to this guy who you just recently met

[LostandFound__x]

Right! We had one phone call I don’t understand why he’s being so persistent

[NathanDavis]

because you let him be... instead of putting a full stop to it (=

[LostandFound__x]

I’m not going to respond to him anymore

[NathanDavis]

good girl...

[LostandFound__x]

Haha thanks

[Alex-Snow]

Don't string him along. Just let him know that you have enjoyed the convos with him but that you just do not think things will go anywhere. I would not tell him that you do not like him just hint that he is a nice person but not your type.

[Knightwatch27]

I don't know if the selection is so abysmally poor, or if you're being too picky Alyssa. Seems like this is the neverending story.

[LostandFound__x]

Literally both hahaha

[PeterLegg91]

Why didn't you like him?

[LostandFound__x]

Many reasons lol

[PeterLegg91]

Awwwwwww

[RowdyYates]

Wanna know?