Is it normal for me to not get turned on easily and that I am not into dating anymore?

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Cutegirl06 · Accepted Answer

It's definitely tough being 18 20 most guys just want sex. I was am lucky in that I found a good guy who is mature for his age because of bad experiences he went through as a little boy. You are beautiful and are a very nice person who deserves so much more from any guy who dates you. One day the guys who dated you will regret not treating you with the respect you deserve. 💯

KittygosMeoWW · Accepted Answer

I think your frontal lobe is developing, when you hit your mid twenties or earlier you start to feel that way and certain people give you major ick.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes, especially if you been hurt or betrayed by someone that you gave your heart to and they decided to shit on it , so if that’s the case , your heart is still broken and it’s going to be harder for you to trust , it’s going to take time for your heart to be able to trust again and to repair itself. If you choose to do so , Some people just give up all together and say fuck it , and decide they no longer want to try anymore cuz they think what is the point , I tend to get that way when a girl breaks my heart , and having my heart broken a few times now makes it harder for me to give to a girl like I use to before I had my heart broken , The older I get the more I realized I need to focus on myself and not really worry about other people , I would like to fall in love again but I am set in my ways now and for me to be able to give my heart completely to a girl again is going to take some time , she pretty much has a lot of walls to climb that are protecting my heart. I value honesty and respect , so if I am not receiving that from a girl , her chances with me are very slim , I no longer give my heart to a girl right away like I use to , Why I prefer FWB’s with a girl with some strings attached before making the big decision of being fully committed not each other , Most of my exes all turned out to be selfish girls’ that only cared about themselves , especially bagger the infatuation period ran it’s course , FWB’s with some strings attached has eliminated that from happening to me and to her as well. It takes time for people to truly fall in love with each other because most people jump into relationships without looking at the big picture , they are just infatuated with each other , but when push comes to shove usually one of them is left with a broken heart when the other decides they want to keep weighing their options , FWB’s with some strings attached eliminates that from happening because of things don’t work out between you both , you can at least still be friends , without having your heart shit on completely

ohsheeT · Answer

Of course it's just a moment in time
Sometimes when we go to things and we're trying to figure things out we take a break
Because we're growing and we're trying to understand where we're headed or why we are headed that way

It's a check and balance kind of system on who we are and who we want to be it's our choice and we're in timeout we're trying to figure it out..

And as we do that there might become a moment someday where somebody will come into your life and just the way they look at you deep into your eyes are the way they touch your hand are the way they bring you close into their body and hold you or touch your lips with their lips are your neck or whisper something into your ear so very slow and soft you will feel that energy and it will trigger something and you will want that you want to feel that all the time because it makes you feel good beautiful and then thats when you know that last moment has just passed and a new one has startedre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I don't know what the dating demographic looks like for people who are 20 but when I was 20 I was totally indifferent to all men except for one crush I met at 19.

SnowyOwl · Answer

Girl, it's fine. Don't be strict about labels at this point in life, you're still growing (ik you're an adult and all, but a lot happens in your 20s).

Also just because you have a thought doesn't mean you need to create an identity from it. Thoughts are just a reflection of your circumstances. Maybe you're too busy, or people around are not that interesting. It alright! Just focus on your priorities for now. If you wanna make dating a priority, take your time to think about what you want in the longer term. Then you will have more guidance for your choices

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I think it's normal. I start to wonder about people that only think about dating/sex, have it constantly on the brain, and it's like they don't talk/think about anything else... no hobbies or interests unless it's attached to finding partners. They might work, but it seems like they use that money for... can you guess? Anything attached to acquiring more dating/sex. Plus I think "dating" is the most boring mind numbing activity and a waste of time if it's all formal. Call it grabbing some food, or "doing this thing" and my opinion might change on that... if it involves playing dress up and putting on a monkey show... chick needs to go find a simp. That's why I make women pay for that shit if they want to do that.

I can hear the h8ters already for that last sentence, but I don't think a woman feels much different if she's being bugged to go out when she'd rather youtube and look random shit up on internet.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Its not completely abnormal for sure

But it can also be caused by some underlying stress or depression or a bit of trauma

Sometimes we don’t even think we’re depressed but our behavior shifts ever so slightly only to impact our lives before we know it

All this to say: don’t write the situation off as being asexual and say it’s perfectly normal
Try to dig deep to find out why you’re experiencing this and maybe you’ll find yourself turned on again

Trust me it’s an experience worth having

Nik1hil · Answer

Yeah!.

Pretty normal!..

You are at peak of youth and beauty.

So men are throwing themselves at you!..

Hence you have Surplus of mate/men, on in simple economics term you have Abundant supply. Hence, You no long feel the demand of having man in life.

In fact you might be worried if you left your door open by mistake, 5 men will walk in to be your partner.

Too much supply = Reduction in Demand, Since you have achieved demand Satisfaction = Hence you longer feel the need to Consume the Product ( which is men)

Is it normal for me to not get turned on easily and that I am not into dating anymore?

Now, I know you will find this opinion interesting, because what I present to you is factual, logic based.

However, you would hesitate to reply, assuming I might be trying to impress you!

I am not, 😅 You are Just Not my Type!..

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes that's normal. Your probably just tired of the same ole nonsense and you want something to happen on a date that new and exciting. I thought you was taking what happened with you and your boyfriend re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

college-student2021 · Answer

Yes it’s normal if you encounter or let in your life many crappy guys. It happens to guys who go in a string of bad relationships.

Your having a normal reaction. Just have to learn to avoid all the toxic guys out there because they will drain you that’s why they are toxic.

Anonymous · Answer

It is partly your own fault. You might not like what I said but you admitted that you had intercourse in your relationship in the past.

Now you seek a higher purpose in life. It could be you become more involved with increasing your body count or you could find a good man who will wait and have sex with you after your marriage. You are a good person but please listen you are ruining your life if you are letting a man touch you without marriage. You can discuss it with your parents especially your mom and I am 98% sure she will agree with mere-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I don't know but it most likely depends on how unsuccessful it's been I guessre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

JesseP1nk · Answer

Girl, you are only 20. Relax. Focus on yourself and things you wanna do in life. Like the saying goes “Love is like a fart. If you have to force it, it's probably shit.”

Thats the thing you wanna make it work and find someone, so it turn out to be shit.

Anonymous · Answer

This is a problem women have created for all of us. They have made marriage too risky, costly and unrewarding for men, and they have made sex too cheap and easy. They have reset all of the expectations and now they don't like the results. Turns out women can't have their cake and eat it too after all.

There are still some men interested in more than sex, but not nearly as many as in the past, and the reasons for that should be obvious..

WhitneySnow · Answer

That’s normal. You might be ace/aro (asexual/aromantic) right now. But you might also change how you identify when you meet someone you really like again.

Nonamez · Answer

Absolutely it is normal , with time , age and experience things in us are continually changing, same with all turn on off dating eating and so on 🤓re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Seems normal especially in today's dating world.. Plus it is pretty normal once you lose interest in men that the sex drive usually falls too.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I don't think it's strange. Sometimes I'm good, sometimes I can't take my hands off him. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

The conversation you had with @chicofromthe305 breaks down the issue, the reasons and the solution. Nothing more to add, all has been said :)

NathanDavis · Answer

is it normal? yes... that's not so uncommon either... many times, it is about the right mood for some girls

Makeushiver · Answer

I don't know how skilled of lovers you've had but aim pretty sure so know why you aren't getting turned on though I'd prefer to limit my opinions toDM

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It's more normal than I would hope lol All it takes is a few bad experiences before you start to lose interest in even trying

Decoded93 · Answer

Maybe you’re just frustrated with the guys you’ve been meeting and need some time off

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I don't know if it's "normal", but a lot of people have a low sex drive and aren't into dating

Addictedtocoffee · Answer

I believe normal is particular to the Individual in their own situation and time of life. I don't think that you should worry about being particularly turned on by others as much as how you feel about yourself.

LiamJHayden · Answer

It can be normal to take a break from dating, especially if you get a lot of drama or creepy attention..

Levin · Answer

We all go through phases, man. I predict that could change in like two weeks...

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve grown numb as well. I’ll never fully stop trusting in men but it has steadily declined

Babygirl_S · Answer

Maybe you learned to control your feelings or they broke your heart

Wise4myage · Answer

No, maybe you just need a break from dating?

Still-alive · Answer

Yeah its fine. though i suspect it might be a phase for awhile.

Cantosif · Answer

Men don’t give us anything to be turned on by. They’re effeminate these days.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Dating frustration normal. Libido at your age not normal.

Ironco · Answer

Just take a break from the dating seen, it's not a race. Take your time

TallAnon · Answer

Just means you need someone to light a spark in you

Alex-Snow · Answer

There is no normal... what has made it change? Were there some bad dates or guys who were jerks. Was it bad sex?

Shamalien · Answer

I thought you were in a happy relationship?

noohair · Answer

Many medications and medical conditions can cause a change in libido. Depression is a major factor and psych meds can cause issues too. Good luck…

Logan2000 · Answer

Then how come your profile reads "I have a gorgeous and loving boyfriend."?

Benlovegs · Answer

Wow that’s a young age for this to happen. I guess you were with the wrong guys

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, that's just how it is growing upre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Seems very normal to me.

Avicenna · Answer

Not unusual

Anonymous · Answer

Same here, but it's normal in my age.  When I was younger, I was into dating, but I never had a date anyway.

Liz1990 · Answer

Yes plus dating now and days most just wanna hook up.

Kayleigh2005 · Answer

don’t be a cat lady life is fun

Kelly6 · Answer

@coolcatmar1 very normal

silvermoon84 · Answer

It’s more than fine. I’m the same way tbh.

Miristheiss · Answer

Why aren't you married?

Passportbro5999 · Answer

You need to date an older man

QuietRunner · Answer

yes that is a possibility

dsrice071966 · Answer

Yes, I think that can happen.

Cubus · Answer

Maybe you have low sex drive

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Aww, you’re growing up 🥹

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