We didn’t kiss on the second date. Should I still call her?

[Anonymous]

I met this chick on tinder a week ago. We met on the weekend. We went for dinner and I dropped her off at home. We made out before she got out of the car.

Today we went out for the second time to hang out in the mall and her body language was hard to read. When dropped off at home this time. I didn’t even kiss her. Does this mean it’s a done deal or should I still try and contact her?

Call her there’s still hope

Don’t call her it’s done

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a tricky situation, bro. The fact that you didn't get a kiss on the second date doesn't necessarily mean it's a done deal, but it's definitely not a great sign either.

The body language being hard to read is kinda concerning. If she seemed distant or not as into it as the first time, that's probably not a good sign. Girls can be tough to read sometimes, but if she was clearly holding back, that's not a great sign.

That said, I wouldn't completely write it off just yet. Sometimes things just don't click as well on the second date, even if the first one went well. There could be a ton of reasons why the vibe was off - maybe she was having a bad day or just wasn't feeling it for whatever reason.

My advice would be to give it one more shot and reach out to her. Don't be super pushy or needy about it, but just casually suggest meeting up again. See how she responds. If she seems enthusiastic and down, then maybe it was just a weird off-night. But if she's hesitant or makes excuses, then it's probably best to just cut your losses.

You don't want to waste too much time chasing someone who isn't feeling it, you know? There are plenty of other fish in the sea. But it's worth giving it one more chance if you really clicked on that first date. Just don't get your hopes up too high.

Ultimately, you gotta trust your gut on this one, bro. If it feels like a lost cause, move on. But if you think there's still potential, shoot your shot one more time and see what happens. Good luck, dude!

[RavVid]

What was the sense at the second time? Did she just jump out as soon as the car was stationary i. e. did she avoid kissing or give off NO body language?

There is no penalty in calling her other than getting rebuffed and we all have to get used to the latter. So I think you should call.

A notable thing here is she made out after a dinner date but didn't after a hang out date. Some girls do give more when the guy has spent money on them but not when he hasn't spent money on them. That isn't a good sign as to her suitability.

[Valdemort]

She might be thinking the same thing, going "oh he didn't kiss me... maybe he didn't enjoy it too much"
Body language can be hard to read sometimes, just ask where the two of you stand. If she enjoyed her time; if you'd like to meet again; how she felt about not kissing... I don't know.
Commuuuuuuunicate

[Kayleigh2005]

She could be just really nervous?

Why not try it may change ur life ❤️

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you thought about just asking for another date? She may have assumed that a date at the mall is what you offered because she is a low priority/you don't want to waste money on her? Why not ask her to a concert or another dinner date and see how that develops?

[Finchie40]

Most girls’ like when a guy makes the first move , you should of kissed her on your second date , so yes ask her out again and make sure you kiss her this time lol

[Zack-Bann]

Not gonna lie, your chances aren’t good


But if you don’t call your chances are 0


So might as well try


Maybe she was having a rough day
Maybe it’s the PMS
Maybe it’s any one a thousand things


Women appreciate positive persistence
Meaning don’t be needy and whiny but make your intentions clear and let the chips fall where they may

[Tarifa]

Go for a third date. Maybe she was a bit nervous on the second one. Maybe she regrets having kissed on the first date and wants to hold off a bit for now. She might want to take things slower than you. She might want to be sure feelings are mutual before escalting.

[ProbablyClueless]

Of course you should still call her. You've known each other for a week... you don't know the first thing about this person. How the fuck could you possibly get a good enough read on her behavior to know if she was interested from 2 dates with a complete stranger?

[slayxme]

did you try to kiss her? most girls will not initiate unless she is confident about it. But yes, it is early on, call her and get to know her more. She might just be thinking the same and want to see if you are still showing interest.

[Asker]

She had closed off body language

[Fireguy17]

I don't mean this in a bad way, but do her a big favor and move on.
If that is all that is important to you then you would be seeing her for the wrong reason.

[lightbulb27]

she may have been off that day.

tough call... executive decisions as to whether you want to pursue further.

[Anonymous]

"I met this chick on tinder a week ago."

[NathanOlipop]

I kiss on the first date. If we don't, then that means they're ugly. I normally can deal with every problem someone else has unless they're ugly.

[WhitneySnow]

Call her. Explain why you didn’t kiss her and see what she says.

[slatyb]

Why didn't you? Was she keeping her distance? Anyway ask her.

[Anonymous]

You made it sound like you had not kissed her at all yet, then we find out you already made out before that.

[Alex-Snow]

Sure call her. She may want to take it slow that is all

[BurbankRob]

If you enjoyed your time with her at dinner and the mall, there's no reason to end the relationship.

[itsannalee]

You've only known each other for a week.

[In_Trance]

So why didn't you kiss her

[Curious85curious]

Why not