Why would anyone date a man knowing what he could do to u?

[chocolatetwopointo]

[ohsheeT]

Because that's what life is not about not everybody in the world is bad that's why you have choices when you get with somebody you don't think about what can this person do to me because if you did that you wouldn't be with that person you would find some person that you would say wow this person makes me feel good and you don't even take your mind that direction if you live in that paranoid world that is something you would need help with because that's not the way the world is at the moment.

If you're talking about if he breaks your heart well then yes before you get in a relationship like that you have to say that to yourself

And then you have to say look do I really like him yes do I want to be with him yes what happens if it doesn't work out

Then you have to answer that I'll be okay

All you can do in any relationship is put your 100% into it

If they cheat on you it's going to break your heart for a moment until you realize

Why am I feeling this pain I didn't do anything wrong I gave my 100%

Let that guy feel the pain let it go
Just by this question I can tell you society has programmed each one of us in believing that when we break up with somebody it's going to hurt it's going to hurt so bad it will never get out of it

That's wrong the way we should be programmed is we didn't do anything wrong they're the one that cheated let them feel the pain I'm going to be happy I'm going to thank them for doing what they did because they just showed me exactly who they are and I don't want that person in my life and you learn from that and you move on and you build your heart even stronger when you can do that


But it doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman anybody can do anything at any moment of time and that's what you have to realize

You have to ask yourself if they do this am I going to be okay yes you have to answer yes I'm willing to give it a try and if they do something wrong they have to deal with it not me I did the right things I gave my 100%

[chocolatetwopointo]

my point is id be risking my life, the women who have been killed by their bfs and husbands probably thought he was the one or he made her feel safe. id rather be single forever than be scared every moment in the relationship. its not ab heartbreak, thats pathetic.

[ohsheeT]

Well you have to understand these women they didn't just fall in love and the guy did it the next day there was something some sort of build up that led to it over many many months of time and the woman had a chance to walk away but she didn't that's the scenario that happens what you just talked about it doesn't one day the guy picks up on her the next day she's dead there's build up and build up and build up that's why when you are in an abusive relationship that's why you leave it quickly if you try to stay there and thinking you're going to change the guy or you keep saying I love him I love him I love him you're taking that risk that's why so many people so many family members find out about their daughter or sister being abused that way they tell them to leave and the women do not leave that's the most important part right there

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah exactly, thats my worst fear. having the person u trust the most do something so terrible to u, horrifying. sometimes they hide it very well. and what if he js develops a hatred against me or gets mad at me and hurts me, men can get really angry. they can hide that very easily or sometimes u js dont understand.

[ohsheeT]

, well it's okay to have that fear it really is but I understand it just doesn't happen like wham bam it starts gradually manipulation control isolating you it wouldn't just happen like that and remember this about this world you are your thoughts if you keep thinking this way those thoughts will come true so quit thinking this way think positive only look for the signs and then walk away before it's just not going to happen in the snap of a finger it's going to gradually build so you have to start thinking positive things don't go to that dark side

[chocolatetwopointo]

and what if i dont notice the signs or they’re very subtle? and my way of thinking will never stop the actions of somebody else

[ohsheeT]

If you pay attention to anybody I don't care who they are watch them for 10 minutes one of the last things that they communicate to you or anybody about is with their mouth watch people learn how they walk look at every move that they do because body language look on their face the way that they pull their hair back everything they're communicating with every inch of their body and believe me you'll know it before it happened you'll know it way before it just doesn't happen the way you're thinking that it does

[ohsheeT]

Ask a question on here when your boyfriend or your husband start disliking you or they're angry at you how long before the physical abuse and just watch and see what everybody says ask if they're signs that there's going to be physical abuse

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah no then id rather be single.

[ohsheeT]

Well I mean you're smart girl you know what you want and what you don't want and I mean you have that right to do that I mean there's a reason for it so

[ohsheeT]

For sure there's there must be something that you either felt or witnessed or seen or heard that makes you feel that way so I mean you have to go with your heart on that

[chocolatetwopointo]

nah I've js seen loads of cases from my country and around the world

[ohsheeT]

Yeah what country do you live in

[ohsheeT]

Must be Britain or England cuz you said loads LOL

[ohsheeT]

And if you are I think you're either 8 or 6 hours ahead of us time wise so it's 155 here

[ohsheeT]

Damn I did that too quick anyway so it must be 7 something there almost 8:00 it's time for me to go to sleep well hope you have a good day after a lot of questions have fun and smile

[chocolatetwopointo]

im from sweden, its 11.22 here rn.

[ohsheeT]

Really I'm part swed that's cool I've never been there before ever seen it or anything

[chocolatetwopointo]

nice

[ohsheeT]

Yeah I guess so I'm swed Irish and if I'm anything else I don't know LOL

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay

[Summeroflove]

Why would anyone date a woman either? A lot of people jump into relationships with anybody right off the bat and NEVER learn…. They just never do. Trust is something that takes time to develop.

Also sure maybe most men can defend themselves easier with their hands. But we also have guns. Knives. Poison. Etc.

[chocolatetwopointo]

you tell me, im not a lesbian. and those weapons are illegal, being strong isn't.

[Summeroflove]

They aren’t illegal and you should have weapons to defend yourself maybe you’re not American.

Also criminals get weapons anyways so it does no good. Other then take them away from good people and oh…. Defund the police too.

[Summeroflove]

You should consider being lesbian lol…. As much as you hate men.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah im not American, not everybody is. i can't carry a knife everywhere, if i get stopped by a cop id most likely be arrested. why should we defund the police now?💀

[chocolatetwopointo]

well being a lesbian isn't a choice, thought everybody knew that💀

[Summeroflove]

Because most leftists who don’t want weapons to defend themselves also call for defunding the police lol

[Summeroflove]

You seem left leaning a lot of lesbians are too lol you would fit right in

[chocolatetwopointo]

uhm ok I don't know what left ur talking ab, im not American. so u are homophobic?💀

[Summeroflove]

Lol okay

[chocolatetwopointo]

i asked a question.

[Summeroflove]

And I answered it

[chocolatetwopointo]

its a yes or no question.

[Summeroflove]

Why would anyone date a man? That’s not a yes or no question. If I said simply yes or no that would not make any sense

[chocolatetwopointo]

oh my fucking god. i asked if u were homophobic. fucking retard.

[Summeroflove]

No I’m not scared of homos

[chocolatetwopointo]

thats not what homophobic is. google what homophobic is and then come back to answer my question.

[Summeroflove]

Yes I did. Homo meaning homosexuals phobic meaning a fear

[chocolatetwopointo]

oh god💀 anyways, saying ”lezbo” is homophobic, js saying

[Summeroflove]

So is “faggette”

[Summeroflove]

So what difference does it make

[chocolatetwopointo]

well if u say those ur homophobic💀

[Summeroflove]

Nah I’m not scared of homos

[Summeroflove]

Trannys maybe a little… not homos

[chocolatetwopointo]

omfg

[Summeroflove]

Don’t take the lords name in vain

[chocolatetwopointo]

oh my fucking god

[Summeroflove]

Well satan is the god if this world. But not God of the universe if that’s what you’re asking

[Summeroflove]

You seem to defend homos a lot. Are you sure you’re not one? Or considering being one because

[chocolatetwopointo]

nope im js normal, wish i was a lesbian tho, but sadly i can't control it. and once again, its not a choice.

[Summeroflove]

I mean being a homo is better then being sexist.

[Summeroflove]

Being a homophobe I mean not a homosexual 😂

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay

[Summeroflove]

But yes… being a homo is also better then being sexist too. So I guess I was right Freudian slip

[Summeroflove]

So consider being a homo instead of sexist. Lol.

[chocolatetwopointo]

nope

[chocolatetwopointo]

bc once again, for the THIRD time. being lesbian is not a choice.

[Summeroflove]

And for the millionth time. Being a sexist is and you have no room to call me homophobic when you’re literally a sexist.

People can’t control their sex either so

[chocolatetwopointo]

you’ve never said that lmao. ok and?💀 you can control ur actions tho, i only hate the bad men. and ur obvi one of them.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I don’t like bad people of either sex. It’s not because you’re a female or a lesbian that I dislike you. It’s because you’re not a good person and project who you are on others.

Also you’re changing what you said you claimed you hate men and how everyone hates men. Not true…. But now you’re saying you just hate bad men. Which is much different than what was said earlier.

[chocolatetwopointo]

still not a lesbian🥱 idc if u like me or not. omfg pls learn how to read. why are u incapable of reading? like honestly? and every single man has a little bad in them so i do hate all men.

[Summeroflove]

You’re the one who takes things out of context and I can read. I read what you said.

Also… people cannot control who they are born as and all humans at least have a little bad in them so. There is that I think you hate yourself and project that.

Look if you’re asexual and aromantic that’s fine. You don’t have to date anybody but to hate people for how they’re born is retarded

[Summeroflove]

I like how you’re telling me I can’t read and attacking my reading comprehension. When you take things out of context all the time here as well as the fact you’re not even using correct spelling and grammar.

I’m not going to discredit someone for forgetting to use a comma. But at the same time… When you want to attack me but it’s evident you can’t even read your own chicken shit because of how badly it’s written

[chocolatetwopointo]

omfg🤦‍♀️ u can control ur actions, unless u bother me i won't hate u lmao. omfg ur retarded its actually crazy💀 we’re not in school i think ill be fine with my grammar

[Summeroflove]

Missing some grammar is fine but it’s absolutely horrendous. Also you say you hate all men… so that’s not just if someone bothers you that’s hating someone regardless

[chocolatetwopointo]

its shortcuts lmao💀 believe whatever u want idc

[Summeroflove]

Well it’s pretty obvious that you can’t even read your own chickenshit when I call you out on it and you somehow don’t know what you said.

[chocolatetwopointo]

once again, believe what u want old ass

[Summeroflove]

So you’re ageist too

[chocolatetwopointo]

wtf is that💀

[Summeroflove]

Says the one attacking my reading comprehension doesn’t understand a word as simple as ageist. Take your own advice and Google it

[chocolatetwopointo]

believe whatever u want idc anymore ur so retarded its starting to hurt

[Summeroflove]

I think it’s just your brain hurting trying to do the mental gymnastics of your own logic

[chocolatetwopointo]

nope, js ur retardeness

[Summeroflove]

So now you’re attacking the mentally challenged.

[chocolatetwopointo]

if it includes you, then yes.

[Summeroflove]

It doesn’t

[chocolatetwopointo]

mhmm

[Summeroflove]

Okay lol

[chocolatetwopointo]

yupp

[Summeroflove]

Don’t talk about yourself that way

[chocolatetwopointo]

why would i?

[Summeroflove]

I don’t know you tell me

[EmmaMary]

Having now read through the majority of your replies to members comments, I'm beginning to think that perhaps you should consider having some form of therapy or counselling to try and combat your sheer and utter fear of men... I have also heard that hypnotherapy can produce some excellent results.

[chocolatetwopointo]

why?

[chocolatetwopointo]

therapy won't make men kill less, will it?

[EmmaMary]

Regrettably you have this complete negative attitude to every recommendation or advice people here are trying to offer you... So I shall not be responding or wasting anymore time here... Sorry.

[chocolatetwopointo]

what advice?

[4ngelic]

the majority of dudes (in the west at least) aren't dangerous at all to their gfs or to women in general. so in most cases you really have nothing to risk by having a boyfriend

[chocolatetwopointo]

really doubtful, guys can kidnap girls on first date and kill them, loads of cases like it

[Zack-Bann]

It goes both ways


And yet the human population has thrived for so long on the back of the male female pairing


The only one that can yield children and ensure our survival


So people date one another. They don’t let the hypothetical fear of getting hurt stop them


You do your best to chose well and trust that your partner will cherish you and keep you safe

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah but as a man you’d have it easier to fight her off. and many women have been killed by their male partners. im not having kids anyways so idc, yeah no

[Zack-Bann]

Many men have been harmed or killed by their partners
It’s wrong to assume that a man is safer by default

A kitchen knife to the back of the neck when he’s not looking can be fatal to giant mountain of muscle

As far as having kids go: we all said that

And some still say

But with every passing year you’ll have less of a hardline view on it

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah ofc, but if a woman attacked me id have a higher chance of surviving, with a man id have no chance. yes obviously, but its also ab abuse too. wdym? i dont want kids. ill never do.

[Zack-Bann]

My point is if you get into bed with an abuser you will be abused. Man of woman. (Doesn’t matter who’s more dangerous pound for pound)

But that doesn’t mean that all men or all women are abusers.
You can chose right and be with someone who wouldn’t touch a hair on your head

As for kids. You don’t have to have them and you can live a childless life no one can tell you otherwise
I just remember being just like you: saying I would never ever have kids no matter what.

Nowadays i think “maybe under the right circumstances it would be nice to have a kid or two”

And Im a long way from actually doing it

Just think the older we get the more the desire for family and children grows

[chocolatetwopointo]

well u can't always know. okay, so if there were 3 cakes, and u knew one of them had poison, u wouldn't eat any of them. ok, good thing im not you, maybe id want kids as a man, but def not as a woman. you can still have them tho.

[Zack-Bann]

I get it
But try 10 cakes with only 2 poisoned
And you’re allowed to taste test before eating a slice (aka dating)

And 2/10 is because statistics show 23% of men are domestic abusers
(19.5% of women by the way so it’s almost even)

The point is people tend to eat cake even with the risks

Doesn’t mean you have to

But to answer the original question on why others do it: it’s because they are optimistic and the odds are in their favor

[chocolatetwopointo]

id still not taste any of the cakes, knowing there's poison in 2 of them, i dont wanna risk it. and how is taste test dating? ok good for them but it won't be me.

[Zack-Bann]

The idea is you don’t marry and move in with the first guy off the street that’s how people end up used as a punching bag

You date, meet his friends, his parents, get your friends to get a feel for him. Figure out if he’s capable of any violence, physical or mental
And once you know for near certainty that he’s a good man you move forward.

That’s what adults do.

Every time you cross the street there’s a chance a drunk driver will cut you in half.
But you cross the street anyway you just look before you walk.

Im not saying you’re wrong to worry and care about safety.
But you will miss out on a lot of things that life has to offer if you live it in complete isolation always afraid of someone harming you

Being brave is not being fearless. It’s doing the thing despite the fear

And life takes bravery

[chocolatetwopointo]

women can be married and know a man for years and then he ends up killing her and abusing her anyway. how do men always find ways to blame women? anyone is capable of violence. like what will i miss out on? and once again, who said id be isolating myself? can girls not have friends nowadays? im not brave tho, id rather stay away from men and not be harmed

[GOLDFISH_smile]

Women can do it too. 💪

Yeah trust issues and past trauma make relationships harder, but not impossible. I think it's worth the risk personally.

[chocolatetwopointo]

men r more likely, and men can defend themselves better if a woman attacks them

[GOLDFISH_smile]

More likely yes, better defense is generalization. Better physical defense? Sure more likely, but there's more than one way to do horrible things. & I was talking woman on woman anyway since that's the other option. Woman be with man, or woman be with woman, yknow. Or be alone. I'd rather be with someone even with the risk.

[chocolatetwopointo]

well (sadly) im not lesbian so that won't be an option. id rather be alone than maybe be killed by a man tbh

[GOLDFISH_smile]

Okay. I'm not lesbian either. Good luck and I hope you find happiness with your choice.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yupp

[Apple1996]

Because I know I'm more savage than any man lol

[msc545]

Maybe you should go not go out of the house also because after all lightning can kill or mean you and you never know when it's going to strike and it does that to people every year. We all know that going out of the house just isn't safe.

[chocolatetwopointo]

i dont really go out when its terrible weather knowing that can happen. yeah i go out sometimes but never alone

[lil_will_12]

Bc most women know that the majority of men are good people. There really isn't a massive risk if you date the right person/people.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

And now we’ve entered the stages of radicalization that border on puritanism

[chocolatetwopointo]

wdym?

[midnightmoon05]

My man is awesome!! Because I am awesome!! 🤩

[Anonymous]

They know most men are harmless. They're willing to take the small risk cause they want to find someone and be happy. Not everyone wants to hate half of the population, be miserable, and live in constant fear.

[chocolatetwopointo]

never heard of a harmless man

[Opinion Owner]

90% of men are harmless. Your hatred for men has made you dulsional and stupid. It's sad, but the only person it affects is you. Men are still living their life and making memories with people who don't hate them.

[chocolatetwopointo]

whats ur source? if 90% of men r harmless how come almost every woman has an experience? how am i delusional? how am i stupid? seems like i hit too close to home lmao. thank god, imagine making such memories js for him to ruin it bc he had a bad day and kills me.

[Opinion Owner]

You wouldn't have made it to age 16 if men were as dangerous as you say we are.

Do most women have a story of being sexually harrassed by a man? Probably. The same way most men have a story of being sexually harrassed by a woman. Men just don't report it.

A girl I used to work with would grab my nuts. She felt comfortable enough to do this under constant surveillance. Turned out she was doing the same thing to other guys at work.

I had a girl take pictures of me without my knowledge and send them to me. I don't even know how she got my number. She also left a weird note on my car once.

I've been repeatedly hit by a woman in a public place.

Things like this don't just happen to women. If you're gonna pull the "well, you could defend yourself. Women can't" (even though we can't, at least not without getting arrested or jumped by a group of men who only witnessed me defending myself) don't, because women abuse other women, too. In fact, leabian couples have the highest domestic rate.

The truth is there's a lot of shitty people. A lot of men and women are assholes.

However, most women have not been abducted, raped, beaten, and killed by a man.

[chocolatetwopointo]

i would have tho lmao, i dont go out a lot and i dont date so id prolly live long. no offense but I've never met a man who’s been assulted by a woman, have u been assulted? women dont always report it either. and u wanna know why men dont report it? bc of other men. Ok sorry that happened to u, did u tell anyone? and is she in jail? she would be if this is a real story. yeah that can happen to anyone, is she also in jail? and did u report it? if not, thats on u, same goes for anyone who doesn't report it. never said it only happened to women. you can defend urself tho and then explain to those why u did it and im sure they will get arrested for jumping you. wheres ur source for that? yet men do it more smh. oh god only if you knew.

[Opinion Owner]

There's no shortage of 16 girls who do go out a lot and are still alive. You've never met a man who's been assaulted/harassed by a woman because you don't go out much. Myself and every other guy I know or have met have shared a story of being harrassed/assaulted by a woman. It happens a lot. I've seen it happen to other men.

I didn't report either of these women. And my coworkers didn't report that one girl either. I didn't find out they had similar stories until the girl quit. You're right, that's on men for not reporting it, but that doesn't change the fact that it happens.

But even if I did report these women, it's very unlikely she would they would have gone to jail for it. Especially the stalker girl. Stalking in general isn't taken very seriously.

Responding to your "seems like I hit too close to home" comment, yea, men will almost always have a strong emotional reaction to being lumped in with muderers/ rapist because most men hate murderers/rapist just as much as you do.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah guess they’re lucky, but there's also a lot of girls who has been assulted and killed at 16. well ik a lot of people still, family friends, family, and id know if they had been. and u didn't do anything? then ur js as bad. and i never said it doesn't happen to men, i js said it happens more to women and thats been proven, but we have to report them so it doesn't happen to anybody else, yk how that felt and that nobody wants that happening to them. well if it was under surveillence and it happened to loads of men, it would prob be enough to get her in jail. true, stalkers usually dont get concequences. then if u aren't one, dont be offended. The same way i dont get offended when a man says every girls a player or a bitch, bc i know they exist but im not one of them.

[Opinion Owner]

Men can laugh off being told that we are all cheaters, only care about sex, etc.
What you don't understand is that most people, men included, agree that the worst things a man can do is rape/kill a woman. It's a triggering tonight for most people so of course men will take issue with being told they are what they hate.

You're gonna continue being stubborn and only believe what you want to believe so there's no point in keeping this going. I hope you get the help you need.

[Opinion Owner]

**triggering thought

[chocolatetwopointo]

so can women lol. no actually is very easy not to take offense, id get it if somebody came up to u and said u were a rapist, but not when its said like this. omfg ofc the man says there's something wrong with the woman when she's rightz

[Opinion Owner]

You're telling all men reading this that they are most likely a rapist.

[Opinion Owner]

Your first reply to me: "I've never heard of a harmless man"

[chocolatetwopointo]

u tell me, I don't know. but maybe🤷‍♀️, and ur point is?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not making a point. I don't understand why you're suprosed men are getting mad in the comments when you're telling them that they are evil people.

[chocolatetwopointo]

well the people that rape, kill and assult people r bad people lmao. if they’re offended thats their problem

[Opinion Owner]

Unless you're just a troll who's trying to get a reaction.

[Opinion Owner]

"well the people that rape, kill and assult people r bad people lmao. if they’re offended thats their problem"

Yes, and you're telling them they are those bad people. Most of your posts are telling them this.

[Opinion Owner]

"I could understand if a girl walked up to and said you're rapist" that's basically what you're doing.

[chocolatetwopointo]

nope, im saying the men that do that are bad, thats all. once again, if ur not one of them, dont be this offended, this shows a lot from you. no im not, i never walked up to u and said ur a rapist. stop. getting. so. fucking. offended.

[Opinion Owner]

You're not saying all men are bad, but you've never heard of a harmless man?

[chocolatetwopointo]

every person has bad traits. but not all men r killers or rapists.

[Anonymous]

I hope you get the professional mental health treatment you desperately need.

[chocolatetwopointo]

do yk how many men kill, rape, abuse women on the daily in the world? such a man response.

[Opinion Owner]

You should definitely stay away from men. Please.

[chocolatetwopointo]

no read what i said, do you know how many men do that on the daily? and thank god id kms if a man even touched me. feels like i hit too close to home, all the males r gna be maad💀

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, I read what you wrote here, and all the hundreds of other comments and questions you've posted here. You are GAG's most prolific femcel.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah nah, but wtv u think ig, offended males istg💀

[Opinion Owner]

This was written about you. So sad to see children like you radicalized at such a young age.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38243101/

[chocolatetwopointo]

so i should apologize for being scared of men knowing what they could do to me? god ur fkn crazy.

[Opinion Owner]

Should men believe all women are gold digging whores?

[katiesmuff]

Maybe because we want him to do it to us!

[chocolatetwopointo]

why?

[katiesmuff]

Because nothing like a man slowly taking your clothes off while kissing you and running his hands all over you so gently. Then as he begins to suck on those virgin ripe little nipples and inserts a finger in that little tight hole between your legs with his thumb tweaking your love button as you begin to shake and shiver and you break away, drop to your knee's and suck that gorgeous penis in front of your face. Finally your begging him to place that penis inside your sweet young virgin pussy and fuck you silly.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@katiesmuff
Seriously, with underage user?

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok and what ab the fact most men could kill u without a weapon? that terrifies me, js me? men abuse, rape and kill women every day, biggest fear. won't risk it. id kms if a guy wanted to have sex with me thats disgusting.

[chocolatetwopointo]

@Maybe_Maybe_not im not 5 ik what sex is💀

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@chocolatetwopointo
What you know and what you don't, in this area, isn't my point, nor my business. For obvious reasons

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok js letting you know

[katiesmuff]

@Maybe_Maybe_not Not my job to keep them off the Sex site, do your pissing with the admin here.