Has anyone else who’s 30 and up had this feeling before while trying to date?

[Anonymous]

You don’t have to actually be 30 years old because since I’ve been 28-29 I’ve sort of only wanted to have casual sexual relationships while I build the life that I want. The reason being is because I know the type of woman I want. The problem I’ve encountered though is the women who are usually the ones who I can have that casual relationship with are the polar opposite to who I want and in terms I’ve sort of reclused myself and I’m gaining ground on my personal achievements but I’m having trouble controlling my urges and I don’t know what to do because part of me wants to go out and talk to every woman I see or download dating apps and see if I can get a one night stand really quickly. I know it’s probably god texting me but it’s getting extremely tougher to turn a blind eye.

[Zack-Bann]

Why torture yourself.


Im 27 and in the same boat: my ideal woman isn’t someone who would be interested in a guy like me just yet but Im working on it.
Getting in shape advancing my career etc.


But in the meantime I dont censor my urges as long as they’re in a safe and consensual setting.


hookups don’t have to be toxic and manipulative. They can be a mutual agreement between two people who like eachother just enough but also know they don’t have a future together.


(granted I've been on a break from casual dating for a good while now but that was for logistical reasons not because I think it’s a bad thing)

[incorrected]

What kind of woman do you want? By what you're talking about it sounds like you're looking for a gold-digging whore who will value for the lifestyle you can provide her and not mind that you slept around with everything that moves for years? Is that the kind of woman you want? That's the kind of woman you'll deserve, based on how you're talking.

[Nikki1989]

Life is all about flexibility, but you seem very stubborn.

[Asker]

Indeed I am

[Anonymous]

Nope. Population "you" bro.