Am I overreacting, and should I just get over it?

[Anonymous]

So this is a pretty small thing to be upset about, I can admit that. But do you think it’s something even worth mentioning to my boyfriend? My boyfriend is Latino and with the way this country is falling apart under Trump (not trying to get into politics) we’re both worried for our friends and family that may be susceptible to deportation. Just a few days ago he asked me if I’d like to go to a protest at an ICE building downtown. Of course I want to go, I preach activism and try to stay updated on the issues happening right now. I said yes and that was that. Then today (the day before the protest) he told he might be going a state over for work, and I was a little disappointed because that probably meant we weren’t going to the protest. He texted me later today saying that he’s not going and I got excited and let him know that if he had we wouldn’t have been able to go, so I’m glad he could stay. Then he texted me saying he still had work tomorrow though, which disappointed me again but I decided I might as well still try to go and see how much an uber would cost even if he can’t go and asked for the details. Which as you can see he told me that he still is going to go just won’t take me. I don't know it’s disappointing because he’s taken me to work with him before and I could just wait in the car til we went. But I’m also upset that he didn’t share any of this information with me. He said he had work which made it seem like he wasn’t going to go. And I can’t expect him to be able to drive me everywhere, it’s on me for not having my license yet ( ik 🥲) but why would he even invite me if he didn’t plan on taking me? And I kind of want to ask him that. I know he knew how excited I was to go :/ I’m worried if I say something though he’ll get tired of me overreacting especially because he’s a bit older than I am and might just think I’m being immature.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well you are being kinda immature, he's got to put his priorities first and that's his source of income and before that was his work that was farther or way or whatnot, you are entitled to your feelings and emotions you can communicate with him but don't let it turn into an argument over this, just say it was kinda disappointing that it all changed that you were looking forward to the ICE thingy, if he suspiciously keeps avoid it its most likely a reason and he's probably illegal and just realized everyone at those marches are legal immigrants 💀

[Asker]

He is documented, and my problem is that he invited me and then never even told me the change of plans. I probably would’ve woken up tomorrow and gotten ready just for him to say he has work but still plans on going himself. He takes me to work with him sometimes too, so I don’t understand why we couldn’t have came up with an alternative option. And was he gonna go and not tell me he went unless I asked, or until afterwards? I’m Latina too and this issue is just as important to me. The ironic part is he’s always telling me to stop worrying about politics because there’s nothing I can do, and now there’s something I can stand for and he knew I was excited for it but doesn’t seem to care and never even told me about any change of plans.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well I think you should have a good deep couples conversation with him and get your thoughts across along with some answers to your questions, the last think I'd wanna do is speak for him on why he did what he did, it can be something as simple as something he saw online changed his mind, he possibly might not even be thinking of going for all you know but this miscommunication can cause issues in a relationship, you should practice communication because this topic isn't even that serious and it seems like maybe your relationship lacks a bit of communication rn, proper communication is something you should adjust yourself to when in a relationship as even the worst issues between couples require it, my point is waste less time looking for answers on this corner of the internet and sad excuse of a forum when you have a better way to get your answers right in front of you ha

[ohsheeT]

Well it doesn't really say anything so only you and he knows what you're talking about but I guess that's up to you anyway

[Nikki1989]

You should be worried. If Trump gets his way, he will destroy many families.

[QuietRunner]

Overreacting and just get over it.

Most Legal immigrants aren't protesting as they don't support the illegal immigrants

[Anonymous]

You need to let it go and move forward with your life.

[In_Trance]

Yes you should