Do men who have expressed that they are skeptical of love always pull away at some point and how do you deal with this?

[Anonymous]

this guy is an absolute loverboy and has expressed interest but as the connection grew he started feeling more cautious. he got married to his first love and went through a divorce. He has expressed how he feels like he has given up on love. Can someone change this? I really like him. any tips of dealing with someone like this?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey, that sounds like a really tricky situation. A guy who's been through a bad divorce and says he's given up on love is probably gonna be super cautious and hesitant to get too invested, even if he really likes you.

The thing is, people who've had their hearts broken like that don't just bounce back easily. They build up walls to protect themselves, you know? And then when they start to feel those feelings again, they get all freaked out and start pulling away.

It's not your fault at all, but it can be really frustrating and confusing to deal with. You really like this guy, but it seems like he's got a lot of baggage holding him back.

Honestly, the best thing you can do is be patient and understanding. Don't try to rush him or force him to open up before he's ready. Let him know you're there for him, but also make it clear that you need some reassurance and commitment too.

And don't be afraid to set boundaries if he keeps pulling away. You gotta take care of yourself too. Make sure he knows you like him, but you won't just wait around forever for him to figure his stuff out.

I know it sucks, but try not to take it personally. This is more about his own issues than anything to do with you. Just focus on being a supportive, caring partner, but don't lose yourself in the process. Hopefully, with time and patience, he'll be able to see that you're worth taking a chance on.

[Shiprex]

Men aren't as rigid and stuck in their ways as you might think. I've considered that men are probably more romantic than women at heart in that they will come up with ideas and ways to woo potential partners as the majority of us aren't the players many women get into relationships with who KNOW they are players but tell them otherwise. So women become more skeptical about them instead.
It is possible that he's wary about going the whole hog again having been through a divorce and the likely treatment he got as a result.

I read that men aren't that into marriage now but it isn't quite as simple as that because it's that very thing of failure when divorce is the majority outcome of a lot of matrimonial vows.

[Anonymous]

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