Do you think that the older we get, the more we settle?

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TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

It depends. I think people who have been married before tend to be less likely to settle than people who have never been married. The priorities are different in each case. People who have been married have an acute awareness of what they will and will not put up with. Sometimes it's reasonable and sometimes it's an overreaction to a negative previous experience. People who have never been married or have not been in a long term relationship are more likely to settle with age due to peer pressure, biological or milestone reasons. I have been saddened by how many couples I've witnessed getting married who were not terribly enthusiastic about the arrangement. I've heard guys say they "settled" and gals ask about falling in love over time. That's tragic.

In my opinion, it's better to be single for our whole life than to be married to someone just to be married. Marriage is hard work and not to be undertaken with a half-hearted or "good-enough" mentality. I know marriage can be amazing, and I still would never do it again unless I was 100% certain. We've got to have that knowledge that we made the right choice when faced with the difficulties life will throw at us. Life is too hard to be yoked to someone who's not in the game with us.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

People settle at all ages. I know someone who didn't settle until he was 72.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately some people do and it’s not only sad for the person settling it’s unfair to the person they’re settling for. If someone’s a good genuine person they deserve someone who genuinely wants and loves them but that doesn’t always happen.

A lot of narcissists (of both sexes) have extremely high standards. If those plans don’t eventually pan out or they end up dumped, divorced, etc by the people they want. They will eventually settle for someone and use them. Most aren’t honest about their intentions. Because they know the kind of people they want will reject them.

So instead they turn to deception. They lie. They tell someone what they think they want to hear. Love bomb them. Sex bomb them. Whatever it is it’s heartbreaking to see someone whose good hearted go through that.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

sure, but I also think you start to get realistic... by knowing yourself and your needs and knowing what works for you. As well, things change as you get older... your priorities... not values as much.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It may appear that way to younger people.

When you get older, your priorities change. Having the prettiest wife in your friend group is no longer important because you've realized all the pitfalls of that choice. You've learned what's really important in a companion and those are the things that get your attention is a prospective partner.

My wife is not the prettiest girl in town, but she is a person of character, loyal every minute of every day, and dedicated to our marriage. I didn't settle. . . I traded up!

Rosexøxø · Answer

Of course it’s a simple matter of habits. Habits get stronger the longer we do them. There’s exceptions where this isn’t such an issue or apply when the habit of the person includes trying/doing new things and not having one set of specific ways or routine. The more flexible a person is the more they will settle into this frame of mind as they age and then progresses. The exception to that also is their ability to finish things (whatever/whichever they had started). Not being so hot/cold/moody in things enough to try and complete many things successfully.

HawkPerception · Answer

Yes most people do. The older we get, the less value we generally have in the dating market. Men tend to peak around 35-40 because of finances, but after that we tend to go down in value. By that logic, the older we get the less we attract. But we all want companionship and love, so we'll settle for what we can get.

ohsheeT · Answer

I don't think we settle. I think we get wiser smarter and probably a little bit more pickier

Avicenna · Answer

Compared to when we were younger, yeah, but this affects people my age not yours.

Anonymous · Answer

If the person is average looking can accept but if ugly it's hard to go with it. People will say oh you are already 30 for a women, but no people still want me & pursue me. Don't settle for less. Know your worth. 30 is the new 20's. Women in their early 30's still got a chance.

Anonymous · Answer

No woman just learn to be self independent, Have your own money , have your own bank account your own car. It's not ok to depend on men. Woman always suffer oh if it was the other way around people would be like uh poor guy he deserves better. Uh no if the guy is a shit head he does not deserve crap.

Gwendoline · Answer

I think you have to as a woman when comes to finding love as your options get less and all the best men are litteraly taken. I always tell anyone my age that if you find a great guy to keep him, don't go shopping around or think you can have fun in your 20s and there will be all these great guys still free.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I think we reevaluate what truly matters in a partner

The looks start to lose priority in favor of someone who speaks our language and can be on the same wavelength as us

Im not that old yet but I think my standards are higher now than they were 5 years ago

OneViewpoint · Answer

I think we settle from the time we're children. Everything comes with an opportunity cost. Everyone chooses what cost and risk they will tolerate for a given benefit. We are constantly balancing uncertainty against what's behind door #3.

WilliamPamer446 · Answer

More we realistic and settle to extent but if you get tired of it you may change it.

When ur young ur not fully settled, life is kinda adventurous or finding that goal destination. When ur old u already got it so u don't wanna change it

Anonymous · Answer

Women yes, men no. Here is how it works. Women sleep with who they want, Men sleep with who they can... Women marry who they can, men marry who they want.. Because unlike women, men have no biological clock, we aren't limited to a 20 year window to have children.

HungTexan · Answer

No. You don’t need to settle. As you get older, you know who and what you like. Stick with it!

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Of course.. Age is is a crazy thing, and the older we get the more nervous we get about it, and in the end start to get more into taking what we can get.

fantasticass · Answer

Maybe, I'm 63 year's old and my boyfriend is 48 year's old.. so are you talking about my age group ✌️

DrPepper12 · Answer

I think a lot depends on your age and life experience. I think people in their 30s may settle but speaking for myself the older I get the less I want to settle because the clock is ticking

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I think as we grow older, we choose what we like and stick with it

Pet68 · Answer

Settle down? Probably not. It would depend on the person, the type of personality they have.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Maybe, or maybe people just become more realistic in what to expect.

Dongie · Answer

Sure. Not everything about getting old is horrible. I just find it hard to notice them.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Absolutely not the older I get the less I'll settle because I'm becoming more and more self aware learning my value and what I bring to the table

Nice222 · Answer

Yes I do, I find that I don’t want to ruin what I have worked for and settle to be happy for what I have.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Yes, but I'm not settling for a fugly broad.

msc545 · Answer

I think we learn when to give up on hopeless things...

moneymagnet24 · Answer

Nope as we get older we realize we don't want to settle because Relationship is a scam.

Manuelwe · Answer

It depends if real or AI partner. And your cash in bank

Anonymous · Answer

Not true, I'm quite old now, but I don't settle.

Sonorous · Answer

Yeah. Settle for realistic outcomes.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Potentially - depends how lucky

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Some do and then there's those that don't

Gymrat01 · Answer

I think people get to comfetbal.

Pterodon · Answer

Most relationships are settles

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it's true my sweetheart darling 💗

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