Do you ever feel that you’re not pretty enough to be loved?

Question

I sometimes think I am sexy enough to be wanted but not pretty enough to be loved

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm a guy so this doesn't apply to me in quite the same way but yea. "At my best with a lot of effort I'm probably a five at best and right now with some extra weight I'm honestly more of a three. I wouldn't say I'm ugly but I'm definitely not sexually appealing even at my best.

There are other factors that make dating impossible, but my looks have nerfed my chances big time. So, yea I share your sentiment even as a guy. Like it or not humans like pretty things. We always have we always will because pattern recognition is our species superpower. Simply put if your less attractive, you're less desirable it's a simple fact.

There have even been studies on this, and they say the exact same thing. Attractive people are more likely to be in a relationship, more likely to be hired, and people are nicer and more favorable to them on a subconscious level.

If you're pretty though you'll be fine probably it will just be more difficult. There are a lot of single guys right now that really want a partner but not a whole lot of women available. Just look at dating apps, theirs 5 guys to every 1 woman on them on average that's a very competitive market. If you keep looking finding someone shouldn't be too hard since you're a woman. You'll just need to work harder for it.

incorrected · Accepted Answer

Make that make sense to me... If you're attractive enough to pump and dump, you're attractive enough to find love. Gonna need more info before I can help, for instance:

1. How do you present yourself and what kinds of men do you pick: Are you dressing like a call girl and picking men up at clubs? In other words, how do you present yourself and what kind of men are you finding, and how are you finding them?

2. What kind of person are you: Are you full of drama and emotional instability in relationships? Do you work or do you want to be a kept woman? Are you traditional or not? Feminist or not?

3. What does "love" mean to you? What is love?

xcheerleader_jessx · Accepted Answer

You'll never be "pretty" enough to be loved because love doesn't stem from physical attraction. It's built on a personal relationship that is built overtime. Many people think they can fall in love at "first sight" but in reality, the use of the word is erroneous and misplaced. It should be "lust at first sight". Choose to focus on who you are as a person. If you need emotional or spiritual healing, focus on that. Try to enjoy life. If you are Christian, try to put God above all else and he will bring the right partner for you (notice I didn't say perfect bc there's no such thing). The more you focus on loving other and being at peace, the more you will start noticing how attractive and needed that is in today's world.

PrincessC16 · Accepted Answer

Yes, in fact all the time. It stems from Early childhood trauma. And it's something that you need to figure out and work on healing from as soon as you can. Check out the Crappy Childhood Fairy. She has videos on this.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Love doesn't come from how you look. That may be how someone is initially attracted to you, but looks are never responsible for love. (You may indeed be onto something with that "sexy vs pretty" dichotomy)

AviatorTom · Answer

Love is fickle. It rarely depends on physical attraction.

katiesmuff · Answer

No I have never had low self esteem about myself and always confident. It payed off so well as I was never in a hurry for real love, but when it struck I hung on and my life has been a blessing ever since.

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

I used to feel that way but I found someone who would do anything for me because he loves me so much and he's help me learn to love myself

Apple1996 · Answer

In a way yes like I'm sexy enough to be desired but not beautiful enough to be truly loved. I feel like that even when my husband tells me I'm enough.. but to myself it doesn't feel like I'm attractive enough regardless of what others say so it's more of a personal problem

NicholasRedone · Answer

@lafemmefatale_1 only until I look at my avatar again or in the mirror - that was a perfect photo of me - just look at those eyes, that skin, that hair, that lighting, and it wasn't even a planned professional selfie 👀👀👀👀 and that was only less than 1 year ago - not bad at all, for 30 Male that im.

HungTexan · Answer

Love isn’t really about physical beauty, and if someone really loves you it isn’t because you’re pretty.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

nope... what is in me to love is not related to how I look, and I would never want it related, anyway

OneViewpoint · Answer

Nope. I'm not interested in being liked, wanted, loved, or respected by 95% of the population. I'm actually thankful if they just leave me alone. They aren't worth the effort to interact with them.

Grond21 · Answer

I am loved as a Child of God, not because I have done something to deserve it, but because he chose me

Communicationisking · Answer

To be brutally honest that is a girl brain talking. Love should not come down to how pretty a person is. Love is love looks shouldn't be counted in deciding if you love someone or not.

MoonFace2 · Answer

Sometimes, but rarely. I’m pretty confident about my looks. Regardless of what I wear, I get a fair bit of attention from men. I always felt worried that my personality and mental health issues might make me unappealing.

chihiro405 · Answer

ya I DO feel. I saw many times that boys prefer another one instead of me to be near them, actually they throwed me out of elevator cuz it was so crowded and full, so there was no way unless one of us gets out and do u think who had been throwed out between 2 girls in an elevator? ye me.

Abbycado · Answer

No, love isn’t just about beauty. If it is then that person loves you for the wrong reason.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

@lafemmefatale_1 that is surprising... you are so pretty 🩷

rosemilk · Answer

no. maybe when i was a teenager tho physical beauty always fades. love is not about physical beauty at all

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I used to.. but as time goes on I am learning to not care if men will love me or not because other people are a burden to have around anyways.

Douglas1180 · Answer

You know, sometimes I envy the simplicity of the challenges faced by simple-minded people.

DJB72 · Answer

I was 30 before I met my wife. We were married 21 years until she passed away last year. Looks have nothing to do with being loved.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I have never had that exact feeling but remember that anyone who really loves you will love you even if you’re only average looking

KostasKouvalis · Answer

"Loved" is probably a strong word. I feel I'm attractive enough to be desired, but not by a hot girl/the kind of girl I want.  You live in Thailand now?

Anonymous · Answer

sounds you have a very sad life, sorry to say, you can always feel you are full of love and vibrate it everywhere and ultimately finding that person who loves you deeply

Emmat178 · Answer

I have no issues with my looks (my face), but I do feel that my breasts are too small to be sexy or attractive. I feel like they are teenage girl boobs are not real womanly ones haha. I am going to get implants next year.

gemb00 · Answer

I’m not pretty or good enough because if I was someone would be interested.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

„Around here we call that stinkin‘ thinkin‘.“  - Major Zwingli, The Sopranos

CruelParadise · Answer

I didn’t really get the whole idea of sexy but not pretty. For me, it’s not that I don’t feel pretty. The biggest thing is I feel highly misunderstood and I don't know just unrelatable ig

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

I don't know if I'm ugly or not. I've never been told. Yes pretty girls have talked and flirted with me so I guess I'm not too bad just need to work on the weight.

alice55 · Answer

I'm very confident in my body not so much when it come to my personality though

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Love has little to do with looks. Looks is all attraction. Love is something much deeper.

Ironic_Method · Answer

Questions like this are weird since there are plenty of conventionally unattractive people that are loved.

Pickkles · Answer

Yep. Every time I date a guy they’re always drooling over someone else or some half naked gym girl. So yeah I feel like total shit and can’t understand why bother being with me if those other girls are what you want.

Anonymous · Answer

No, my ex was the girl I thought wouldn't exist and she loved me how I was. So if she did it means that my next true match will love me to.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Lmao do you ever feel ugly enough to get hated

RedThread · Answer

Why does love depend on whether or not you're pretty?

RedInnocent69 · Answer

No. And it’s absolutely not true about you either! Even some of the hottest girls feel similar insecurity all the time.

Anonymous · Answer

When I was in my youth I sometimes felt this way, but it’s not true. I hope that you don’t feel this way.

Deni00 · Answer

Me pasa muchas veces, mucha gente me dice que eres hermosa, que estás preciosa, pero a veces yo sinceramente no lo siento ni me veo así y me atormenta.

Jay-_- · Answer

If it's you wanted to be love it's all personality that's keeps the right one there not your looks.

Wayneg89 · Answer

No woman should ever feel this way and I wish I could make it so that no one ever does.

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

yes. men only sexualise me (basically what they do to every woman) but still.

Ladsin2 · Answer

Not really a concern I've had. I know that fat women don't care XD

Professor-college · Answer

I felt that way when I was in high school but later on I realized I was wrong. Your self-esteem and other factors are more important

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Wow! I'm shocked cause your gorgeous. I wonder what you see when you look in the mirror

NathanDavis · Answer

that ain't right...

jahaims · Answer

Being loved has nothing to do with looks

Anonymous · Answer

As a guy, I think that height is the thing holding me back from love.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. Just hard to love

Red_Arrow · Answer

You can be loved without being attractive.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

No, cause love doesn't work that way.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Good thing that that's not how love is..

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Erm - no. I never did :)

Staximus · Answer

Stop being a dumb dumb

Zoe04 · Answer

Only on those bolted days.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course, hell I barely like myself half the time

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I feel like that very often.

Anonymous · Answer

When don't I feel that way lol.

Brunettexoxo · Answer

Yes.

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