Can we stop with the finances as being so important in romantic relationships?

[blackeagle007]

I totally get it that a woman wouldn’t want to be with a guy that has nothing going for him. No income, no drive etc. she wouldn’t want to completely support him. I don’t blame her for that. Hell, right now I don’t claim to be date worthy. Not working now due to medical situations. Once all is resolved, I’d love to get back to work, do my thing and so on. Then I would have something to offer a woman. Hey I’m just being realistic.

Suppose I am working and she’s working. Just seems that I have to make more $ than her. How’s that love? I’d like to be with someone that can support herself as I want to support myself. But why is it the man has to be the only provider like it was in 1960? What’s attractive about that?

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Can I add, I watch a spot on video on YouTube. About why many successful women are single. It seems to be the attitude they think they men are too intimidated by success. Trust me we aren’t scared of that. It’s great you’re successful if anything. It’s you wanting so much finances from a guy. Ever thought we don’t like you with the attitude of, “well men are intimidated by me”

[Shiprex]

I disagree that men are intimidated by women who earn more. What puts men off with women like that is that many of them will use it as leverage and throw it in their faces as an insult because women on the whole STILL SEEK men's security and when they get the financial security of their own the men who can provide more aren't really interested in those women whose attitudes are more about €£$ and on a power trip (being manly in other words).

When women start telling men that they'd be content for them to be stay at home husbands and that they would support them in their dreams of being a writer, painter, carpenter, etc. and be the one who doesn't need to be stuck in the rat race THEN we can say equality is working.

[NicholasRedone]

Money runs the world though 🤔 😳 🤑 💰 and it costs money to spend money and its costs money to buy condoms, to buy birth control, to go to the doctor, things cost money 💰 🤑 a dinner, a date, a movie, hell roses 🌹 🌹 🌹

[blackeagle007]

Women still have the idea that the wealthier a man is, he’s more attractive. It boggles the mind they hate being called gold diggers. 🧐

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

There are guys who are intimidated by it though. They are called conservative tradionalists and only want women to be housewives and not providers in income which in this economy is infeasible.

Most women, but not all, don't care if they make more just as long as the bills are getting paid. Again, only the tradwives or gold diggers are insistent on the men being able to support them solely.

[blackeagle007]

Oh absolutely. And that’s sad some are intimidated by that. With me, success is a good thing. I wanna be successful. Who wouldn’t? by the way what’s a tradwive?

I have a family member that’s traditional, so far that he condemned me for wanting too meet someone that works. Says I should be the sole provider. No one lives like that anymore. lol. He’s upset his granddaughter is getting married elsewhere is the state and not in her hometown. Why do people get so upset at stuff like that?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Traditional wives. Ones that want to be homemakers, have babies and take care of them while never having to work outside the home basically.

I'd say that people like your family member are set in their ways and have no ability to see there are other ways of having relationships. Honestly, I never saw the appeal of being a stay at home mom when I could be contributing in other ways financially.

[blackeagle007]

Where can I meet more women like you!

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Lmao, we exist out there. Especially at our age, we become more realistic about life (although some don't, I suppose).

Most of us though realize that working to support the family is more important and that honestly, we are past the point of having babies anyway.

And I was available on a dating site for a while and saw plenty of women (albeit there were WAY more men in there) so if you're looking you might wanna try one of those to find like-minded women.

[blackeagle007]

Smart thinking. A non traditional person sounds good if you ask me

[blackeagle007]

Site I meant

[trumpetplayerforlife]

Some woman don't care for me my goal was to be a trophy wife but I was honest with men when I started talking to them I never hid it

[blackeagle007]

Why do you wanna be a trophy wife?

[trumpetplayerforlife]

I am one and it took a lot of stress off of me I mean I still work bit I only have to worry about paying my credit card bills no other bills

[Cormac995]

It would be nice but it's never going to happen.

[princeofromance]

Yes, I have always said you don't need money in order to have love. True Love comes from the heart.