If a guy asks if you want to go out to get pizza sometime, is he asking you out on a date?

[Anonymous]

[ManOnFire]

Mmmmm... could be. Or he could just want to hang out so he can get to know you more. I suppose that could be sort of a date. If it were me asking that, it would be something I would ask either a female friend or a love interest. Going out for pizza is such a general thing that could be either a basic hangout thing or a date, so really not sure.

Who is this guy? A friend, co-worker? Someone you like?

[Asker]

The guy is a guy from the past I used to talk to. He liked me romantically but I didn't reciprocate that. We had like a big falling out years back

[ManOnFire]

Then he could be trying to reconnect just to reconcile things, or he's still into you. Hard to say. How do YOU feel about hanging out with him for pizza?

[Asker]

I think he is still into me because our interactions have indicated that. He has asked me out twice and he's tried numerous times to reconnect. Circumstances have changed because I'm a single mom now. Right now I ignored him because I don't think I'm interested in him.

[ManOnFire]

Then don't worry about why he's asking you out to pizza. If you're not interested, you're not interested.

[SteveSmith1985]

Yes he is. I usually need details. I don't need them here. If this guy is not blood-related... he was asking you out on a date.

Did you say yes?

(Are you smiling right now? Or frowning... I think you're smiling)

🙂

[Asker]

What makes you sure he is asking me out because it didn't sound convincing?

[SteveSmith1985]

I could be wrong. The more details you give me the better answer I can give. What is your relationship to this guy? What was the context in which he asked you to grab pizza (what was the conversation like).

Why makes you say it didn't sound convincing? His tone, or what?

There might be some situation where this isn't asking a girl out. I just can't imagine what.

[Asker]

We don't really have a relationship but we talked in the past. We had like a falling out that he started. Out of the blue we were talking about something related to jobs and then he asked if I liked pizza. Then he said Would I like to get pizza sometime?

[SteveSmith1985]

He definitely asked you out. Why are you having trouble with believing that.

This is "by the book" asking a girl out. He only messed up by saying "sometime" rather than suggesting some specific time like "this weekend"

An easy mistake to make.

So, this is being asked out. With no doubt. You don't have a relationship. He asked you to get dinner with him. This is unambiguous. So yep. He meant as a date. I hope that's good news. Either way, it's definitely a date. You can expect him to suggest a time and pizzeria. If you said yes. But did you say yes? You weren't sure...

You still didn't mention what you said? I literally talked to a dude earlier today, who asked a girl out... and she said "I don't know". Which is ridiculous. Suddenly I'm wondering if maybe...

[Asker]

I literally didn't respond to him. I don't think I'm interested in him.

I think he said sometime because I'm a single mother so he probably guess my schedule is unpredictable. He probably wanted me to let him know when I was available and he would take it from there

[SteveSmith1985]

What do you mean you didn't respond?

You're going to have to tell him you're not interested if he didn't understand that from your... What? Blank stare? Or awkward laughing? Or was this over text?

[Asker]

It was over text

[SteveSmith1985]

Then you need to respond ASAP.

He is anxiously waiting for your answer. It's mean to make hime wait longer than necessary.

You're going to have to turn him down. It's all you can do.

[Screenwriter]

Sounds like a date to me. UNLESS it's some sort of group thing. If anyone else but you two are included, it's NOT a date. If it's you and him, it is. But ask if you feel that unsure. WIll clarify everything.

[Anonymous]

Yes! And if you don't want it to be a date you have to say, "is it ok if we just go as friends?" so there are no misunderstandings. If he no longer wants to go on these terms, let him out gracefully.

[Asker]

I already know the guy likes me so how can we go out as friends?

[Shiprex]

Say no to the pizza if you don't want it to be a date

[Asker]

I just ignored him

[Shiprex]

Being kind and thanking wouldn't be too big of an effort surely? At least some respectful treatment given he offered

[Asker]

Ignoring implies not interested. I'm afraid of his reaction because a lot of guys lash out after getting rejected

[Shiprex]

A simple no thanks would be enough then with nothing further as you can probably guess what being ignored would make someone feel like

[Asker]

Nobody is entitled to a response

[Shiprex]

Then you just spread negativity. There's a concept called respect and if someone asks you something it's respectful to respond. If you don't want to be respected then carry on. If you EXPECT respect then give it.
The concept of do unto others as you'd have them do to you is a wise mantra to follow.

[HawkPerception]

It's likely, but it really could just be friendly. It depends on the person, the scenario, and the context. I personally don't think that pizza is the first thing on a guy's mind when it comes to taking a girl on a date, but I could be wrong.

Does he have a partner? Is he a coworker? How did you meet? How does he look at you? How does he talk with you?

[allan997]

This

[Summeroflove]

Context matters a lot the totality of the circumstances. When in doubt simply ask it’s okay to ask someone something because making the wrong assumption can make things more awkward.

[AviatorTom]

Yes. How would you not get that?

[Asker]

It's the way he asked

[AviatorTom]

My pet peeve with women is that they are almost always trying to read between the lines, trying interpret what we guys mean by how we say it. Listen ladies... we guys are simple creatures. Pay attention to what we say, the words we use, because we choose them carefully. How we say things is not important to us.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If I were the one asking her if she wants pizza, it wouldn't be a date request, its just pizza.

If I were interested in dating her, I'd just ask her to be my girlfriend.

I don't like the whole guessing game/rejection worry crap, and I'd say yes to pizza regardless of it being platonic or romantic or who was with me at the time (if I say no its because I don't like that brand/version of pizza).

I don't consider eating out to be a valid "date".
A "date" is done at home in private where you can ask intimate questions, share hobbies together, and fool around. This is of course done after having been best friends for years.

[lightbulb27]

yes. don't read too much into it. you either want to go or you don't. even if you don't like pizza, you might like something else. or you counter propose something else.

stop over analyzing and sort it out when you gather more data.

[OneViewpoint]

Sounds like he's trying to ask you out on a low key, no pressure date. Maybe he wants to see if you two hit it off. Like a coffee date. Just relaxed conversation. No need to dress up.

[MrChinaski]

It sounds like a low-risk semi-date invite. If you are attracted to guy that don't have the cajones to ask you on actual date... just make sure he is paying for the pizza...

[Asker]

I know he is interested but I think he asked in that because I'm a single mom. With the uncertainty in my schedule and everything I got going on he probably didn't know how to ask. Therefore he kinda left it in my hands to tell him when I'm available

[MrChinaski]

It sounds as though you have made up your mind to say yes already. Not a bad choice. I wish you only good things.

[Shiprex]

Probably yes unless he's skint and wants you to buy him pizza then he's probably homeless and needs a bed to use and figured sharing would be caring.

[Nikki1989]

Of course not.

Friends go out and eat with other friends all the time, or at least they do in my world.

[Jay-_-]

I'm going to be honest if it was me, no I wouldn't be meaning it like that..

Overall, it probably means he's asking you on a date, I would need more information about you two before I answer that.

[chrissykerdock]

i prefer a guy getting on one knee and ask you to the ball

[slatyb]

Yes, lazily. Tell him to plan a date, time and place, and then ask you.

[Asker]

I'm a single mom so I guess he left it open ended because there is so much uncertainty on my end.

[slatyb]

That's fair. Then tell him when you are available.

[ProbablyClueless]

That sounds like a date, but you really ought to be asking him about his intentions directly.

[EmmaMary]

In a roundabout way he's asking if he can give you a damn good fucking.

[Jay-_-]

[Alex-Snow]

I think so. He just may want it to be very casual to start with.

[loveslongnails]

What else would you call it, unless you're already established friends?

[JesseP1nk]

If you like the guy then go out with him. If you dont like him, then dont. No need to make things difficult

[Staximus]

I don't know, I wasn't there, I don't know how you two interact

[Anonymous]

Seinfeld the dating loophole.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/0_j_oJuHiKY

[ABC1x1x]

Jes asking if you want to be platonic best friend forever

[4ngelic]

maybe, not inherently though

[Bricealan]

I do believe that qualifies as a date.

[Iron_Man]

yes go out with him

[Asker]

He doesn't sound confident in the way he asked me on a date. Shouldn't he have said let me take you out for pizza?

[Iron_Man]

come on are you gonna be like that just go out?

[Asker]

I don't think I'm interested in him

[Iron_Man]

Obviously, you’re looking for an alpha male

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Iron_Man]

you want him to be aggressive to know what he wants to ask you out properly like a confident, alpha male

[Asker]

Maybe but I don't think I'm interested in him because we had a falling out in the past that left a bad taste in my mouth in regards to him. Also he is ugly and way shorter than me

[Iron_Man]

ok i see

[Caroline91]

Then why are you even talking to him?

[douride2]

Sounds like a date to me.

[noohair]

It sounds like a date to me.

[Asker]

Do you see a problem in the way he asked?

[noohair]

No, because men have an ego as fragile as an egg. If he asks you on a date and you say no, it really hurts. This way he has some sort of protection.

[LiamJHayden]

Maybe, lamely.

[Osborne775]

Its more like the first step for a date

[In_Trance]

Stg... questions are getting worse here

[Anonymous]

It's quite possible.

[RavVid]

I'd say yes.

[exitseven]

sounds like it.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[jahaims]

Yeah

[Anonymous]

Yeah

[Asker]

Would you be turned off by the way he asked?