Why doesn’t friend turn every guy down that we introduce her too?

[Anonymous]

She’s been single for five years and we haven’t hooked her up in a couple years. Every time we told her a guy was interested in her, she always says she isn’t ready or she doesn’t thing she would make a great girlfriend right now. She’s kind, nurturing, beautiful (she doesn’t think she is), smart, funny, studying to be a doctor, she’s generous, feisty and loves kids. What man wouldn’t fall in love with her? Some guys ended up falling in love with her but she rejected them which lead them to stop speaking to her. She had a boyfriend once but he cheated on her with other girls. We warned her about her ex but she didn’t want to listen. Honestly didn’t feel bad for her because she knew what kind of guy he was. We were all worried about her.
She got mad when we told her the truth but whatever, she needed to hear it. Best friends don’t lie to each other. Anyways there’s this guy that our other girlfriend and I told her about and me seemed very interested in her and wanted to talk to her. She said no. I told her, “Oh for goodness sakes woman! Every time we try to introduce you to a wonderful man, you turned them down! Just give him a chance! He’s a really great guy. He ever said he wanted to talk to you for years and he came across your profile and found you very attractive and so beautiful. Please don’t miss out on a great man.”
She was flattered but she put her foot down and said no.

We don’t know what to do anymore! A kind, good man is interested but she always says no. She’s going to miss out. She’s 30 and she isn’t getting any younger and neither are we. I told her he’s willing to wait for her. Even if it’s years. She probably rejects guys because she taller than most of them but who cares? He mentioned he’s 5’5 but I didn’t tell her that. She’s taller than most guys anyways. She’s 5’11 and a big plus size girl but she’s beautiful and stunning. I don’t know if that’s the reason. I could be wrong.

[SteveSmith1985]

This is easy. What you do, is stop giving her "help" that she clearly does not want.

There is nothing that says it's your job to find a guy for her. She never asked you to do so.

The question isn't why does she keep rejecting the guys you think would be good for her... it's... why do you keep trying to find a guy for her?

Don't you see... that you've taken it upon yourself... to be her love-guru... but she's not asking you to.

The result is, you end up putting her in an awkward spot of having to answer "well why not him!" (when there could be a million reasons for that). But worse... you end up making her feel like shit with your (implied, or explicit) continual reminders about "not getting any younger" and "missing out"

I know your intentions are good. I know you want to help your friend to be happy. But you are doing harm, not good. She hates that you do this. She is just too nice/shy/polite to tall you to stop. The best thing you can do is to back off, and let her look after her own love life, unless she comes to you for advice/help.

This was painful to read.

[Anonymous]

It's a defense mechanism for a woman. Reject him before he can reject me.

[Anonymous]

lol looks like u want to see her date a short loser. Date him if u like him. And stay away from others business

[MasterKS]

spot on. LOL!

[Opinion Owner]

@MasterKS ik thank you. How do you get rid of ugly guys who want you for your great genetics , and cover it as true love

[MasterKS]

Its her body her choice, you can enjoy your age.