Guys, after getting married, did your value increase in the dating market?

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine said that after a divorce, women are not as interested in him as before. I’m curious if this is common.

[Stevepro68]

Deceptively false. Divorced male here. When you are married and people know it sport the ring. Women who have no interest in you feel comfortable casually talking to you and engaging. They think you are safe.. For the cheaters this is a good way to get your foot in the door. So subjectively it makes it seem like in a relationship it's easier to attract women. But the truth is they aren't interested in you romantically. Then when you are divorced and dating you are like where did all the girls go? But realistically now they do look at you as a romantic possibility. So your circa 1994 haircut and out of style glasses. Plus your never ending t-shirt wearing and 10 year old Nike runners... Say walk away. You don't need to hit the gym and lose 30lbs not that it hurts just not necessary. Get some well fit stylish clothes, get a good haircut, check it out with female family. Also Nice shoes. At my age just having a lot of hair opened the door for me. Women are competitive don't get me wrong I could tell you stories how I ended up with my girlfriend. But it's not as big a factor as guys think.

[Chazmatazz269]

It’s true. Many women vet by association. If a man has no woman, he might be defective. This is particularly true if he’s never had a woman or if he’s divorced. It doesn’t help that the average divorced man is either broke and/or swimming in financial obligations to his ex-wife and kids.
Conversely, if a man has had a woman, then he has what it takes to attract women. If he’s married, he has what it takes to keep one, more or less.
I’ve known several guys who significantly increased their appeal to more women by buying a wedding band for themselves and wearing it. They literally did nothing else differently.

[Apple1996]

I think this works for both married men and women. Its one of those things like they know they can't have a married person so they want them more. A forbidden fruit.

I get hit on and checked out the most when im with my husband and kids (especially while I was pregnant). I could go out completely alone, wedding ring hidden under my sleeve or whatever. No one will look at or approach me. Its acutally so wild

[Gwendoline]

Women shouldn't be intrested in him as before because if he can't be loyal in a relationship and will cheat with you he will certainly cheat on you. But the truth is that a lot of women view a married man in a happy marriage with kids with envious eyes, basically they want what another has because she has it and will take it if she can.

[Finchie40]

Yea it’s true to a certain extent , I got hit on more when I had a ring on compared to not having a ring on , bottomline some females’ don’t care whether
You are married or not , I think by them seeing a ring , it becomes a challenge to them

[caitycat21]

It’s called mate poaching, a man that’s already taken = desirable = worth pursuing; but it’s an ego thing, the women that do this are addicted to the thrill of the chase and more often than not mentally unstable and insecure

[Finchie40]

Yea it’s definitely the thrill of the chase , not sure if they were mentally unstable they just wanted what they wanted lol

[AviatorTom]

Women consider a married guy to be stable, and verified by another woman (his wife) to be a good guy. A single or divorced guy doesn't get that feeling from women.

[Avicenna]

Hell yeah, it was like that

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I don't blend well with people thinking of people in terms of value on a market, so I wouldn't know how this group viewed me, after my divorce. I just resumed getting to know women. As they wanted to be known by me. Nothing changed. Also, I don't live in a region where people are obsessed with marriage, so there's that.

[Asker]

Well said

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

As for during the marriage, well, I didn't see any change of perception either, about me.

[Effably]

There is a pretty much accepted phenomena of guys being perceived as more attractive by women after entering a relationship.

This has plenty of explanations. From him being happy, confident to not trying to date women making men more attractive. To more observed biological phenomena like mate choice copying, which basically means that if you see a person getting a lot of attention from your sex you naturally assume they are worth that and copy it. A self-fulfilling loop of attraction and popularity, and basically why fame is such a multiplier.

Never been married. I absolutely experience more interest from women the weeks and months after I enter a new relationship.

I don't think divorce is ever really seen as a positive.

[Effably]

That is fairly common.

I didn't want just that negative so I also pointed out the advantage of a guy being confident, comfortable and talking to women like they're both human.

But yes, some people do see it as a power trip.

[exitseven]

It is odd but I was actually hit on by 2 or 3 girls after I got married. One of them was pretty hot. She was working at the local gas station/ convenience store and I would talk to her when I was getting gas. She was a student at the local college because I used to see her doing homework while she was working.

One day she called me at my office and invited me to a party she was giving with her roommates. I had a company credit card so she looked up the company where I worked and called and asked for me. She was pretty hot so it was a little difficult to have to turn her down.

[Shiprex]

That's a strange question to ask because dating "value" isn't something you check when married. Kinda goes against the grain I would imagine but maybe women just like the wedding and not the marriage thing (to men it's not a word either, it's a sentence)

[JordansGate]

Women want a secure fella and think a married guy is one of those. Divorce ain't

[Asker]

Some women*

[JordansGate]

I think all women want a secure SO, don't ya? Probably ain't all lookin for a married bud, true

[Asker]

Dude allert…

[Sam1133]

@jordangate I agree with you

[avery58]

Lots of wh*res out there (of both sexes) after married men & women. They like what's already taken.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yep your absolutely correct

[nawtee_me]

Think about it… girls look at thing differently than guys do. If a guy is with a girl then most girls see that guy as safe relationship material since most girls want the same things out of a relationship.
So then once a guy us divorced it is not that he is used material but that he is not good relationship material material or he would still be married.

[BonzoInBitburg]

A week after I separated a couple clients found out and I was asked out. And it didn't stop. When I felt ready to date again I was going out 2 to 3 times a week. Divorce definitely isn't a deal breaker

[Zack-Bann]

I was once on a date.
Left to go to the bathroom
A girl followed me to ask “if we went to the same college because she swears she knows me”
A clear flirting attempt


So I imagine being married is that times a thousand

[Nikki1989]

If you're asking if some perceived attractive qualities often associated with married men can make them appear more attractive to some single women, then yes, there's anecdotal evidence to support that.

[Caroline91]

I can't even count the number of times that's happened in relationships I've been in. If he was interested, I was glad to let him go, but there'd be no coming back.

[DryGermanGuy]

The nonsense of such mental gymnastics... where even to start? :-(

[Asker]

It's actually a simple question, you can answer yes or no without doing any mental gymnastics.

There are those who find married people more attractive or easier, I wonder how common this is.

[molonski2]

Women will always want that which is challenging to get.
I never found women to be concerned about marriage or divorce , it never hurt me.

[Jeff51]

Nope. Didn't do the dating sites or any of it.

[Twalli]

A friend and I expierenced the same thing after getting in a relationship. We always heard about girks who would gladly be with us. We never saw any evidence of it, before getting in a relationship. Then once we were in a relationship we saw it

[strateguy632]

Definitely divorced is less value than before married.

[Anonymous]

Of course they do. The work has been put in with their wife. The rough edges trimmed off. The man learns how to live with a woman in balance.

[RHK36]

Not just married, but I get more interest when girls know I'm taken. When I was married and wore my ring it definitely attracted more.

[Jennz6]

I would date a divorced man

[Asker]

I'll pm you my friend's number then lol.

[Jennz6]

@ngs54
Okay send it to me

[TwoToTooTutu2]

It is way too common. There is something about women that makes thel want to sabotage each other and ruin their lives. Seen it happen too much

[Quigly]

Any high value, decent person isn't going to be with someone Married. I wouldn't say it really increases your value.

[Ricopan]

It seemed as if more women took notice of me when I was married. It made my wife feel insecure as women flirted with me in front of her.

[Godihateyou]

Oh my God yes. I never fucked so many strange girls untilni. was married.

[Valdemort]

Value...

[Anonymous]

Being a divorcee is a red flag

[Jeff51]

Why? Things did not work out.

[Asker]

Depends on why they got divorced.

[Opinion Owner]

@Jeff51 it’s a red flag

[Bklynbadboy12]

Being divorced is not a red flag. You don't even know why the got divorced i may not even be their fault. Being divorced is not a red flag bit stupidity is🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[jahaims]

Broken sluts like married men more

[LiaRaven]

Lmfaoooo

[Sam1133]

Who dates now days? Forget after married lol.

[PaleDale]

Haha nope