Is it normal be depressed living at home with family?

[Sugar100]

Im 27 and eveyone in my life lives with a husband or boyfriend since early age. I never had a boyfriend so I never have experienced living with a boy. One guy I dated was a fuckboy and denied live with me.
I fear I’ll be 30-40 forver living with parents and they say I can’t move out til marriage but I don’t think any guy will marry me. It’s sad but a baby daddy sounds more realistic than a husband. I can’t even get a guy to have babies with me.

I used to live alone in a studio at age 23-25 but 25-27 I began live with mom again but only cuz I felt bad. But ever since then we fight daily & I no longer can decorate my own home, clean each night as I used to. Now I’m in a. Far city away from my job in a senior apt & moms a hoarder eveything is on the floor & im in bed all day unhappy depressed. I’m here cuz it’s slow to save money & fighting continues.

I no longer can clean , cook, or decorate and have no privscy can’t even masterbate anymore as she arrives home wen I try masterbate. No sex. Nothing.

I shud be sleeping with a man in our own apt not with my mom at 28-30.
I wanted stay simply cuz I feel bad for her but she don’t care. We don’t talk much wen she’s home. But it’s hard save money so I can’t move out now. Then have high car bills I need pay hindering me to move out sooner.

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I even had a chance get a boyfriend this month but an old man living in this senior apt ruined my chance and got jealous and don’t let me talk to the guy I liked. It was a delivery guy lol.

[Vevv123]

Living with parents or other people comes will come with disadvantages, but I think it’s very beneficial in many ways, you have to look at the pros. Many smart people do it. You don’t have to rush things, especially if you’re not ready, and it sounds like you’re not financially ready. Many people move out and end up being in debt and barely being able to pay bills despite the fact that they might look like they are doing just fine. You can definitely still clean and try to decorate. You can help with her hoarding, you can’t put your life/cleaning/etc. at a hault just because of the way your parents are.

You mentioned it’s their apartment, so it’s kind of their rules and way of living. There’s many people that don’t have the privilege of seeing their parents or being able to live with them or be able to save money or at least have money and not struggle financially to buy everyday necessities. And I understand that it’s easy to get depressed in the situation you’re living in, try putting some music on and be proactive about the situation. Maybe lift her spirits too. ☺️

[Sugar100]

I have to pay rent. It’s better I move out and pay rent for my own place. I don’t live for free living with parents there’s zero advantages.

[Sugar100]

I fight with my mom daily this is a nightmare. It’s a blessing live with a boyfriend and see parents only 1x a year. Not daily fighting with them no sex life no romance.

[Vevv123]

Also, don’t rely on other people (men in your case) to solve your financial problems. Think of how YOU can make more money. No one else is going to save you and let’s say they do, a lot of times these guys that want to “financially provide” will use that against you and will take away all your resources to ever be able to escape them when some are abusive or aren’t good people. You don’t want to ever be in that situation. Think about WHY they want to financially provide. Are they lustful men that only care about looks? Men that are abusive, obsessive, manipulative, etc? Like the kind that won’t let you see your family friends? Hopefully you understand where I’m going with this. Is this what you truly want?

[Vevv123]

Oh I see what you’re saying maybe it is better to move out and maybe just have a roommate? But don’t rush relationships. 😕

[Vevv123]

A roommate is always nice, maybe you can make a new friend. ☺️

[Sugar100]

I don’t get along with girls. It’s same shit fighting daily with my mom.

[PeachyPie93]

If you are depressed then move out. No one is stopping you besides yourself. As for the boyfriend thing you have to open your circle of people to a broader selection. Also work on yourself because if you can't get even one guy to take you seriously the common denominator is you.

[Sugar100]

I think I have an ugly body guys only want hot girls as a girlfriend I noticed that. Being nice loving kind supportive don’t get u a boyfriend

[ohsheeT]

I would think so because at night you lay in bed abd dream what it could be like and feel like if you were in bed with a guy and every thing he would be doing to you with you and for you. You should at least have a online boyfriend to help you through it until you find a real one in real life

[Sugar100]

I want that I never had a guy lay in bed with me want live with me in same house 😞

[ohsheeT]

Yes when it's real it's the best Especially if he makes it all about you

[Sugar100]

I never had that 😓

[ohsheeT]

Well, you should maybe try it. There are many positive things that can come from it to experience. That way, in real life, you know what to do when something happens. Or what to do to make things better

[Sugar100]

I found a guy on a dating app that wants live with me and he’s first guy ever to ask me live with him. But he’s only guy I matched that I like a lot but we r gunna go on a date this weekend I hope but he wants me spend the night after

[Sugar100]

So I don't know if this is good or bad

[ohsheeT]

It's bad. Do not jump into anything. Like this. This is the type of guy that will you spend give money. To him, I can tell you right now that this is the wrong guy for you.
I'm just going to say "Look deep into his eyes" with every word that you say to him. Do not try to be nice and give him money or anything like that

If he does spin the night , make sure he has enough money to get a motel or a hotel room

[ohsheeT]

And if you do have sex make sure he wears a condom

[Sugar100]

No I meant spend night at his place. I’ve never given a guy money

[Sugar100]

He has his own apt with his dog.

[ohsheeT]

Does he live by you

[ohsheeT]

Well, don't even give a guy money... ok, dating apps are like a hook up app guys go on them to get laid. They will say and do anything to get in your pants. If that's ok with you, make sure he has a condom on and keeps it on

If you tell him you will spend the night. Then he thinks, ok, he's going to get in your pants. You start to have a couple drinks be careful because there are hard up guy s who put crap in girls drink to make them pass out once again to get in your pants

You just have to pay attention to everything that he is saying and everything going on around you

[wkhan_87]

Totally depends on how you deal with it