How should I ask family and friends on helping set me up with a potential guy without sounding desperate?

[Anonymous]

I’m 34 years old female

I’ve had some short relationships but I’ve only had 1 serious relationship for a year and 3 months (mainly long distance but 1st half was in person then the 2nd half was online). Supposedly friends now. I’ve been on other dates since then but no new relationship.

However I am happy being single and living my life to the fullest right now. I don't know if I just need to branch out more. I do volunteering, reading, Zumba, yoga, painting in my free time but some of my friends tell me I should go where there’s a lot of guys.

Dating apps and dating in 2025 in general honestly kind of sucks lately. Maybe I’d have better luck asking family & friends instead?

Ask family & friends

Stick to online dating

Your time will come. Just be patient.

[WindAtMyBack]

I voted to ask family and friends. That's because it's the most effective. But you should not rely on any one thing. ANY source of meeting people is legit.

No it's not desperate. Asking for help is never desperate. It just means you are taking advantage of all available resources.

"I am happy being single and living my life to the fullest right now. "

Good for you. Don't let society tell you that you need a partner. Maybe THEY need a partner, which is fine. But that does not mean you need a partner. Everyone is different.

"How should I ask family and friends"

IF you are looking, just let them know that you're looking.

"some of my friends tell me I should go where there’s a lot of guys."

Well, there needs to be SOME guys. Otherwise you can't meet them. What feels right to you? Listen to your gut feeling. Compare whatever you are doing to meet guys to "happy being single". Which feels right to you?

[Asker]

Thank you so much!

I feel like asking friends and family would be my best bet. I’m happy being single don’t get me wrong but sometimes I miss being in a relationship. In the meantime I’m just enjoying my single life enjoying life to the fullest.

[WindAtMyBack]

You are in a good position. If you are happy being single, then you don't need to compromise. No partner will be perfect, but if you are happy being single you can walk away if someone is not right for you.

[Nikki1989]

You don't but online dating is about as desperate as a person can get. That is the even worse option.

[Anonymous]

If your concern is sounding desperate then you're probably not even ready to date i'm sorry to say.