Have you ever dated a widow/widower or have you been a widow/widower who started dating again?

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It is almost always horribly tragic to be married and experience the death of your partner. Death is the ultimate reminder that the "forever" you promised each other really isn't forever. Some people spend the rest of their life in mourning for their partner, and the remainder of their life becomes its own sad tragedy. Sometimes - more often when the widow or widower is still young or middle aged - they decide to re-enter the world of dating, romance, and relationships. At times, they are only looking for someone to replace their deceased partner while others are prepared for someone new and different. About 8 years ago, I became enamored with a woman who was a widow. Her husband had died about 15 years before I met her. Ingrid was from Germany but had been in this country for many years, and she and her husband had established financial security for themselves. She didn't need a man to take care of her, but she wanted - or so I thought - male companionship in her life, and perhaps romance. We started dating in January and I sensed that she wanted to proceed slowly. Valentine's Day was our fifth date. Earlier that day, I sent her red roses with a note that said, in German, "I want to hold your hand and kiss your lips." As soon as the flowers were delivered, she sent me an email that said I was moving far too fast, this was not what she wanted, and perhaps we should cancel our dinner date. I gracefully accepted her suggestion because it seemed obvious that she really was not looking for more than a platonic friend. Have you ever been on either side of this scenario? How is the other person to know that you are - or are not - receptive to romantic overtures, especially if you have accepted invitations to several dinner dates? What is this experience like for the widow or widower?

worldscolide · Accepted Answer

I dated a widow.. That killed it for me is when she called me her dead husbands name.. Creeped out..

DJB72 · Accepted Answer

I've only been a widower nine months. It's a bit soon to think about it

Finchie40 · Answer

No , but I dated a married women that I didn’t know was married for a good 6 months until her husband knocked on my door and confronted me , I told him the truth that I had no clue she was married and told him everything, so after he left , I called her to yell at her and I asked her why she lied to me and cheated on her husband with me , and she said because she doesn’t feel loved and valued by her husband whatsoever, and said he was married prior to her and his first wife passed away , and all he talked about was his first wife to her , after they got married and he also hung up a picture of his deceased wife in their home , So she said she lost all love and respect for him , and she no longer slept with him and everything and said she is in love with me. I did put myself in her shoes and I saw where she was coming from and thought I would feel the same way if my partner did that to me. So I told her to leave her husband so we Can be together. But until then keep your distance from me until you file for divorce from him, He ended up taking her back and working things out , so that was the last I heard from her but damn she was great in bed and I did like her a lot

AviatorTom · Answer

I've dated divorced women but no widows. Not that I wouldn't have dated a widow, the right opportunity never showed up.

After my divorce, I did think of dating a widow. She was a close family friend. At a multi-day family gathering (a canceled wedding thst turned into a family reunion), we spent a lot of time together, and enjoyed each other's company. It would have been awkward, a LTR, and she was too close to my ex-wife. So, I chose to do nothing, although I think she was willing.

TrueConfection · Answer

I went on a couple of dates with a widower when I was in my 20s. He invited me to his house and I got an eerie feeling that he muttered his wife. It wasn’t based on any facts or evidence, but my gut told me to run.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I’ve dated a woman who didn’t know if she was a widow or not

She basically ran away from her husband taking her infant daughter with her because the man was apparently a true hill billy horror villain alongside his family

She was terrified by the idea of him showing up one day and taking his daughter back

But he was also a corrupt cop in a small town in Mississippi and it would seem no one knows what happened to him.
At least the people she’s in touch with have no clue.
His police captain committed suicide as well

I didn’t go into it with her because it’s something she wants to move on from but chances are her ex got in over his head with the kind of crowd that will gladly stage a good old fashioned suicide
I doubt his grave has a headstone

Massageman · Answer

No- I left that to my brother-in-law who finally- after wife #1 ripped him off (she's current wrecking husband #4 at last count), and wife #2 died, he finally settled in with a nice gal for #3. I guess this third time was the charm, in his case. (He met HER while she was walking her dog around the community they both live in. )

exitseven · Answer

This has never happened to me. I imagine it would be confusing for both parties. I dated somebody who ws recently divorced and it was weird at times especially when the ex husband showed up drunk at her place one night.

Surely · Answer

I am married to a widow. I think that I would rather date a widow than a divorced woman. But each have their own quirks!

sage2021 · Answer

My late boyfriend became a widower at age 49.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I actually never had a date.

NathanDavis · Answer

nope, and nope...

Chocolatetwopointtwo · Answer

nope

Jeff51 · Answer

No I haven't.

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