Is It True That Guys Aren't Approaching Girls As Much As They Used To, Nowadays?

Question

If so, why is this?

DonaldDarko · Accepted Answer

Definitely. Men avoid women now, they're not like they were in the past. They're filled with hatred and jungle law mentality. Before it was about romance, for a woman, now she wants sex with as many men as she can get. They've all got a "body count" and they're full of dirty disease. They hate men and don't care what happens to them. Their attitude toward men is sociopathic. In the past a woman was something much to be desired. She was your lover, your helper and someone to turn to. Women were always like that and no one thought they could be any other way. Men probably didn't believe women when they started spewing hatred but they started hurting these men badly. Marxist courts helped them do it. Men were even driven to suicide. Older men who had been attacked started warning younger men to stay away. Once these young men saw the older men's scars they became afraid and started to see women as an enemy. Eventually they just stayed away from them out of self preservation. I'm like that myself. When I see scantily clad, made up girls especially if they're pretty I think about the awful diseases they have , the bizarre hatred they carry against men. I see their sociopathic intentions toward men. It's like looking at a gang of thugs and I want to cross the street to the other side. They are no longer desirable but repulsive and threatening.

MannMitAntworten · Accepted Answer

People tend to be a lot more open and friendly in my tiny mountain town so probably not a good example to go by. That and I would say roles leans towards men doing the approaching whilst the women do the subtle signaling up here. However, I have noticed off the mountain the women tend to be doing most of the approaching. Also, they can be awfully arrogantly aggressive or even pushy about it especially when you politely decline them. Recent example: two weeks ago a woman approached me asking me to come sit with her. I was with my friend. I politely said no and even pointed out I was with my friend. She kept pushing it. She would leave, return, and then try again growing pushier. This went on for a while. Eventually she leaves and this guy who I noticed sitting one seat apart from her earlier comes and tells me, “She turns to me and says, I know I can get that guy.” Apparently he replied, “I doubt it but good luck.” I guess she was certain of herself. I seen the guy around but never talked with him. That’s how he broke the ‘ice’ with me I guess. Anyway… seems women are growing bolder down bellow. It isn’t just me, my friend has had the same happen with him too with another woman.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

I can't tell. Personally I don't have this issue. But girls in my circle DO have this issue and complain about it... But the problem is they are stand-offish and coy and also going to the wrong places. I tend to go where people know who I am (safe space) and then meet people who are in that range.

whereismyjohnny · Accepted Answer

Yeah. I think there are several reasons. The main ones are probably that many women don't want to be approached, guys are afraid of rejection or being seen as creeps, and probably the biggest culprit - the younger generation uses Instagram for this and dating lol.

Summeroflove · Answer

Depends on your definition of a nice guy. Men who pretend to be nice just to feel entitled to sex aren’t really nice men. I think even women who are whores respect a dude more who just comes out and says what they want. Hell even loyal women will turn a man whore down have more respect for someone who won’t waste their time and is honest.

A lot of women can simply see straight past someone’s intentions. So can a lot of men…. But some people choose to be blind.

The truth is that most men who have options don’t need to approach random women or do online dating. So a lot of the men who are approaching are the men who are desperate or are just simply looking for sex.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Yes it’s true, simply because the risk outweighs the reward.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably. Given people’s social skills have gone to shit. Probably because we’re so enamoured with tech and if you can’t make your point in the span of a reel or tik tok video you’ve lost the audience. Not to mention other people’s experiences and beliefs are broadcasted and your technology changes the algorithm after one video so you’ll find you’re getting more and more videos like the one incel or neurodivergent you watched to the point you question if you could fit into that category which if you’re not paying attention can warp your own sense of self and then you’d see that everywhere in your daily life.

Same with Google I googled one thing for ADHD and that’s all that’s showing up on my feeds lol.

contentious · Answer

Most girls are fucked in the head and a waste of time. Something is really wrong with women in our culture. I don't know how you fix it.

OneViewpoint · Answer

I think you're hearing the butthurt whining from a certain vocal group of guys on the internet. Like any cult, the internet has become a place for misfits with thin skin and no social skills to find each other and create their own personal echo chamber of self pity and hate.

Back in the real world, with 80% of the "normal" population, the mating game goes on pretty much as usual with the same success rate that's been around for centuries, LOL. Men and women are still driven by biology and psychology to NOT spend their lives alone and miserable.

Ignore the moaning of MGTOW Red Pill assholes and get out there and meet some people.

Anonymous · Answer

There's nothing in it for men anymore. Feminism has told 2's that they deserve 10's. It's equivalent of if a guy said he was holding out for Scarlet Johansson. In no universe including the marvel universe is that realistic.😆 But this is what women today do. So most guys know it's pointless to approach these women. A guy has to believe there's at least an possibility of her accepting.

elizamichale1 · Answer

When I noticed the guys being less flirty n kind of being reserved... I asked them after a while coz I loved all my friends... they always made me laugh n loved.. n well they said they r just more careful around girls coz they dont know when a girl will turn a simple joke into harassment n all...

This was a while ago... but otherwise I still see men going about same way as before

HighValue · Answer

Why try to get with someone that is low quality and will likely make your life much worse?

Twalli · Answer

Part of it is the high jacking of #MeToo where a girl can claim that it's sexual harassment every time a guy she doesn't find attractive makes a move on her. Why would you make a pass at a girl when she claims you harassed her when all you did was ask her out?

just_a_potato · Answer

Hmm, personally I still get approached by men fairly often. Maybe it just depends on the specific area and the demographic of the guys in said area, rather than that statement being true for the overall population of the world or even the U. S.

LazerBean · Answer

Definitely true. People's social skills have plummeted, but especially men's. Because of this, many are not socially adequate enough to feel comfortable approaching and reading women.

capriVib · Answer

Maybe we can say that the era of approaching and meeting someone face-to-face for the first time outside is over but on social media, guys are still approaching just about anyone.

RavVid · Answer

"More trouble than they are worth" is what I hear. Now that marriage is a dead concept, I think you can expect less enthusiasm for relationships and therefore less pursuit.

WonderingManII · Answer

Because Women today don't believe they need a man.

Anonymous · Answer

Last Friday I was at an underground latino concert
The lead singer was as beautiful as she was talented

So you know what I did?
I asked her out

And low and behold: she said yes

so what guys are or aren’t doing is irrelevant
Approaching hasn’t changed

You still need luck and skill and it might click

katiesmuff · Answer

I'm beyond that cycle in my life so would not make a good judge of that being true or not.

dudeinohio · Answer

True. Women don't want approached anymore. They'll call you a creep or pervert.

blackeagle007 · Answer

You can thank social media and feminism groups for that. Women aren’t friendly anymore.

Pohjolan · Answer

Heightened risks combined with less opportunities and fewer attractive women.

exitseven · Answer

Young people have been staring into cell phones for the last decade. They never developed social skills

CarolinaCutie5 · Answer

Hmm, I still get approached but I feel men are just more cautious and I understand why.

msc545 · Answer

Yes, it's true. Nobody wants to have their life ruined by a false accusation.

Anonymous · Answer

I never approach because I'm too shy, introverted... and I lack self-confidence.  I need a dominant girl who likes to take initiative.

Likes2drive · Answer

Yes, if you talk to most women these days they don’t like being cold approached

LiamJHayden · Answer

I don't, but the ladies I approach do seem to believe that.

purplepoppy · Answer

No. That's just crap spread by far right women hating incels. People are still dating just as they have for thousands of years

NathanDavis · Answer

it is true that some guys do it less but is not true for others who do it more or just the same no broad generalizations here...

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Probably for fear of being accused of s*xual harassment.

Anonymous · Answer

No clue. My friends and I get approached a lot at school.

DrPepper12 · Answer

They're buried in their phones.  They can't speak in person They're angry, broke & losers

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

100% false. When you leave the house, you see reality vs what some dummies be saying on social media.

qwerty2469 · Answer

I have never approached a girl. Never will. Thats idiotic

Emmytexrex · Answer

Yh that's true though

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely, MeToo statutes

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