My LDR boyfriend had frequently texted his exes/ flings during our relationship, it supposedly stopped but im having second thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Hey so, I’ve been in a LD relationship. At the earlier stages of the relationship, I noticed he would text/ send snaps to his exes every other day. At the time I didn’t tell him it bothered me directly but it was very obvious. I thought I could handle it. Sometime recently, a girl he had a fling with and used to “have a huge crush on” slid up on his story. (Let’s just say if it were up to him, they would’ve been together still). It was a post of me and she stated she was just in the area for the event we were at. I didn’t expect this to trigger me as I thought it was disrespectful for him to reply while we were still out together. Yet, message her often. I told him how much it bothered me that he not only texted her but also texted a couple other flings/ exes. It was getting overwhelming. He assured me that they stopped texting weeks ago and offered to show me/ unadd her. I said I trusted him and he didn’t have to. It’s just something I won’t tolerate and now he knows that. Im flying myself and my family out for our families to meet next month. I thought I got over it but the insecurity of having to ask him to even cut ties is still in the back of my mind. I keep seeing “you shouldn’t have to ask for him to do this in the first place” post making me overthink. As well as the trip being soon. I just don’t want to bring my family out there just for it to end. I will honestly break it off if I see another snap/ text from any of them. I already checked in with him before buying the tickets but I feel like bringing my family out is a huge step for something that bothered me so recently. I really don’t want to bring this up again. Can I get a new/fresh perspective on this?

[ohsheeT]

Om sorry but there is no new perspective
The guy has walked all over respect. . He's walked all over friendship.
And even tho. Your looking at as what it is for you. But take it a little further. He's doing the same to the other girls as he's doing to you

I mean you all have to look at it as he truly showing you all who he really is

I mean I can't tell you what to do. But in a way if you follow through with your plan. Your more or less telling him it's ok here are my parents my family. But what would they say if they found out

I could say timing sucks. But does it
Maybe it was meant to happen like this maybe he's not meant for you

To be honest I have to say he's not I hate saying that .. but you are two different type of people..

I mean if a guy is communicating with.
Exes it's either because they have kids together and they have to talk or he's looking for something

Im probably the last person that should be answering this question

I see life like this we are all here for a reason we live in a duality world no matter what it is there's two ways to look at it . but you can't see one with out the other

Good bad
Right wrong
Love hate
Positive negative
GOD devil
And it's that way to teach us.
Some times after the fact
Sometimes before we make choices
I see this as a warning to you
Before you jump. You have to see it as it truly is
And then of course you will say something to him band then you have to make other choices because of what he tells you.

[MannMitAntworten]

Are you certain you aren’t one of his flings, too? What I mean is, what if this the same theme with those “flings” of his. Heck, are they really exes if they are still talking or is he just calling them that and telling them something differently? Point is, seems he is keeping his options open. Meaning, you are just one of his many options.


I wouldn’t get any more emotionally invested in this guy than you already are.

[DishLady]

So he's already LDR and also unfaithful? Dump Pinocchio and find yourself a real live boy in your current zipcode.

[Anonymous]

Your relationship is a joke

[Asker]

That’s not nice

[Anonymous]

3 strikes, you are out.