I saw by accident that my boyfriend is still texting with his ex. We have been together for a year and have had lots of drama because of this ex as he kept saying they are platonic but they wanted to have sex a month before he got to know me and were flirting a lot. They know each other for 15 years and are very close. He promised he will stop texting her back then, but they did not.
After seeing they are texting I asked my boyfriend if his ex will always be part of our relationship as I would like there to only be us. He got upset and started to accuse me that I want him to soon cut out his other friends from his life as well. I said I do not have any issue with anybody else as he has not had sex with them. In the end he did not give a clear answer if he will stop writing with her. I just explained how their “friendship” is damaging our relationship and makes me feel insecure and bad. I said that he promised me that his girlfriend would always come first. He was quiet.
Guys, is it clear from this that he will stop texting with her? I feel I should check mentally out from it and start to casually see other people to keep my options open? What would you do?