Guys my age are not interested in me?

[Anonymous]

I am 21 years old and a senior in college.
I am outgoing, funny, and definitely put myself out there. However men in college are not interested in me. I have tried everything. I am in a sorority so I’ve met frat guys. I’m in clubs, I have worked on campus, and I go out. I have tons of girlfriends and some guy friends but no man at my school in the past 3 years has been romantically interested in me.

when I go out I get approached and guys ask for my number but they are always older, late 20s-30. I am just not in a place where I want to date an older man. I would just love a normal relationship with someone my age.

While I am somewhat picky, it’s really just a lack of attention from college guys in general that’s the issue. I wish I didn’t desire it as much as I do. But I have always dreamed of having a college boyfriends and now it seems I won’t get the chance.

I had multiple boyfriends in high school so I don’t know what the issue is.
I have lost some weight and I am pretty. I take care of myself and I am successful and career driven but also fun and like to party.

It just feels like I am not the type of girl that college guys like but I know plenty of other girls that they do.

And im not trying to find the love of my life. At all. Maybe not even a boyfriend just like anything.

any help please

[ohsheeT]

Wow I felt your every word and they are real and they paint a good picture of you with a very beautiful vibe.

I think I some ways your reading it wrong. . I think guys are changing probably for the worse in some ways but in your case if what im feeling is right. Then guys are becoming better at the same time.

With who you are and what your all about is a good thing.

Because your smart and come across as very mature and independent.
If your beautiful. Then most guys will think you must be with someone already and won't even try.

Then you have the guys that look at you and think she's everything I want in life. But not right now. Im in college and I dont want to get in to a relationship yet. I just want to be crazy and experience every thing I can.

And in so many ways you would love to find that guy abd experience love and commitment and bond becoming one with each other

But your at the point. Wtf. I need I want any kind of college experience and im ok with that. For now. And I feel bad for you because I really think guys are ready you wrong and you would be a great friend and lover because I believe you do have a beautiful heart and your a very good person

[Summeroflove]

Well…. What type of men are you going after? Are you initiating contacts? Number one men with self respect hate entitlement. It’s okay to want someone and be frustrated but don’t feel entitled especially because you wouldn’t want someone you’re not interested in feeling that way to you.

If you’re simply sleeping around and choosing those type of me. Good luck… Because the kind of men who want a serious relationship are going the other direction.

Also lack of looking for something serious. Just attention…. A lot of guys look let’s face it HATE it. They don’t want a woman who needs male validation. Men who aren’t desperate don’t want a desperate woman… They may want someone who genuinely likes them and shows interest in them. But not desperate for men in general.

[Nikki1989]

You should be looking at older men regardless. Most men who are 21 are as dumb as rocks.

[Anonymous]

because you never try to talk to guys that you like.

[Asker]

I try to talk to the guys I like and they act like I have the plague. They will either immediately leave the conversation, give me absolutely no emotion or sometimes leave and ask me if my friend is single if we’re at the bar.
If we’re in class, then I try to ask them about like an assignment or something they will treat me with such unkindness that it makes me never want to speak to them again.

[Opinion Owner]

That is usually what happens to most of us. The people we like, usually don't like us back. The ones who like us, we don't usually like back.

Try talking to more guys around your age. I honestly doubt you have talked to many.

[Avicenna]

Do you have male friends your age that can help you answer this?

[DannyUk2017]

21? 🤔mmm i forgot how that feels, but let me tell you "my experience" since 22 years ago... In college was, is, and always will be the "rabbit life"such as... Lots of drinking, shagging, and sleeping late... this was the life, Nobody would have taking it serious, as always would have been the "next" in line, when talking to each other we felt like we know everything and anything, but Later in life You'll realise you didn't even knew Half of it, so all i can say is... Patience... and the "men" that you want in your life are Still actually Boys, you'll see how in 5 years time your "search criteria Changes" you won't want "boys your age anymore" after 1-2 relationships... Good Luck out there! 👍

[Ask105]

You’re not the only one that struggle with that in college i would suggest dating apps then I'm sure you will get plenty of guys your age

[Asker]

I always get guys out of college never the ones at my school 😭

[oldpigg]

Young men don't spend money on women, we focus on important things.

[MasterKS]

You must look mature and classy, thats why an experienced man interested than boys.

[Abbycado]

Alright. And the question is?

[Anonymous]

So what's the question?

[Anonymous]

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