Is it weird that it still bothers me that my husband recently told me that the first month that we were dating he went on two dates?

[Anonymous]

The reason why it bothers me is because he gave me heat for going on dates and talking to guys when we were dating the first month and the reason why I'm trying to find the logic is that how can he be bothered but I can't like how does it make my case worse than his? And not trying to excuse what I did but I made the mistake of agreeing to the relationship when I was not sure about him yet and I'm assuming he thought I was going to trust him right away so yeah I mean I didn't think he actually did ask me out I thought you just said that out of emotion or just too late to find out that he actually did ask me out and yeah now I'm finding out from some of his friends that he did the exact same thing luckily for him I didn't sleep with nobody and as far as I know he didn't sleep with nobody but to be honest at this point it does not surprise me and I'll admit it would get me even more pissed so once again I asked am I in the wrong for getting bothered because he gave me heat for something he did too which explains a lot why he got really upset because he himself was doing it which now I'm finding out the intuition was right I was right in doubting him

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9 mo

To give further context we've only been married a couple months

[Finchie40]

Well your husband is clearly a hypocrite if he is pointing fingers at you , but not at himself , so your husband can’t take accountability for his own selfish behavior and actions so he is trying to make you out to be the bad one , when clearly he is the one that is wrong. So I hate to break it to you but you married
A guy that can’t admit he is wrong , so good luck with that marriage

[Asker]

And there have been other stuff that I have done wrong but then I later find out that he has done in the past not with me though but once again I say I find a very funny that I am getting pointed at when he would do them too and he just says that it's because of double standards no I want to believe it and I know there are double standards but at the same time I know you still got it be held accountable so it's something that still has been bothering me and I really can't put to the side so I don't know how to tell him about it or confront him about it

[Finchie40]

Well the things you did before he was even in the picture shouldn’t be any of his business whatsoever, your past is your past , so if he can’t handle or accept your past, then he shouldn’t be with you whatsoever Double standards that happen during a relationship, can cause conflict but double standards that occurred prior to a relationship forming , shouldn’t be a big deal , considering you both weren’t together at the time , So your husband sounds like he is immature and childish if he is holding your past against you

[Asker]

I went to a couple dates after saying yes to being his girlfriend and he went on 2 dates also after asking me to be his girlfriend but I got heat from him and I didn't know this whole time till yesterday so am I wrong for tbh I'm upset about it

[Finchie40]

Well 2 wrongs don’t make a right , so you are both wrong to be honest

[Anonymous]

It's way too easy for women to get dates and get laid, also it says you don't value or care about him, he's not special, just another man. Men value exclusivity, having a woman that others didn't. When she's cheap and been with other guys, well, there's the saying "she's not yours, it's just your turn" for a reason. Most women are incapable of being loyal to one man.

[Asker]

Okay and why isn't it bad when he did it though

[Opinion Owner]

It is bad too.

[Asker]

So it's not bad that it does bother me?

[HighValue]

You both are hypocrites and deserve each other.

If someone goes on a second date, they shouldn't be seeing anyone else, whether they are a man or woman.

[Asker]

I never said it's not wrong what I did but I'm saying that is it wrong for me to get upset when I got heat but he didn't for doing what he did what he basically condemned me for doing when he did the same so he can judge me because he also did it

[EmmaMary]

What a fucking load of old codswallop. smh

[Anonymous]

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