Is it weird if my boyfriend prefers double dates?

[Anonymous]

He seems to really enjoy double dates with other couples (his friends) but I am starting to think that there is something off always having other people around, could we not enjoy the same thing just the two of us? Is he getting bored in the relationship?

Yes, that's weird

No, not weird

[DaveJord]

Yeah, that sounds a little weird to me, I guess it depends on how much tine or how often you two spend alone together. Some people are really into the couples' date thing, or double dates. My freinds wife is like that, and it sucks because I am single half the time, and it makes it hard for me and my best friend to hang out... because every weekend she's scheduling couples' shit. Even when I am dating someone I don't want to hang out with his wife or her freinds, they too clicky and caddy for me.

Honestly, I think she does it on purpose so she can hang out with her freinds, but still keep an eye on him. So, as long as he is there, he can help with the kids and handle things, while she hangs out and chats, and gossips with her freinds. I mean they are not his freinds, they are her freinds... he is more or less along for the ride, the other husbands and him get along and are freinds... but they would not hang out if not for the wives. So, they all seem to be on remote control and responsive to whatever the women want to do on any given weekend. So, I guess that works and some level and is sweet and all... but it's all a little much for me.

So, in his case I think it's a way to control him, you know in way, so she knows where he is and what he is doing, but still being able to do what she really wants to do, which is hang out with her freinds.

I think this is what it is kind of like for you on some level, he is hanging out with his freinds and doing what he seems to really want to do, which is not spend as much one-on-one time with you. On some level you start to ask yourself, is he just using you as his plus one, so he can be a part of the couples things with his freinds, or does really just want to be dating you?

[Asker]

We've been together/living together for seven months, and knew each other two months before that..

[DaveJord]

Well then you two are spending a lot of time together, so maybe he just wants to hang out with his friends because she spends lots of one-on-one time with you.

[Asker]

He spends all day at work with this guy tho?

[DaveJord]

Well, you are living with him, right? I think it is time that you put your big girl panties on and have a sit down with him and let him know what it is you want from him. He should be more than happy to listen and work it out with you.

If you do not feel comfortable, doing that then you should not be living with this type of person. Because honestly this really an issue that will only get resolved between the two of you, through grown up conversations. if he cannot do that then you know what you need to do if it is bothering that much, and he does not seem to care.

[coachTanthony]

Yeah not good. Being alone with you should be a priority not hanging out with a bunch of people like you're all friends.

[Anonymous]

There's nothing weird about it. In an interview, Sean Connery said he hates playing with women in golf. He said he prefers the company of men. That's not a slam against women, he was just being honest. Your boyfriend probably just likes having the other guy to talk to. Maybe he's nervous about just being alone with you. This will wear off.

[Catarine]

It's weird if you never date alone, try talking to him about it because if he doesn't like to be alone with you he ain't worth having as a boyfriend

[Asker]

We've been together/living together for seven months, and knew each other two months before that..

[Catarine]

Aha, that was not shared above. That changes things if you live together I thought you two were just starting dating

[Catarine]

And at home all is well, do you two spend time together a lot?

[Asker]

Plenty, all the time.

[Catarine]

Then it's probably not a problem. But if you would like to go on a date alone with him tell him that

[mobiusforniner]

Is he religious? Some orthodox believers are against one on one dating for fear it will lead to too much... fun... lol

Seriously, some mormons practice soaking, where a guy sticks it in and doesn't cum. Some believe it doesn't count as losing virginity.

Religions weird.

[Asker]

lol nope we live together

[-Mad-]

Maybe he’s into that swapping shit, break up with him if he does

[BJP21]

Just thinking outside the box... Is he into swinger relationships?

[panamared1]

maybe he thinks he cannot carry a conversation

[QuietRunner]

sounds like he wants to have group sex after the dates

[Nikki1989]

Yes, that is strange.

[Stevefiveo]

Maybe he wants to introduce you to swinging?

[Keishio]

Probably just finds you boring

[Iron_Man]

Every time