I don’t understand, why would a great catch like me doesn’t have no guy hitting her up or asking me out?

[Anonymous]

I may not be the idea woman that is 5’3 or whatever, slim, or whatever but I am studying to be a neuroscientist, kind, sweet, loving, funny, smart, and always have a listening ear when someone is in trouble.
Guys are intimidated by me because I’m tall and plus size. 5’11 and size 18/20W and 230lbs (lost 20 pounds). I dated guys but it never works out. I’ve only had two boyfriends and they were both jerks. One cheated on me with a neurotypical girl. He insulted me for being autistic. She’s shorter, thinner and gorgeous, and one I dumped. Why won’t guys hit me up or whatever? Guys I like NEVER like me back.

I’m just about to give up. Love sucks and dating today is awful. My best friend said the guys (autistic/ND and one keeps pursuing and chasing me) I rejected I should have given them a chance.

But most are chubby, short or even fat. No offense to them. I know it sounds horrible but I have l preferences. Okay a little chubby I do like but still.

[Anonymous]

I think your question kinda of answers itself. You referring to yourself as a great catch doesn’t mean you are. That’s what you think. Like a lot of people, especially women, you have an inflated ego of who you think you are. What you think your value is. Stating that you’re going to school to be a neuroscientist doesn’t have much bearing on whether men find you attractive or not. In fact most men don’t really care what women do as far as their career unless she’s an OF model or a hooker or a stripper. The men that are approaching you are more than likely in your league. Yes I don’t like this whole “league” thing but men who are of higher caliber aren’t going to ask you out. So yes in a way it’s a league. Just like I know women who are super hot aren’t going to come knocking on my door unless I’m rich, famous or have some sort of clout as kids would say. You at 5’11” is not intimidating to men. Men aren’t usually scared of tall women. There’s a lot of women who are attractive who are tall, but they don’t weight as much. That’s the difference. In fact a lot of men love women w long legs cause a lot of us imagine her legs on our shoulders in bed.

[Asker]

Wow that was…. harsh. You think all of us women have a huge ego. Men have egos too. So I’m not a good catch? I should be! Why is that hookers, strippers, or models get men? I thought men like intelligent well educated women? My friend works as a bartender, and not going to college which is okay. Not everyone needs college to be successful. My guy friend humble me about that.
Man love and daring is just SUCKS. I’ll just stay single

[Opinion Owner]

I didn’t say all women, I said a lot. You saying you should be verse’s what reality is are two different things. I don’t write the rules. I wasn’t saying that only hookers, strippers or OF “models” get men. What I’m saying is that the only time men care about what a female does job or career wise are those types of professions because a majority of men who have some self respect don’t want to be w women like that. Sure those types of women may have men hitting on them, but it’s usually just for one thing. Men who have self respect as I said don’t want to marry women like that. This isn’t me telling you to forget it you’ll never meet a man. It’s just telling you how a lot of men think. It’s ok for you to love yourself, but for someone to go out expecting people to do the same doesn’t work like that. Besides losing the weight have you actually done more to put yourself in a position to meet a man? Or do you intend on having a career? That you’re not going to be a wife, SAHM, clean, etc. If so that’s going to make it harder to meet someone. Not impossible, just harder cause a lot of men want that. I’m not trying to shit on you or be mean. It’s just how a lot of men think. I wasn’t trying to be harsh, but honest. Which is hard to do cause women say they want honesty but when they’re given honesty most of them can’t handle it.

[Asker]

Hey there’s women that can handle honesty okay? I never understand why men say women can’t handle honesty. That’s bullshit!

[Opinion Owner]

Yes there’s some. But most can’t. Including you. Instead of being inquisitive as to how can I change my situation you went off on a tangent. You could have asked the men how do I change my situation. You can’t really ask women because a lot of women will tell you girl you’re perfect. You’re gorgeous. Don’t change for him. If he can’t handle you or take you as you are he’s a weak man. Trust me men have no problem being honest w out being harsh. But to you it seems harsh cause no one has ever really been honest w you. Trust me a lot of men would offer a lot advice if women would just listen.

[Asker]

Women so listen! You men are too harsh! That the problem! Don’t tell us to listen!

[Opinion Owner]

lol no we’re harsh to you cause women talk to each other differently then how we men talk to each other. For some reason women seem to think they have the monopoly on feelings as how men are supposed to talk, to react and how to feel especially toward women because most women are softer then men.

[Asker]

I’m DONE

[ohsheeT]

Well i new if I read far enough I would find the problem. You say. I like but still
Well I would date you but I'm not holding my butt still for anyone

Im sure there's many guys that want to date you but the they read your post

* I like butt still
you ever seen a guy squeezing his butt cheek tight together and try to run * and run fast.

Well im not sure why they are not asking you
Maybe get out more and be seen talk to people on line

[Anonymous]

First of all, what does you studying to be a neuroscientist have to do with any of this? Do you think men will be impressed with that? If so, you're wrong. At the end of the day men want a woman who will be a good mother to their children. How will you being a neuroscientist accomplish that? If anything, it might get in the way of it.

No, men are not intimidated by you because you're tall. Sorry.

The reason men are not chasing you is the same reason you have been rejecting them. You're "plus size" just like them. Is this not obvious to you?

[Asker]

So men don’t care for intelligent women? I’m studying to be a neuroscientist? Why wouldn’t a man be impressed by it? I do want to be a living wife and mother one day. You men are too blunt for us women

[Asker]

So you’re saying I’m no a hypocrite to reject plus size men because I’m plus size and I should only date my own league?

[slatyb]

You can date whoever you please. So can the men you find attractive.

[Opinion Owner]

@Asker Like so many women today, you fail to understand what men need from and are attracted to in a woman. Since the dawn of time, a woman has needed a man to protect and provide for her and her offspring, and a man has needed a woman who can be a good mother to his children. That hasn't changed, because it's biological. What men and women are attracted to today in the opposite sex are directly tied to those things. Women need a provider; men don't. In fact, being a neuroscientist might actually stand in the way of your ability to give a good man what he needs (if your career stands in the way of you being a good mother). If you want to impress a man, show him you can give him what he needs, not what a woman needs from a man.

[HighValue]

Guys are NOT intimidated by you. That is just something low quality, undesirable women tell themselves when no good men are interested.

Tall on women = less attractive. Fat = Greatly unattractive. Also, your job or degree means nothing to men.

[Asker]

Wow….. really

[Asker]

So 5’11 is unattractive for a woman?

[slatyb]

It doesn't matter if you are a billionaire with a Ph. D. Most men are not attracted to heavy women. I'm sorry but that's the truth. "Most are chubby, short or even fat". At 5-11 and 230, you have a BMI of 32.1. You are obese, but are rejecting men who are "fat". If you want to attract tall fit men, you'll have to get in shape yourself.

[Asker]

I know I’m fat. Why do people get offended when I refuse to date a chubby/fat man? I’m allowed to have preferences. My friend dates fit guys and she’s slender and fit.

[slatyb]

You are entitled to your preferences. Men are entitled to theirs.

[Anonymous]

In addition to being physically undesirable to most men, we can all see from your responses you are combative with anything anyone says to you.

You were pretty detailed and asked for answers, and people are giving them to you, and from what I can see most of them are correct, but your immediate response is to reject what they say and fight them on the issue, and try to disparage them. No guy wants that, even from the tiniest, prettiest women.

[Staximus]

Well you're at least 50 pounds overweight and probably don't communicate effectively if you're actually autistic, so work on that

[Asker]

Okay that’s taking it too far. Everyone things autistic people are horrible at communicating and no wonder us autistics are single. Autism ruined my life.

[Staximus]

It doesn't have to ruin your life, you just need to learn how to deal with it

[Asker]

Im trying. My peers have given me a really hard time about my behaviors and even some relatives think I’m spoiled by daddy too much. Wrong because he disciplines me like me neurotypical sibling and was hard on my and pushed me to be independent. My cousin said I’m too spoiled and everyone talks to me like I’m a baby and coddles be but she refuses too and I need someone like her in my life to toughen me up and will call me out like an adult if a fuck up.

[Anonymous]

You won't understand anything while listening to what the blue anons have to say here. Those losers wouldn't know a uternus from a unicycle.

[jahaims]

5'11 230 is fat. You weigh the same as me and I am 6'4 male.

[Asker]

And? So you’re slimmer than me

[Pohjolan]

Maybe don't be fat if you don't want to date fat people?

[Asker]

Wow……that was harsh. If his personality wins me over then it would not matter. It’s always the fit and slim woman that get fit or cute men.

[Pohjolan]

It would matter less if you would be less picky yes.
Generally speaking one should be able to live up to their own standards where preferences of both genders align.

[Asker]

I don’t have to date fat men just because I’m fat and a big girl.

[Pohjolan]

True. However fit men also don't have to date fat and big girls.
Do you have something to compensate for it?

[Asker]

Yeah you’re right. You make a good point

[qwerty2469]

All I have to do to answer your question is copy and paste what you wrote. Everything you wrote is why guys dont like you.

[Asker]

Excuse you? I’m very likable and very professional! Okay not always but come in!

[es20490446e]

He's incel.

[qwerty2469]

Very likeable... but asked a question about why people dont like you, didn't like the answer.

[qwerty2469]

@hes incel. Married thrice. Have 11 kids. I've had sex at least 8 times a week for 23 years.

[Anonymous]

Taller women are worshipped all over the world. Wake up

[Asker]

No they’re not. Men especially tall don’t like them

[Opinion Owner]

They are. Look at all the beautiful women in the world. Literally not a single one is short

[Anonymous]

Yoh are obese

[Asker]

I am not obese. I am tall

[Opinion Owner]

For a 5 ft 11 in (180 cm) woman, a weight of 220 lbs (99.8 kg) falls into the obesity category, with a Body Mass Index (BMI) of 30 or greater. A healthy weight range for this height is typically between 136 and 178 lbs (61.7 and 80.7 kg).