Are men who are genuine, real?

Question

I know not all men are the same but every single man I’ve ever met has treated me badly in a different way and lied to me.

WeezertheTeazer · Accepted Answer

As a Man Old Enough to be Your Father, I can tell You that I do not envy your generation coming up in the world in highschool right now. Mobile social media via smartphones ( which I didn't have in my highschool years 2003-2007) has made everyone of every age group believe that the extreme is normal and that the normal is extreme. Teenage Boys often lie to Teenage Girls to sound more impressive than what they are because they are struggling with self value and self confidence and it is a hard time for them too. Most of the time it is NOT done out of malice but as a tool to gain confidence with the opposite sex. Wide spread hyper intense smartphone pornography, being scolded by radical feminist women in schools who do not want equality but conquest over the male sex, being demonized for existing if he is a white male of any age ( I'm still effected and frustrated by this one), and for the entire social structure to be pitted against him as an adversary most young teen boys are just trying to get a leg up anyway they can in order to survive psychologically.

When it comes to you, You'll have PLENTY of time to think about Young Men later on in life, Trust Me!! The pressure to get into romantic relationships in highschool is a massive load of garbage sold to us within American Culture. I have family within the United Kingdom and Germany and many of my cousins overseas didn't lock down a long term relationship until they were old enough to drink at the Pubs which is 18 over there. Two of my British Male Cousins didn't even have their first kiss in highschool and they are both happily married to two beautiful wives now.

If You really want to start a romantic relationship now just have a zero game playing mentality and tell the boys what you like and don't like right from the beginning. Since You personally don't like liers, tell them that lying is one of Your dead stop personal boundaries before the relationship even starts so he has no excuse later on. My personal advice would be that 18-22 would be the perfect time to focus on a romantic relationship but I'm not old enough of a Man in order to forget what it was like being in my mind teens and the iron will of being a 15 year old.

Be Smart and Be Safe, hopefully you will absorb some information from a Man who is old enough to be your Father but not the same Man under the same roof that You can have arguments with.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Well this just mean you are only picking the same types of guys

Because all men are different in many ways

You have to learn about you and why you are picking the same type of guy.

Something to look at are your parents still together
Did you ever hear your parents fight
I only ask this because if you heard this or watched it happen

Your parents messed up because what ever happened the way your mom handled it
That was teaching you it's ok to be with guys like this

Do the guys you get together with remind you of your dad sometimes

If you ever listen to your parents fight
You don't know any better. You think that's the way life is you think all family are like this and it's just what people do
Because it happens so much you believe it so you look for guys like that

Well im here to tell you it's not true that is not how life is
Life is love and communicating the right way not yelling screaming arguing

So now you have to be honest with yourself , think back about everything that has happened in your life , because the answer will be there

Learn this now because when you turn 18. And you move out you're going to realize you don't know anything about life, because it's not the way that you think it is, you will have to rebuild yourself all over and find out the truth, what is real what is fake. how to be.

AvaRay · Accepted Answer

Not all men r the same..

Genuine men exist, but they r rare like diamonds in a world full of stones..

A real man is someone who respects, communicates honestly, n stands by his values even when it’s inconvenient..

He doesn’t manipulate, gaslight, or use charm to exploit trust..

It’s not about perfection, it’s about consistency, integrity, n the courage to love n treat others with dignity..

The key is knowing that being genuine isn’t a common trait, so recognizing n valuing it when u find it is everything..

Genie23 · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry to hear that. I've had similar experiences for quite a while but there are genuinely good guys out there. I know some. Sadly, most people aren't genuinely nice especially not the one who say "I'm genuine. I'm nice." So, you got to be very careful before you place your trust in someone. Observe them. Their behaviour, how they talk, how they treat you especially when you're going through something. Take your time before you open up so you won't get disappointed again.

DishLady · Answer

Yeah but they’re usually shot down enough times by age 35 that they build up a cavalier bravado to soldier through most social interactions (usually with sarcastic humor no one can take seriously).

Fireguy17 · Answer

Unfortunately there are so many males that are like that, they will do or say anything to get what they want and move on.
For them the thrill is in the chase and the conquering.
They are out there, however they might not be the pretty boys, gym rats, outgoing, smooth talkers that many women tend to prefer.
They just go about their business, leading a standard life, go to work, not flashy, not seeking attention so they kind of go unnoticed.
That is why you have to get to know them to find out what they are like.
We have all seen the hot chick with a very average looking guy, now you know why.
They know what they have, and appreciate what they have.

MrChinaski · Answer

Yes, I am real.

People hold different goals than you do and some of them are willing to lie and manipulate to achieve that.

People may have the same goals that you have but currently lack the skills to build an honest relationship that could make you both happy.

People have disordered upbringings and childhood trauma that make it hard for them to engage fully and openly.

Even well-adjusted, moral people that share your goals may be scared in relationships.

The list goes on. And there is nothing on this list specific to men.

Know well what you need. Open your heart, but maintain the safeguards you need while you need them. One day good things will flow to you.

RxR0954 · Answer

personally i have never dated any genuine men before, i only know them as friends. And yes i did date my friends they turned out to be horrible dipshits.

There are great men out there tho, if we’re talking about friendships. How people present themselves could be different based off the people they interact with.

Purpleronnie · Answer

All men are different and in different ways. I’m sorry for the men who treated you so poorly but at least now you may be better at identifying the men that aren’t genuine and that just ‘act’ like you want.

Something that seems to good to be true often is exactly that.

jshm2 · Answer

Wel... maybe you have a shit taste in men.

One of my friends buys sports cars... and crashes them within the year.

He refuses to believe he is a shit driver, and always blames the car, the roads, and "other drivers".

You can only blame "others" three times, in my opinion. After that, you are the common denominator.

Steelcore5280 · Answer

You're 15 and in your teenage years, which is a time that guys your age tend to be weird, have little life experience, and are still basically developing into who they will be later on in a few years. Dating, in my own opinion, should be the least of your worries.

Focus on other stuff that interests you and continue to improve your own life and situation for later on down the road. Use this time wisely.

RingOfFire · Answer

Yes, there are good men and bad ones. At your age you still have a lot to learn about how to tell the difference. You will learn more about how to pick out the good ones from the bad ones as you get older. In the meantime the best advice I can give you is to be very careful about giving your feelings away until you have known someone for a long time. You need to protect yourself from getting hurt. Always get to know well them before you trust them.

Alex-Snow · Answer

That sucks that u have not been treated well. Not all guys are like that. Maybe find ones that are a bit more shy and not stuck up on themselves. I was recently a teenager (I just turned 20) and sometimes teen years can be tough with friends and relationships. Hang in there... there are some good guys out there!

dragoblack · Answer

Yep, but not at your age. Hormones running wild and confusion on sexuality & interests, tends to overshadow any sort of romantic interest or emotional intelligence.. or lack there of, tend to be the way of teens... except for asexual-spectrum people, who have little to no interest in lust, but will focus more on romance and understanding it.

Nikki1989 · Answer

They are rarer now than ever before, but they are out there.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

I feel like we need some context here. You sound like a bitter old woman with a long and chequered dating history but I see you're just15. It seems like the only men you should be interacting with are your Dad and schoolteachers.

Spencer10 · Answer

Respectfully you are 15... you have yet to really interact with men. Give those boys a few more years then ask the same question.

Natasha1995 · Answer

I have a lovely husband and some great friends. You'll just have to keep on looking.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes, but there are those who pretend in order to manipulate. I am not a fan of <BLEEP> testing in a relationship, but it can be necessary beforehand.

RavVid · Answer

You want to find a lazy guy. I'm lazy and lying is far too much work from my viewpoint.

insatiable_curiosity · Answer

Yes. Don’t let bad experiences with a few individuals make you believe that others are similar.

RHK36 · Answer

How many men could you possibly have met outside of your own family at 15. Grow up first before acting like you're grown.

Anonymous · Answer

define "treating you badly" are men not becoming simps anymore and that is a sign of "mistreatment"?

class_reductionist · Answer

I think you should be spending less time here and more time on your school work and deciding what to do with your life (maybe learn physics and figure out how to study in China)

Anonymous · Answer

That's like saying, are oranges that are orange, orange?

zagor · Answer

If you are 15 you are probably not dealing with particularly mature "men".

janemarie15 · Answer

Not at all. That's why a lot of men are cheating! HAHA

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Yeah unfortunately you're going to experience a lot of that in your life

AviatorTom · Answer

Yes we are👍

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Nooo they are just myths and legends

Anonymous · Answer

Define genuine?

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Have you lied to them too?

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Not every man is a soulless pr*ck.

Anonymous · Answer

We are rare, but we are real.

Slave_submissive · Answer

No, we are all liars

Anonymous · Answer

God loves you.

bunniesrcute · Answer

you’re 15, go study

Iron_Man · Answer

I am

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