Is this a red flag?

[rosewood]

Hi guys! A man I'm dating for 5 months who is a commercial pilot flew me to meet his daughter and mother on the airline he works for. During the trip I remember thanking him for dinners and making me comfortable. When we got back, he said he wanted to tell me something. He pointed out that I never thanked him for paying for the flight. I felt so ashamed because I didn't think I missed thanking him for anything. I apologized but I guess I wasn't sure if he got points to pay for the flight. It just feels unsettling.. Thoughts? Men, would you say anything if this was your situation?

[InknKink]

Hard situation to gauge.

On the one hand, I always appreciate appreciation. It's notable when it happens organically and is authentic.

On the other hand, I don't do things for others with expectations of receiving anything in return. That takes away from the act of giving.

One the other hand, if I did something extravagant, like paying for a vacation, and felt it wasn't at all appreciated, I would likely feel slighted.

That's more hands than I posses, which is why I said it's a hard situation to gauge.

Who did what, for what reason, and received what in return. I cannot gauge and it's a bit of an unknown. Maybe he's a bit of a douche, giving gifts with strings attached. Or maybe you really were unappreciative in the moment. Or maybe signals got crossed.

You'll have the be the judge of what really went down and whether or not you were a gracious recipient of an extravagant gift. In any case, no, I'd have not mentioned anything to you if it was my situation.

[rosewood]

Much thanks!