What's a boundary you've had to learn to set that you didn't even know you needed?

[HawkPerception]

[Summeroflove]

Well lots. As little common sense as many people have. I used to be surprised when I had to tell people to stop doing something like… Calling me at 3:30 AM just to talk when I have to go to work the next day and it isn’t a emergency. If someone’s dying on their death bed and it’s my only chance to see them alive…. Call me. If you’re stuck in a ditch on the interstate. Call me…. But don’t call me because you had a bad dream and can’t sleep.

Having to let people know that…. I can’t do everything for you. I have a life. And when everyone’s pulling me 50 different directions all getting mad when I can’t do something for them. I can be doing something important and some people think you must drop everything to help them move.

Boundaries with strangers…. If you don’t know me like that. Like…. There are things close friends and family can say or do. Like run up to me and give me a hug. But if I don’t know you super well…. Please. With all due respect.

[Staximus]

I used to just help anybody who needed it. When I started getting older, I realized that I'm too available and people will use me to solve or fix their problems instead of doing it themselves.

[DishLady]

A few people rubbed me the wrong way this year and I realized the lesson to be learned was that I don’t like folks who waste my time.


I’d accept poor behavior from them just bc they claimed to enjoy my company but then ended up being toxic or wasting my time.


So there are folks who will always be at arms length (or further) moving forward, even if they were closer to me in the past… and there are folks to cut out of one’s life to make room for better.

[HawkPerception]

Yeah I've been hearing the stories as you've shared them on GaG, one by one 😂 You sure are a social one though. I don't go out and social anywhere near as often as you. My life is dull in comparison.

[DishLady]

It’s not bc I go out. My work and philanthropy are v social, so I’m bound to “crack a few eggs” here and there.

[HawkPerception]

and socialize*** (correcting my typo)

And fair enough. You still socialize more because of your work and philanthropy though 😂

[DishLady]

It’s funny it registers as socializing to most people but it’s just work for me. I like peace and quiet, 1-on-1 much better.

[Chazmatazz269]

I need time to myself to recharge my social battery. I’m deeply introverted and people wear me out. Some people more than others and groups of people are very draining. If my girlfriend is very needy, i drain quickly.
I didn’t know that about myself until i was in my late twenties to early thirties.

[Rei13]

Not to help everyone, it’s okay to say no

[RandomGirl42]

When I first started on G@G I told myself I would accept every follow request and deal with each one on an individual basis. Now I just won't accept any follows from a certain geographic location due to unpleasant experience.

[HawkPerception]

I'm curious what that geographic location is now 😂 Is it India or something?

[RandomGirl42]

In your DM 😊

[Unap0logetic_]

I used to try to understand people’s behavior and perspectives when they would send weird messages or say weird things. I always assumed I was taking things out of context. (Or that they’re joking) However, now, I randomly block them. 😂

[whiskeyontherocks]

The people that only call when they need something
I just ghost them at this point after 3 times with out any other interactions

[ABC1x1x]

She can't ask me what I do all night, because im a serial killer and I dont want her to go to jail because of my hobby.

[BarryLiverstone]

Limiting my alcohol consumption.

[luvstoned4him]

learning to say No and put myself first