How much of attraction is simply good timing?

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Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

I’d say it’s majority about timing.

You could meet someone who is objectively perfect for you but if ;

Fresh out of a breakup
One wants relative freedom whilst the other wants to settle down
One is stressed and the other relaxed
One is emotionally shutdown and the other energized and ready
One is Distracted by life , career , another focus and the other where they want to be

Then it likely won’t work without change

Timing is not everything but at the core , too large a factor to overlook

Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

I would put timing at 85%

Honestly timing is crucial and critical
It can make and break a relationship

End of the day everyone is a stranger if it wasn’t for a chance meeting based on timing

And timing decides if both people are available

Timing decides what their mental state is at the time of meeting

It’s highly important important to land on good timing

But you still have work to do to ensure total attraction hence the other 15%

DishLady · Answer

Hmm. For me less than 10%. Attraction is what it is. Self control is about timing.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I don't know about that. My last girlfriend got to me just after I'd been at least slightly attracted to someone else whom at the time, was already spoken for but, I didn't yet know that. When I first heard of her, she was arguing with me!! Then a fight ensued and, before long, we were lovers.
My previous serious love was a fluke, too. She came into the bar where I'd been playing with a band that I'd never met before that night and had another girl with her and I was much more attracted to the other girl but I ended up mostly talking to my future girlfriend instead of the other girl. I left about an hour later and we figured we'd never see each other again. A week or two later, I was dropping off my application at a store downtown, about 20 miles from where I live, and some girl standing at the door waiting for a bus said, "IT'S YOU!" I had NO IDEA who that was but I figured, she wanted to talk to me so, I rushed in, handed over my app and rushed back out to talk with her and it turned out to be the girl I talked with at that bar!! Point being, I was actually more interested in her girlfriend and COULD'VE ended up with her!!
Anyway, even though we hit it off quite well and spent the next 10 years together, she started pulling away from me after just 4 years and by the end of the 10, had already been cheating on me for at least a year!! The other girl wouldn't have been any better because she turned out to be a lesbian who was trying to get into my girl's pants!! part of the reason we talked so much that first night was because she DIDN'T want to be romantically involved with the lesbian so, it wasn't so much that she was interested in me as it was that I was kind of the guy that kept the lesbian away from her. You could say I was cock-blocking the lesbian!!
My 2nd girlfriend I'd already known for well over a year, she was my guitarist's girlfriend and they'd just gotten married in July (at my insistence!!) and, about 3 weeks later, he left her over a VERY stupid argument they had and I ended up staying with her for a couple weeks after she broke her foot because she was alone and afraid of the crutches and, by the 3rd week, we became lovers for a short while.

Noredcarpet · Answer

I don't understand the connection actually of these to me different things but that could be because I'm stupid or something, lol. What eveer. Anyhow I think we all have different kinds of chemistry, attraction and it is something nobody can help or maybe even understand at the present time. What we can help is how we chose to act on it and depending how we are doing about everything in life right or wrong is too how far we let and/or take that someone else in, let in, effects us.

The right timing for two people to meet sounds wonderful of cource. One could say I felt the timing was right with my exes and partner too when we met and fell in love, but then it was no good timing afterwards at lets say so and so years later, and had we mer then instead of before the timing wouldn't be right, the changes, negative differences about us would be visible.

Hagar88 · Answer

Timing is something women fool themselves with

queenofcardio · Answer

Maybe 50%.  I always analyze why I meet people at a particular time..

MissSunshine2 · Answer

attraction is complex. My advice to you is not to analyse the why’s and how’s and just enjoy being with whomever you’re seeing.

unsteadydreadfeeling · Answer

is can be times base

MereAnarchy · Answer

A lot.

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