Girls, what living situation is worse: A man in his 30’s living with his parents or at a Motel 6?

[Anonymous]

Living with parents is worse

Living at Motel 6 is worse

They’re both equally bad

[Anonymous]

what's worse than dating a 40 year old guy who is financially stable, charming, owns a business but is emotionally immature, entitled, can never admit it when he is wrong and is SINGLE FOR A REASON.

trust me, if a man is still single over the age of 35, there is a good chance he is single for a reason.

Good, high quality guys tend to be taken by 35. Don't shop for leftovers.

[Asker]

You’re insanely delusional and out of touch with what modern dating has become. There’s so many men who are 30+ who have never even been on a date or had their first kiss. The changes to the dating world from social media and dating apps has made so many more guys become adult virgins. These good high quality guys you describe are the top 10% of men that 80% of women want, while these “single for a reason” guys are normal aside from not being in the top 10% category, so they’re invisible to women like you.

[shoeboxcerealcard]

@asker The issue is people don't know how to spot what they want BEFORE it becomes what they want. They want a finished, ready made person that is exactly fixed for them. That doesn't exist. Relationships are built not found. Why? Because people are built not ready made.
Furthermore, people don't even know what they should want. Some people you want aren't shit. At some point you realize the cool kids are the losers and the losers are the cool kids.

People who think they aren't in the top 10% would do a lot better if they would lift themselves up. The only category you need is looks. Go to gym and anyone can get that. That will get you enough interest to get into a relationship at some point.

[Asker]

@shoeboxcerealcard you’re pathetic and part of the problem. While you do acknowledge that 80% of women only want the top 10% of men, you’re idiotic by saying “just join the top 10%” like its that easy. Reality check for you: it’s not. And saying that you can get in the top 10% just by going to the gym is completely wrong, there are men who did exactly that and still get no attention from women whatsoever. These men are called gymcels, which are men who despite being very committed to a gym routine, were still widely rejected and ignored by women. The top 10% category isn’t just looks, it’s also financial standing and social status. It isn’t solely about looks, so you don’t even know what being a top 10% man actually requires. In reality, women are at fault for this, if they made their standards more realistic and gave the other 90% of men a fair chance, the dating world would improve exponentially. But they won’t do that because dating a man who isn’t in the top 10% means she’s “settling.” Women need to acknowledge the other 90% of men instead of telling them to just join the top 10% to fit their delusional standards.

[shoeboxcerealcard]

@asker Calm down and act like a grown man please. You're ignorant. I never said that makes them in the top 10%. Really there is no top 10% in a subjective world. It's not about money, looks, or status. It's about being high value. Value is measured by the psychological effect you have on a person. Looks is just the most innate, practical way to attract others. The gym doesn't work for some men because they don't look good. You have to build the RIGHT body and physical display. You wouldn't want a gym girl who looks like a body builder would you?

And you can't find someone being online all day. You have to get out into the world. If you barely meet people... Well there you go.

Women are NOT the issue. Nature is nature. Men have been able to be ignorant about how to attract a woman for so long that they don't know how. Women at large know how to attract men.

Settling would fix the issue but it would also be FAKE. Is that what men really want? If so then AI is here.

[Asker]

I’m not ignorant, you’re just a retard. You literally said “the only category they need is looks” to join the top 10% so you just blatantly lied and denied.

[Asker]

@shoeboxcerealcard you’re only fooling yourself by saying it isn’t about looks money and status to be in the top 10% the psychological effect you describe comes from a man being in a good place with looks money and status. A 90% man doesn’t generate that psychological effect you describe from lacking those things. And actually, the gym doesn’t work for some men because of their genetic predisposition that makes them physically unattractive and no gym routine can change that, so it becomes polishing a turd for these men. You also can find someone being online all day, last time I checked you had to be online to use dating apps and 75% of couples come from the apps these days. Women only have to look physically attractive to attract men, women demand that men be physically attractive as just an entry level requirement in addition to their other insane and delusional requirements to attract them. Leave it to women to call a relationship with a man not in the top 10% as settling. It isn’t even settling, your standards are just too delusional that you all lack the self awareness to see that being with a man outside of the top 10% doesn’t fit the description of settling.

[Opinion Owner]

@Asker
Most men do date. Only you don't

Would you date an ugly fat woman without a job and has no friends? NO.

[Asker]

Most men don’t date in 2026 you’re just too oblivious to realize that. As I already said, you’re so out of touch you can’t realize that men don’t have the same experience in the dating world as women do, and that most men don’t date because of what social media and dating apps has turned the world into. Most men can’t even get dates despite a ton of effort on their part, meanwhile the ugly fat woman who’s jobless and has no friends still gets tons of offers from men, I’ve seen that myself in person. The sooner you recognize how oblivious you are, the better.

[Opinion Owner]

@Asker

Most of the men I know from my job HAVE WIVES.

You aren't married cuz you are an ugly jobless broke man who won't go for women just as ugly fat and broke as you

[Asker]

Oh yeah here we go, let me just reference the small little bubble I live in for my day to day life at work as the indicator for how the dating world as a whole operates 🤣 You truly are one dumb delusional b*tch lol. Maybe if you looked beyond your little bubble, you could see reality for what it actually is for most men. Also ironic that you jump to that conclusion about me without even seeing a pic of me, or knowing my income, projecting much? And actually, I’m single because women don’t like inexperienced men, when a man gets past a certain age without any dating or relationship experience. No women want him, not even the fat ugly ones you describe.

[Opinion Owner]

@Asker

Most men with jobs are dating

Not broke, jobless, socially awkward, unattractive men with no friends

You're the equivalent of an obese woman complaining why most fat women can't get a date.

[Asker]

@dumbdelusionalb*tch

Most men with jobs still can’t get dates because most women don’t think their jobs are good enough for her standards. I’ve also been working my entire adult life and has it allowed me to be dating? No. You’re just a retard who’s stereotyping dateless men when in reality, dateless men are normal and the dating world has just changed so much that most (employed) men are shut out from dating completely. I don’t fit any of the descriptions you’re stereotyping and yet I’m dateless because women don’t like inexperienced men as I already said. You’re also too out of touch and delusional to realize that in 2026, most fat women can get dates very easily thanks to dating apps…

[Opinion Owner]

@Asker

you are NOT most men.

MOST MEN HAVE JOBS.

Go get a fucking job if you want a date...

if you can't even feed your self as a grown ass man, the least thing you should worry about his a fucking date.

[Opinion Owner]

@Asker

Asking a woman to accept your unemployed ass is like asking why you wouldn't want to date a 300 pound obese woman.

plus, if you are in your 30s and never had a career, never went on a date, its a sure fire sign that you probably are unattractive, socially awkward and likely have no friends.

Getting a date takes social skills. The type of guy who likes to go out every weekend, Not some dude who can't talk to women at all and locks himself in his mother's basement every night.

[Asker]

@Dumbdelusionalb*tch

I literally told you that I do have a job and have been working my whole life, are you really that dense and so much of a retard that you are unable to grasp any of the times I have made this clear?

[Asker]

@Dumbdelusionalb*tch

Well considering I’m not unemployed, I’m not asking a woman to accept me as that you fucktard. You just keep repeating the same talking points because you’re grasping at straws.

Once again you are a delusional and out of touch moron, modern dating has made a lot of men in their 30s become dateless and it has nothing to do with their physical appearance, social skills, and social circle. I do work, have been on a date before, and I also do have friends and go out or am working most weekends. You’re just a moronic C U N T who doesn’t know how to do anything but stereotype. Maybe you should listen to the backgrounds of men like me instead of immediately generalizing.

[Opinion Owner]

@Asker

ok. so you think you have a job then that means you are a winner?

You have NO SOCIAL SKILLS, NO FRIENDS, LOOK LIKE SHIT, HAVE NO HOBBIES, NEVER SOCIALIZE, NO MONEY and yet you think women should be attracted to you?

if you want to know why women don't want you... this is why...

Instead of demanding that women must love your ugly, broke loser ass with no friends... WORK ON YOURSELF.

[Opinion Owner]

@Asker

I'm willing to bet you can't remember the last time you ever went to a goddam party

[Asker]

@Dumbdelusionalb*tch

How retarded and dense are you really? Are you just so smooth brained that you’re unable to read and comprehend? I literally told you in my last reply that I do in fact have friends and socialize regularly, where along the way in reading that did you get lost. You’re continuing to make false claims and that shows you’re grasping at straws. You don’t know what I look like, I never implied that I have no hobbies when in fact I do, and I work so obviously I have money. Once again moron, women don’t want me because women are turned off by men who lack dating experience.

[Asker]

@Dumbdelusionalb*tch

I was at a party this past New Year’s Eve. Guess you lose that bet, stupid C U N T!

[Noredcarpet]

It depend on the parents but if ok parents then at the parents. Who knows he couid live with them to help them out? I was once having a similar living arrangement to help someone out but would never tell anyone about it.

[PeachyPie93]

Motel is worse, cuz that is living out of a suitcase and he doesn't have any support..

[Asker]

But wouldn’t a guy relying on support from his parents when he’s in his 30’s would be bad too? At least if he’s at a motel, he’s paying his own way independently from his parents.

[PeachyPie93]

Sure but struggling is struggling..
At least with support from his parents at least he is probably a happy person to be around and if things go bad he won't end up homeless..

[douride2]

Both of those situations are pretty sad. One isn't any better then the other. By the time I was in my 30s my house was almost paid off.

[Asker]

You’re 48, which means you were in your 30’s in the early 2000’s when the housing market collapsed and into the 2010’s when economic conditions were different. Its a known fact that housing prices have leapfrogged ahead of people’s incomes, but people like you are just so out of touch to realize that everyone else didn’t have it as easy as you when it comes to affording housing.

[Nikki1989]

A man in his 30s who is living with his parents.

[MissSunshine2]

Neither one of them are bad, nowadays.

[queenofcardio]

Living at Motel 6 is worse..

[Asker]

I’m guessing you wouldn’t date a 32 year old guy who still lives with his parents either.

[nastyb]

@Asker

very hard to find a 32 yr old who still lives with parents tbh.

[Asker]

No it isn’t, are you really that oblivious to current economic conditions and housing prices versus income levels?

[Asker]

@nastyb

[nastyb]

@Asker

taking a look at your terrible attitude and emotionally immaturity, its easy to understand why you are still single at your age.

[Asker]

No, I’m still single at this age because women won’t date inexperienced men regardless if he’s excelling in other aspects of life. You should know this, women are very turned off by inexperienced men.

[nastyb]

@Asker

women don't have a reason to date you...

[Asker]

Women won’t date me because I’m inexperienced. Don’t play dumb, you know that’s a big part of it.

[nastyb]

@Asker

you're inexperienced cuz you're as desirable as a 500 pound woman

[Asker]

@nastyb

500 pound women easily get 500 matches on dating apps you moron. I’m inexperienced because I can’t break out of this cycle due to not already having experience in the first place.

[Zionne]

what? 6 years old? alone?

[loveyouoak]

Living at Motel 6 is worse