How can a 20-year-old woman realistically find a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

[Friendlybro79]

School, work, through friends, coffee shops, dating sites, church, the gym, flirt a little to help give a guy an indicator lol.

It's very different for your age group than it was for me. I notice many people your age lack social skills (not all) and can't get their heads out of their phones.

How are your social skills? Are you really shy? If yes dating sites might make this an easier start.

Even though I'm a man, I can tell you these things will accidentally attract people to you whether you're a man or a woman.

Those things for me are making eye contact with people, smiling, and small talk with people that seem open to it.

I think things are getting so bad that my small talk has been taken as flirting.

Coffee shops for me seem like a hotbed for young people, especially local independent spots. I sit down and work out of coffee shops sometimes and make small talk with people that seem personable and open to it.

Many young people are personable and approachable. Speaking for young men, because I was one, it's hard for us because we're nervous about it, don't know what to say, and no one gave us a book about how to meet a girl or find a girlfriend lol.

My recommendation would be go to a coffee shop for a few hours with a girl friend and hang out. If you see a cute guy sitting by himself, strike up a conversation lol. I usually start with hello and a smile.

I don't even try and for some reason I accidentally find myself in conversation with strangers in places like this just cause I'm friendly and will engage. Good luck.

[OneViewpoint]

Get out there and meet people. Learn to discriminate between the little boys and the young men. But it's gonna be very dependent upon where you live. Your options are gonna be severely limited in some small town in a rural area. Your ability to meet people goes up substantially in areas with larger populations.

Are you in school / university? That's the absolute easiest place to meet other young singles. But those are gonna be dead broke students trying to figure out life like you, LOL. But that's what our 18-25 years are all about.

[Simslover92]

If you're at the university, it is quite easy. Join a club, gym, library, student center, etc.

Even if you're not, you're 20. Many men are looking for women around your age. If you can't seem to find them irl for whatever reason, dating apps are another option though I do not recommend them especially for someone your age.

When I was your age, I had quite a few suitors to choose from irl. But I was too stuck on the bad boy who didn't want to commit to me. Whatever you do don't go after the bad boy types.

But you should be fine if you just go out and socialize. Join a club like I said before or gym or the library.

I met my ex-boyfriend at the university library. While we didn't get together in college, we did end up together later on.

So yeah. You have so many options especially at 20.

[DishLady]

FIND? Sweetie at that age boys tend to fling themselves at you even if you're a plain sort of girl as I have always been. The difference between 20yo women NOW and from my generation is that girls now are just too argumentative and high maintenance in a fake way that turns guys off and sends them running for the hills.

[Jammannn]

It is beyond easy for a 20yo who is even below average girl to find a boyfriend. Every man from 18-666 is pursuing you.

An app will net you 99+ options in a day or so. Most women just pursue the same bad boy/hot guy which is a guy who has so many options because he is the top 5-10%.

[RavVid]

Well your body is at peak attractiveness at 20 and at 20 you have not had time to develop personality traits that repel men

So I don't seen why there should be any difficulty. What problems are you experiencing?

[Asker]

They don’t want anything serious

[Asker]

Just seem like they want a ho

[RavVid]

Ah now I understand! Back in the 1950s sex mostly waited till marriage and couples married very quickly compared to now. There might have only been six months of courtship and not more than a year till sex was sanctified by marriage.

Divorce rates have destroyed that. Men are unwilling to marry when most likely their wife will initiate no fault divorce. Added to which most girls are willing to have one night stands, friends with benefits's etc etc.

Sex has always been the motivation for men to enter into relationships. Marriage was quite fine too when women stuck to the deal... but now they don't. Now men want to get sex more cheaply i. e from a ho.

But when it comes to long term we don't want no ho.

On your side are you willing to do death do us part, in sickness and in health? What level of seriousness is your goal?

[Asker]

Seriousness is to have a serious relationship and build something

[Asker]

On your side are you willing to do death do us part, in sickness and in health? Yes

[RiseofArtemis]

Then those guys already threw themselves away as not good partners. Do not accept Fuckboys. They don't want a relationship. Take the quiet one who reads books instead.

[RavVid]

Well you need someone equally serious then. I tend to think after the 20's people are not so willing.

You just have more confidence in the 20's. After a couple of failed relationships you aren't so confident.

[CherryLove007]

By in large at your age men just want a bro.

[RavVid]

@CherryLove007 No, ho's are still good because we aren't looking to marry etc.

[CherryLove007]

@RavVid this is about her journey. That is my point she is wanting better than a fukboy

[Anonymous]

Some women maybe just aren't putting themselves out there on dating apps, 😕 or staying at home and rarely going out to connect with friends, to be visible out there to potential single men "oh look at that hot chick out with her friends going bowling or at the mall or ". Blah 😄😅😝

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Realistically and statistically, I strongly assume she will find one in social spaces such as :

• Work
• School
• In her network of friends
• Group hobbies
• Dating apps/sites
• Online communities

[slatyb]

Join activities that attract young men -- maybe outdoor activities, co-rec sports, games (chess, board games) if you can get into them. But anything that allows you to meet people will help, because the people you meet will know other people.

[Lauren-green]

Don't - you will find a boyfriend so easily, don't rush it, enjoy being single and spending time on yourself. You will miss that independence and opportunity one day

[Kingofkings1992]

What do you mean how? All she has to do is literally exist, and she can find herself a boyfriend with the snap of two fingers. Don't be as fat as a whale, and take care of your physical appearance to some degree. Males actually have to put in work to find a girlfriend. Quit pretending like you don't have countless options lol

[Zack-Bann]

Wash her hair brush her teeth
Eat a salad every once in while
Go outside


And boom, endless options.

[CherryLove007]

Stop caring. Don't you know you don't need a label as a girlfriend?

[CherryLove007]

It would be wise of you to not look for someone in their 20's first of all. The reality is is that it will be difficult.

[FreyaRed]

Open your window and whistle, they come like zombies to fresh brain

[Nikki1989]

You can find them anywhere, or they find you.

[capriVib]

It's so simple, they just need to say yes to the offer that fell right into their lap.

[Jay-_-]

Talk more, be you, and trust me you'll find one. there's even some dudes that will fall for a rock with hair. You got nothing to worry bout. You're young and full of life just be you.

[Madalyn69]

You meet a dude, you both like each other, you hang, eventually dinner, eventually bed... well...

[ThaCuriousGuy007]

easy she just needs to hit up on an older guy like me

[exitseven]

it is not rocket science. find some friends, meet new people , be friendly ,

[glennos89]

20 year old woman can find a relationship everywhere. shouldn't be that hard for them

[majd90000]

Do more research and follow both your heart and your mind.

[samael_kmarty]

Approach a guy, ask for help.
And maybe talk a little.
Have a laugh.
Possibly share numbers.

[samael_kmarty]

If you are shy or scared. Try to find a group which you're interested in.
If that doesn't work for you.
Text me, I can show some more things you can try.
Also please try not to be mean if you encounter someone childish or not your type. Just slowly move away

[Tomislav7]

you're 20 and female lol. Those are ur best years

[Asker]

Not my best years

[Tomislav7]

Your 20s just began. If u want a boyfriend u can get 1. Trust I've been around plenty of women that dated married and birthed in their 20s. Be concerned if your 30s

[Zionne]

it's your peak girl... you can do whatever you wantt

[Anonymous]

Become a good woman. She doesn't want to do that, she going to fail regardless of what she does.

[Asker]

Who is she?

[Opinion Owner]

The woman in question.

[dragoblack]

Treat guys as people, be straightforward & honest about your intentions, give compliments, get to know who he is as a person, talk about interest.

[Staximus]

Go some place where lots of your type of guys hang out and start talking to one

[Godihateyou]

She's way too old for that. If you aren't married by 17 I got bad news for you

[Anonymous]

If she's hot - Easy.

If not - Very difficult.

[jshm2]

Properly, I suppose.

[LiamJHayden]

Library, museum, cultural events.

[Ivyravegirl]

Tinder or HUD app are good options

[jazzy34]

Anywhere.

[Anonymous]

College

[Anonymous]

Try dating sites