I recently got asked on a date from a guy whose on the same university course as me. I said yes and he told me it be a double date with some friends of his, that I also know from uni and that we were going to this really classy restaurant and bar in London.
I got all my hair, nails, lashes dress sorted for the occasion and it wasn't cheap. I had to pay for my train journey up to London and when I got to the meeting point everyday was smartly dressed and we are all getting along fine. Maria and Luke were the other couple on the date with us. Maria is beautiful and I know a lot of guys want to date her at my uni so luke seemed really smitten to be out with her as did my date...
I kept seeing him stairing at her when we were walking up to the restaurant and not listening to a word I was saying.
Once we got in and were sat down we, were placed in this round booth table area. I was already very annoyed and upset after figuring out he was just using me to get to Maria and then he started shuffling closer towards her in the booth and leaving me in the corner by myself. I could see Maria and Luke looked visibly uncomfortable by his actions too and I just got up and said i was leaving. I apologised to luke and Maria and said I hoped they had a lovely night and them seemed even more uncomfortable after that and apologised to me also.
My date didn't even seem to care so before I left I ordered a bottle of wine at the bar in his name and took it with me on the way home.
I tried to play it off like I didn't care as I hate being seen as a victim and like someone actually got to me.
Maria text me later that night to check i was okay and got home safe. I just said yes and she apologised once again. I said it wasn't her fault and but I was over it, whilst crying in bed.
I don't go on many dates especially ones that involve making that kind of effort and it really hurt being made to feel second best and just a pawn in someone else's game.
I got all my hair, nails, lashes dress sorted for the occasion and it wasn't cheap. I had to pay for my train journey up to London and when I got to the meeting point everyday was smartly dressed and we are all getting along fine. Maria and Luke were the other couple on the date with us. Maria is beautiful and I know a lot of guys want to date her at my uni so luke seemed really smitten to be out with her as did my date...
I kept seeing him stairing at her when we were walking up to the restaurant and not listening to a word I was saying.
Once we got in and were sat down we, were placed in this round booth table area. I was already very annoyed and upset after figuring out he was just using me to get to Maria and then he started shuffling closer towards her in the booth and leaving me in the corner by myself. I could see Maria and Luke looked visibly uncomfortable by his actions too and I just got up and said i was leaving. I apologised to luke and Maria and said I hoped they had a lovely night and them seemed even more uncomfortable after that and apologised to me also.
My date didn't even seem to care so before I left I ordered a bottle of wine at the bar in his name and took it with me on the way home.
I tried to play it off like I didn't care as I hate being seen as a victim and like someone actually got to me.
Maria text me later that night to check i was okay and got home safe. I just said yes and she apologised once again. I said it wasn't her fault and but I was over it, whilst crying in bed.
I don't go on many dates especially ones that involve making that kind of effort and it really hurt being made to feel second best and just a pawn in someone else's game.
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The guy who I went on the date with apparently wants me to pay him back for the bottle of wine I took because it was very expensive but I've said so was time so its my compensation. Maria and Luke said they'd be willing to set me up with another one of there friends but I said I didn't feel up to it. I dont want to be a pity party if im honest
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As soon as I read your date kept looking at Maria I immediately hoped you left that event right then and there. I was so glad to read that you did at the end. You handled that really well tbh; you apologized for leaving early and left quietly. Your date was an a**hole to say the least, but on the bright side he showed his intentions right from the start, so now you won't waste your time on that guy. It was nice of Maria to check on you as well. Keep your head up and best of luck for your future dates.
To answer your question- it was absolutely the right decision. Don't worry.
That guy's maneuver was a shitty move. You embezzling the wine was a shitty move. And no, they don't cancel each other out, they stay for themselves.
Well look on the bright side, you got an expensive wine out of it so not a total waste of time, the wine is worth more than him so a pretty good steal if you ask me 😂
What an absolute lowlife scumbag... Believe you me, I would have done precisely the very same thing.
Sorry that has happened to you. I think next time you should find a date somewhere else out of the circle and make your own decisions about who you want to date
you were right! be with decent people.
You were not wrong
How does Maria look