Why does finding a wife have to be so difficult?

[Anonymous]

How it feels to be looking for someone in 2026:

😞

I’m just so tired. I’ve been trying to date for a few months now and the ego and hubris of these women nowadays is very exhausting to deal with. I had only like a total of 3 dates lined up over the course of everything and all of them flaked last minute. Even just them constantly writing you off when they have no idea who you are. It doesn’t make a whole lot of sense.

I see a pretty woman with her life together and I see a potential match. It’s very simple. But it’s like they think Harry Styles , or some big celeb, influencer is going to knock on their door any day now and I mean, who am I (or is any average man) compared to that?

And tbh, I have a lot going on for myself and it’s still hard for find a good woman. Hard is actually an understatement. It feels impossible. You see so many appealing women out and about, or on the Tinder sites (and you also see how many people completely ruin themselves on there too and that is discouraging in and of itself), and when it comes to the good ones, there’s so much hope and stimulation as a man. “Look at this one.” “Gosh, she’s so pretty.” “I really hope this one matches and responds”. And time and time again it amounts to nothing.

If I’m being totally honest, I think women are really self sabotaging their chances at finding themselves a man these days. Us guys we are so ready and keen to meet up with a woman and get things going. Women just want to continue to wait for the next best thing, up to the bar that their algorithm (and the entertainment industry) has set for them, as if it is ever going to come (and for 95% of them it won’t), and you’re not it anyway.

So why bother?

[Iron_Man]

It’s extremely difficult, especially in these times

[Asker]

I have probably gotten a total of 50+ likes and matches in the span of a few months, which is probably not great but it’s way better than how I did several years ago when I tried using the sites. Some of the women were very pretty so it gives you a lot of hope that you’ll find your perfect match, but you just don’t know. It could be bots to keep you engaged. It’s just such an over complicated process now.

I think I would do better if I actually lived in a densely populated place, since people are probably filtering for people close to them (especially girls) but I will search far and wide just to have a chance to talk to someone 😞 it’s really kind of sad to think about lol

[Iron_Man]

Yes, I understand. I wish you good luck.

[Asker]

Thank you iron man

[Iron_Man]

You’re welcome

[jahaims]

If you have a hard time finding a wife you are low quality

[Anonymous]

Feminism.