Why arnt men more direct with me?

[Anonymous]

there's a lot of indirectness when it comes to men and likeness or dislikness of me. Why arnt more men direct with me? A lot of men who interact with me start off very weird and have a lot of indirectness about them where it seems like men go out their way to "grab" my attention first. Why is that? What does it mean? Any advice?

[RavVid]

It is hard to know what you mean by indirectness without some example. Most men try to avoid giving offence to a woman. We would be unlikely to say you are too fat for example.

In recent times women have been loudly complaining about men approaching them. So a lot of men have toned down direct approaches. That might be to "grab" your attention initially.

If you want the approach from the specific man to go somewhere than indicate it is welcome. If you don't want it from a specific man than just be polite and play a dead bat.

A lot of times I might just initiate interaction to test how it goes.

[Anonymous]

That's the way it is for both genders now. For women it's largely ALWAYS been that way. For men it has evolved this way because there used to be a reward for his effort. That is largely not the case anymore. Ergo it has become this long drawn out chess game between the genders to see primarily who can f*** with the others head the most. It's pretty funny when you think about it.😆

[Asker]

So he just wants to mess with my head? Does that mean he's interested or not? Im sorry. I've been out the dating game a long time

[Opinion Owner]

To answer that i'd have to know him.
He's either a good man or he's not. If he's a good man he's just protecting himself by ensuring you're not playing him. If that's the case it'll be tit for tat. He'll match your energy (or at least try to). If he's not a good man he's just gaming you (kind of like what a pot of women do today for attention from men).
He's either worth the effort to you or he's not. He's either worth the gamble to you or he's not. Welcome to today's dating. Closed mouths don't get fed. And they might not get fed open either. You never know for sure.

[Anonymous]

Is this someone you are dating or at least talking to? When I flirt or whatever with a girl, I'm unsure of how she feels about me. If I like her too much, I don't want to scare her away. If I was in a relationship, I wouldn't have any issues being direct. It's important to make sure your partner feels secure.

[Nikki1989]

Many men are weak communicators. Read the anon opinion posted on here for an example. Total jibberish.

[Anonymous]

Men have learned that being too direct often doesn’t work unless you’re super hot or obviously rich, at least when they’re dealing with women they’re not already friends with

[Opinion Owner]

And even if you are one of those things you usually end up with a superficial relationship if you just straight up ask her out without any preamble or foreplay. Though I admit there are exceptions to this.

[scott04sa22]

If someone or social media says approaching women is illegal then they're talking in fears not there actual self.

[Anonymous]

Because approaching women is illegal