Why do more men want to date me now that I’m busy and less confident?

[MissSunshine2]

I’ve never had so many guys wanting to date me and I’m the fattest I’ve ever been. Also I’m really busy with assignments. I can’t date anyone yet and there’s someone else I really like. I’m still deciding whether or not to act on it. I’ve never had this amount of luck, even when I was beautiful, years ago. Has anyone else had a similar situation? I’m not bragging, I’m just finding it weird.

[RavVid]

It may not be mere coincidence.

When you were very beautiful, it would have been hard for you not to have high ego and a correlating sense of entitlement.

I'm not meaning that in a harsh way but good looking people are given breaks that aren't given to not so good looking people. It might never be conscious to the good lookers.

High ego and entitlement, contra-indicate to good relationship qualities such as being nice and appreciating and reciprocating your partner's efforts.

People are very quick in their assessment of others so men are possibly seeing you more suitable for a relationship now than before.

Of course men like female beauty a great deal, but good relationship qualities become a more important attractant when a relationship is the objective rather than just sex.

[Med_guy1978]

I agree and maybe just many men are scared about having a hot chick on their arm?

[MissSunshine2]

Maybe they are. That’s a good point.

[Med_guy1978]

Many men can't handle the stress of other men approaching their woman provoked or not. I'm guessing so 🤷🏻

[MissSunshine2]

It’s a bit wussy, really.

[Med_guy1978]

Men are always going to take and make opportunities, it's down to the girl about how it goes. Some men will get angry one way or another and some men will intentionally provoke a situation.

[RavVid]

@Med_guy1978 I would more feel proud of having a hot chick hanging off my arm. It is pretty good having other guys asking you where did you find her and telling you that you are doing well.

[Med_guy1978]

I agree with you and think the same but I've known men to think differently. I have a cousin who dated many pretty girls and when he finally settled down he married an average girl. He had an inferiority complex, I guess he thought she'd cheat on him but he was doing that behind her back. I guess that's why some Muslim countries make their women cover up so other men won't look at them?

[AgentG111]

If you are less confident and they see it then it's like a chess move of able to get to the queen via a rouge or night

[Med_guy1978]

Yeah strange, clearly there's something in the equation that is drawing them in? 🤔

[Paige2006]

I don't think men care if a girl is confident or not... only that she is cute.