Why do more men want to date me now that I’m busy and less confident?

[MissSunshine2]

I’ve never had so many guys wanting to date me and I’m the fattest I’ve ever been. Also I’m really busy with assignments. I can’t date anyone yet and there’s someone else I really like. I’m still deciding whether or not to act on it. I’ve never had this amount of luck, even when I was beautiful, years ago. Has anyone else had a similar situation? I’m not bragging, I’m just finding it weird.

[RavVid]

It may not be mere coincidence.

When you were very beautiful, it would have been hard for you not to have high ego and a correlating sense of entitlement.

I'm not meaning that in a harsh way but good looking people are given breaks that aren't given to not so good looking people. It might never be conscious to the good lookers.

High ego and entitlement, contra-indicate to good relationship qualities such as being nice and appreciating and reciprocating your partner's efforts.

People are very quick in their assessment of others so men are possibly seeing you more suitable for a relationship now than before.

Of course men like female beauty a great deal, but good relationship qualities become a more important attractant when a relationship is the objective rather than just sex.

[Med_guy1978]

I agree and maybe just many men are scared about having a hot chick on their arm?

[MissSunshine2]

Maybe they are. That’s a good point.

[Med_guy1978]

Many men can't handle the stress of other men approaching their woman provoked or not. I'm guessing so 🤷🏻

[MissSunshine2]

It’s a bit wussy, really.

[Med_guy1978]

Men are always going to take and make opportunities, it's down to the girl about how it goes. Some men will get angry one way or another and some men will intentionally provoke a situation.

[RavVid]

@Med_guy1978 I would more feel proud of having a hot chick hanging off my arm. It is pretty good having other guys asking you where did you find her and telling you that you are doing well.

[Med_guy1978]

I agree with you and think the same but I've known men to think differently. I have a cousin who dated many pretty girls and when he finally settled down he married an average girl. He had an inferiority complex, I guess he thought she'd cheat on him but he was doing that behind her back. I guess that's why some Muslim countries make their women cover up so other men won't look at them?

[RavVid]

@Med_guy1978 If a person cheats they probably think their partner will do the same.

It is funny about women in full muslim kit. They put a lot of effort into eye makeup and hold eye contact.

[Med_guy1978]

I agree, very often a cheater thinks that their partner will cheat but only because they do and think everyone does. That's one of the reasons one partner can be possessive of the other. Sometimes the person has had a bad experience which can cause this.
Interestingly enough in regards to the full Muslim kit, I met a western lady who worked in a Muslim girls college in S. Arabia. Only girls, including staff. She said the girls were really beautiful and sexy and wore very revealing outfits. Once they left the college they had to cover up.

[RavVid]

@Med_guy1978 That is funny too. Under the Shah, Irian/Persian were quick to get into miniskirts. I've read that they would wear head to feet coveralls on the way to a party. Saudi is pretty strict I think.

You are right that once you have been cheated you keep a watchful eye out. I do.

[Med_guy1978]

😄👍🏻 yes, you do worry once it's happened but I quickly stopped worrying. The truth eventually comes out and you learn to pick wisely 🦉

[RavVid]

@Med_guy1978 :) :)

[RavVid]

Hope I could shed some light. I think ego and entitlement caused me to intuitively realize it was a no go in the past with out consciously identifying it. It is conscious now after watching a pysch channel.

Thanks for a mho

[AgentG111]

If you are less confident and they see it then it's like a chess move of able to get to the queen via a rouge or night

[sage2021]

I've already answered this question but I will repeat my opinion again.

Some men are very attracted to over weight women. That's the kind of girl or woman that turns them on.

Haven't you ever seen an over weight women with a man before? Come on!

My two half brothers have always taken pride in their looks.
They dress very nice, they have nicely styled hair and they are built just right, but not skinny.
They both have great personalities, one was a professional comedian for 17 years.

But when I met their wives for the first time in person, I was in total shock! I thought they would marry attractive women, but that wasn't the case.

Both of their wives weren't very pretty at all and they were both way over weight.

Go figure.🤷🏼‍♀️

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 🙂🧡

[MikkiM]

I suggest to be open to your option if your plans to the one you like fails. Afterall you still dont have assurance where the one you like will pursue you or not.

[Med_guy1978]

Yeah strange, clearly there's something in the equation that is drawing them in? 🤔

[Paige2006]

I don't think men care if a girl is confident or not... only that she is cute.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Your at your fattest but your probably at you curviest too. Men lobe thick curvy women i know i do

[MikkiM]

I suggest to be open to your option if your plans to the one you like fails. Afterall you still dont have assurance where the one you like will pursue you or not.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean by still deciding?

[i_am_back]

Come to pm 😘🥰